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The Classic Pamela Positive: The Grass Is Greenest Where You Water It


“The grass is greenest where you water it. Successful couples have learned to resist the grass is greener myth – i.e. someone else will make me happy. They have learned to put their energy into making themselves and their marriage better.”

– Mitch Temple


Let’s be focused on how green we can make our grass!


Truly wouldn’t that be lovely? If we all focused on what we have — the wonderful family or our friends who are like family; the job, or the opportunity to explore something new; the husband or the opportunity to date and find the right person – what a joy-filled world we would have! And a joyful world starts with each one of our own little worlds.

So this isn’t restricted to simply appreciating your marriage. This is about any relationship or circumstance in life. If you want to be happy, appreciate the parts that are good — and invest in them.

If you want to see something to grow, water it!   Let’s look at some practical ways to do so.


Love him.  If it’s your husband, love him. Don’t focus on his faults. Well, his clothes might not match. But, he empties the dishwasher.  Let’s water that. 32px-Smiley.svg  Remember, there are millions of women… simply wanting to be married. You have a lifelong committed partner, and that is a very green blessing.

Appreciate your business partner’s strengths. If it’s your business partner, appreciate their vision even if they  miss the details. Or, appreciate their attention to detail, if they are missing part of the vision. Work with who they are, and find some quality of value. Let’s be grateful for the partners we have in life.

Love your roommate. If they don’t take out the garbage, value that they are nice companions to speak with when you get home at night, pay their rent on time, or like to water plants.


Appreciate your teenager. Maybe they aren’t so talkative right now. But they get B+ and As, are good people, and don’t get in trouble. We definitely want to put the sprinkler on that. 32px-Smiley.svg

Value your co-chair.  Maybe they’re brusque.  But they deliver value and care a lot.  Fertilize and nurture the value they are giving.  Don’t criticize what they don’t have; be grateful for the strengths they bring. Supplement them. If they are stunning roses with thorns, then plant your gentle daisies.  That’s why you are there!

Be Grateful for the Weather as it Keeps the World Going Round. It’s cold.  I know it’s Minnesota, or Hanover.  It can be brutal!  But it’s also beautiful.  Nature and greenery are gorgeous…droughts are not.  In colder climates, strong, tightknit communities are the norm.  Families bond together.  It’s green in the land, and in your heart.

So dear Leaders… Water It… Wherever You Are!

Mitch Temple serves as the director over marriage programs at Focus on the Family in Colorado Springs, Colorado. He represents Focus at national events, seminars, media interviews and radio programs.  He has served for 23 years as a pulpit and counseling pastor, specializing in crisis, business and marriage- and family-related issues. He is a published author in various professional journals, and co-author of four marriage books such as The Marriage Turnaround.  His website Mitch Temple Online offers individuals, companies, and churches information on services, articles by Temple, and contributions by many members.  Mitch has been married to Rhonda for 30 years, have 3 grown children and one grand baby.

Bio sources: Focus on the Family and Mitch Temple Online; Quote source: Ten Secrets to a Successful Marriage

The Classic Pamela Positive: A Happy Woman…or a Cheerful Woman

“A happy woman is one who has no
cares at all; a cheerful woman is one who
has cares but doesn’t let them get her down.”

Beverly Sills

Operatic Soprano

We all go through troubles. That doesn’t mean it wrecks our day. It doesn’t color every moment!  Beverly Sills, one of our most prolific singers in the world, maintained a positive attitude dispite the challenges.

closeup of orange petaled flower

Be cheery and filled with good wishes for all, including yourself.

The world is so tough, but you can be a flower spreading light and joy. Let your cheer spread….the world needs you.

No matter how tough Beverly Sills’s life was, she continued to deliver cheer. She was one of our most prolific singers, and she just sang with cheer and excellence again and again.

We all can use some cheer. Start with you. See the good, emphasize the good and we go forward on that plane of cheer. No matter the challenges, cheer will buy you higher.

Beverly Sills was a world-class musician and vocal artist. She supported the arts and helped bring some of the musical institutions back to financial viability, such as City Opera. It faced extreme financial troubles and was the hardest hit during the AIDS crisis. They lost dozens of valuable conductors, musicians, singers and operations people. They were hit hard financially, and heart-wise.

Beverly Sils

But Beverly Sills used her influence, financial power, personality and knowledge of music to turn around their future. It looked hopeless – and she made it full of hope! She brought cheer back through her cheery personality and expectation of good.

sunset over the horizon

The sun still shines, even when covered by a cloud. It’s still there. So is your happiness. So is your joy. Sometimes it seems covered a bit, and then, we rediscover it in a more resplendent, beautiful way.

I’m Going Forward with Cheerfulness for You and Me,

Beverly Sills was a singer and opera star. She was born Belle Miriam Silverman on May 25, 1929, in Brooklyn, New York. A gifted soprano, Sills was one of America’s most famous opera performers. At the age of three, she won a radio contest and soon began singing on the radio regularly as Bubbles Silverman. Sills studied opera with a voice coach as a child, and made her operatic debut in 1947 at the Philadelphia Civic Opera. After years of trying, Beverly Sills achieved her dream of singing with the New York City Opera in 1955. She played the role of Rosalinde in Die Fledermaus, earning strong reviews. After taking some time away from the stage to handle family matters, she returned stronger than ever in the 1966 New York City Opera production of Handel’s Julius Caesar.

During her long career, Beverly Sills received many honors, including the Presidential Medal of Freedom in 1980. She has written books about her life, including 1987’s Beverly: An Autobiography. She was married to journalist Peter B. Greenough from 1956 until his death in 2006. The couple had two children together. In her retirement, Beverly Sills continued a life of charitable work, notably as a longtime chairwoman of the board of trustees of the March of Dimes.

Bio Source: Wikipedia  Fig¹: Judith Grossman on Unsplush  Fig²: Claude-Pascal Perna on flickr


“Be Grateful for Nothing.” – Marcus Rashford

“Be grateful for nothing.”

        – Marcus Rashford

Professional Football Player

Be grateful for nothing.  That’s what Marcus, a successful soccer player said!  What could that mean?  

Well, Marcus grew up with nothing…. so he is grateful when he has nothing!  His family focused on friendships and time shared together. So having nothing — meaning material possessions — was ok with him.   

Sports and collaboration!  

Mealtimes and conversations with family and friends… 

Music, joy and celebration!  

What Marcus Rashford taught us was to cherish life through the lens of people and also experiences.  So many people today relate to the fact that they don’t want things but they want experiences.  That’s wonderful.  What are you focusing on today?  Are you hoping to get a home, a second home, a third home?  Do you want a boat?  Do you want that shining motorcycle?  That’s okay  – but you can also think about all the wonderful things you have available to yourself which are free:  Family, friends, sports, music, experiences.  That’s the richness of life.

Thank You for Living and Giving,

Pamela Hawley's Signature with an Orange Heart

Marcus Rashford is a professional footballer from England. In his first-team debut in the UEFA Europa League, the young footballer scored a goal, followed by another one in his first ‘Premier League’ appearance against ‘Arsenal’ in February 2016. In his debut in the ‘Manchester Derby match,’ the ‘League Cup,’ and the ‘UEFA Champions League he continued his streak of scoring goals as well.

Marcus, the “wonder kid” of the English football league, has been a star since an early age in hitting his opponents with strong shots. He was just five when he began playing the sport, and by the time his age was seven, he was already working his way into the prestigious club ‘Manchester United’ academy system.

He has played for ‘Under-16,’ ‘Under-18,’ ‘Under-20,’ and ‘Under-21’ before beginning his senior career as a forward for ‘Manchester United.’ In May 2016, Marcus also became England’s youngest player to score as a senior in his first international match. In almost all of his matches, his mind-blowing results helped him get picked for the ‘UEFA Euro 2016.’

Source:  SportMob – Marcus Rashford Biography  Fig¹.  Photo from http://www.gaiam.com  Fig².  Photo from sports.ndtv.com/football  Fig³.  Photo from http://www.historic-uk.com Fig.⁴  wwws.orlandosentinel.com


The Classic Pamela Positive: “…The Things People Really Want Are Love, Connection, And Purpose.” – Mallika Chopra

“…The things people really want are love, connection, and purpose.”

Mallika Chopra

Media Entrepreneur, Public Speaker

and Published Author

That is indeed true wealth. It’s our family, our faith in Life, and our driving motivation — what makes us want to be here on earth.

First, love means we are all created to do something for others.   Whether it is our daughter, our dog, or the doorman — everyone needs kindness and love.

Then, we must dedicate ourselves to something positive and contributive, where our soul makes a difference.  That can be an organization, a person, or simply our commitment to a way of being.

Love and Purpose.  A fine way to live, and, enough to work on for every moment!

Mallika Chopra is a mom, media entrepreneur, public speaker and published author.

She is the author of Just Breathe: Meditation, Mindfulness, Movement and More and Just Feel: How to be Stronger, Healthier, Happier and More – accessible, fun, how-to books filled with full-color illustrations written for 8-12 year olds. Mallika wrote these book to empower kids to learn how to deal with stress, sleep better, build self-confidence, understand social and emotional intelligence, and manage the anxiety so many of them face today.

In Living With Intent: My Somewhat Messy Journey to Purpose, Peace and Joy, Mallika shares insights she gained while seeking meaning and balance as a mom and entrepreneur who felt she was overwhelmed by work, family and too many responsibilities. Her previous books, 100 Promises to My Baby and 100 Questions from My Child, were gift books that have been translated and sold in over a dozen countries.

Mallika has taught meditation to thousands of people. She enjoys speaking to audiences around the world, and has shared her passion about intention, meditation, and living a life of purpose at conferences, companies, and festivals. Just some highlights include TedXSan Diego and TedXBerkeley, Ideacity, Business Innovation Factory, Wisdom 2.0, Women’s Conferences around the United States, and the Parliament of World Religions. She has shared ideas on balance and creativity at companies such as Coca Cola, Disney, LinkedIn and Google. She travels internationally for workshops on meditation and balance, as well speaks regularly at the Chopra Center for Wellbeing.

Mallika was the founder of Intent and co-founder of The Chopra Well with her brother, Gotham Chopra, and father, Deepak Chopra. She now blogs on www.intentblog.com. Her writing and work have been featured in many publications including Time.com, Self Magazine, Women’s Health, Prevention Magazine, OWN, Glamour, Oprah.com, Mind Body Green, the LA Times, and Huffington Post. She is featured in Time Magazine’s Special Issue on Mindfulness, and for Just Breathe did a fun segment for Good Morning America and many other national shows.

Mallika has a BA from Brown University, an MBA from Kellogg Business School, and an MA in Psychology and Education with a mind body spirit concentration at Teachers College, Columbia University.

Bio source: Mallika Chopra’s Personal Website; Images: Fig1 Photo by John-Mark Smith on Unsplash, Fig2 Photo by International Fund for Animal Welfare on Pexels, Bio Photo on Mallika Chopra.com


The Classic Pamela Positive: “The Soul Is The Core Of Your Being.” – Deepak Chopra

“The soul is the core of your being. Your body is in your soul. Your mind is in your soul. The whole universe is in your soul, and your soul is part of the universal consciousness.”

Deepak Chopra

Author and Lecturer

We get caught up in Silicon Valley. Caught up in the highrises of Hong Kong, our most expensive real estate in the world. Caught up in fashion, fancy dinners and high living.


But Deepak Chopra tells us we need to be caught up in the soul. In fact, everything relates to it. Our goodness, ethics, love, ability to help, care and do is essential to our soul. It’s essential that this expression of soul also helps others in the most meaningful and permanent way possible.

We can’t escape matters of the heart, and we can’t escape matters of the soul. It’s what populates our true being, and the true being of the world. 


Be Invested In Soul Living,

Deepak Chopra is an India-born, American author and lecturer, focusing on spirituality and mind-body health. He began his career as a doctor, before moving into alternative medicine. He focuses on meditation and spiritual practices, and the effect of one’s thoughts and emotions on one’s physical health. He is a prominent figure in the New Age movement, and the author of more than 65 books, including 19 New York Times bestsellers. He has sold more than 20 million copies. His books include The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success, Buddha: A Story of Enlightenment, and Jesus: A Story of Enlightenment. Deepak and his wife, Rita, have been married for over 30 years, and they have two children.

Bio Source: Wikipedia, Deepak Chopra Official Website, https://www.deepakchopra.com/metahuman, OPRAH.COM, Published on May 15, 2012, “What’s the Secret to a Happy Life? Oprah Talks to Deepak Chopra”, http://www.oprah.com/spirit/Oprahs-Trip-to-India-Oprahs-Interview-with-Deepak-Chopra/4#ixzz1yHRQDozu ; Images: Fig¹. Photo by JD Mason on Unsplash  Fig². Photo by Brett Zeck on Unsplash, Bio Photo on Wikimedia


The Classic Pamela Positive: “You’ll See Spirit Operating Everywhere” – Dan Millman

“Like the flower, trusting Spirit working according to a higher will beyond the reach of your mind, you’ll see Spirit operating everywhere, in everyone and everything… To trust the process of your life. The more you trust Spirit in this way, the more you will work with it directly as a living force in your life… unfolding, like a flower, toward the Light.” 

Dan Millman

American Author and Lecturer

Purple Flowers in Bloom

Yes, as hard as life gets… I do think that there is a Spirit, Nature, a Power, aiding you right now! It is not up to you alone.

You are not alone.

So, it is time to Trust this Spirit, this governing power. Then you need to know it, believe it. Get that down deep in your heart!

The flower is tightly closed right now. It’s just a bud. That’s you. Soon, it will burst forth with its glory, spreading its petals and beauty. It will open.

So will you. You are that bud, and you will be that flower. Keep trusting that Spirit Power to come into your aid to help you be the best you can be!

I’m Watching For a Spirit Power In Your Life to Help You Open,

Dan Millman began his career in the athletic arena. He competed in gymnastics and trampoline in high school and college, winning international acclaim. He became gymnastics director at Stanford University in 1968, and in 1972 moved to Oberlin College. He began writing in the 1980s, on diverse topics including fitness and philosophy. His writing and motivational speaking tend to focus on achieving one’s potential. In 2006, his book Way of the Peaceful Warrior was adapted into a film, Peaceful Warrior. He is married to Joy Millman, and they have three daughters and two grandchildren.

Bio Source: Wikipedia  Fig¹.  Photo by Simon Matzinger on Pexels, Fig2. Photo by RODNAE Productions from Pexels. Fig3. Photo by Daria Shevtsova from Pexels, Fig4. Photo by catrina farrell on Unsplash