The Pamela Positive: How To Attain The Big H” (Happiness) Once Again

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Our culture is getting better. We are increasingly aware that money, homes, cars, jewelry, multiple choices of cereal and designer goods do not bring us happiness.  Or, it might be fleeting but not lasting happiness.

 

So how do we create and maintain “The Big H”?

Elizabeth Barrett Browning’s wise counsel was in one word: friendship.

It is our friendships, our sincere connections to people, which bring meaning, joy, and yes, “The Big H,” into our lives.

Said Mrs. Browning, the poet, to Charles Kingsley, the writer; “What is the secret of your happiness? Tell me, that I may enjoy the same.” Thinking a moment, the kindly old man replied, “I have a friend.”

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Elizabeth Barrett Browning was a popular poet of the Victorian era.  Her best-known poem opens “How Do I Love Thee, Let Me Count the Ways,” written to her husband, the poet Robert Browning.  Charles Kingsley was a clergyman, professor and writer, author of the children’s classic, The Water-Babies.

How Do You De-stress?

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To answer the question “How do you de-stress?”, I’m going to use an excerpt from my soon-to-be-published Forbes article (I’ll post the full article when it’s out). When thinking about mindfulness and de-stressing techniques, I always turn to improv (the picture above is of me and Dave Collins performing for our show “Jackson Soup”). Happy reading!

 

“In my case, I adore improv. I find it thrilling to explore different characters, and be someone I’ve never been, nor ever will be, in real life. It also increases my listening skills and allows me to connect with others on stage. This helps me be a better and diverse communicator at work, adjusting to different people’s styles. On the stage, you have to react, to make a decision. Similarly, if you want to be CEO, you’ll have to improvise and respond under pressure. Improv requires individuals to collaborate with one another, to let go of their judgment, and to become better listeners.”

When A Child Doesn’t Cry

“Within minutes of being posted by witnesses and journalists, a photograph and a video of Omran began rocketing around the world on social media. Unwittingly, Omran — like Alan Kurdi, the Syrian toddler who drowned last September and whose body washed up on a Turkish beach — is bringing new attention to the thousands upon thousands of children killed and injured during five years of war and the inability or unwillingness of global powers to stop the carnage.” ~ New York Times


…When a Child Doesn’t Cry.


That is a devastating statement.


Here is Omran, a young child who was playing.  Then the bombs came. Suddenly he is alone; he is covered in soot and blood.


His childhood just died.


Children like this don’t cry. The reason why is that no one responds.   They don’t have a loving parent or guardian.


Perhaps they were killed.
They might be missing.
We just don’t know. 


If you don’t have someone to take care of you, why cry?


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We have to stop this. Young children like Omran deserve to be loved, responded to, safe. They deserve to play. They deserve to grow up and to have a childhood.


Stop war today. You can be the critical part to do so. By donating to our partner organization Let Kids Be Kids, Inc., you can help those who have been affected by war torn areas. Be a part of the solution and Give Your 100%™.


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Nonprofits Are Messy With Joan Garry

Earlier this September, I was given an opportunity to talk with Joan Garry about the benefits of volunteering. If you find this episode helpful, insightful, or provocative, let us know by commenting below!

Enjoy!

 

 

Cherishing Live Animals

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Animal rights activists are absolutely thrilled. There’s a huge trend facing our world which is wiping out live animals in the circus. Instead of looking at animals as a novelty or as a fun event for the family, countries and city councils across the world are realizing that it’s not healthy. These animals should either be in the wild or in their natural habitat. The Devlin city councils and Ireland feel so strongly about this that they ban live animals and many future circuses.

 

Animals have just as much of spirit and heart as humans do. We can’t just put them in cages, and justify that they are being cared for and fed. They are separated from their families and they aren’t living the life they were meant to by being out in the natural. They might be tame but they certainly are not living.

 

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Support an animal right today. If you believe in human rights, then you believe in animal rights. Here’s a way you can give to help an animal today. Support our partner Osa Conservation! Focused on protecting the Osa Peninsula in Costa Rica, this organization concentrates on all aspects of this biome, from sea life to the land. Click here to learn more about them!

The Good Trade: How to Give Back When You’re Short on Cash Part II

In Part I of this series, we talked about attitude changes making meaningful phone calls are ways that simultaneously save money and give back to your community. In Part II,  we finish this series with other ideas that make you feel good without spending!

Missed Part I? Click here! 

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3. THANK YOU NOTES

While some people enjoy receiving gifts, all of us appreciate a kind word. It is one thing to say it, but it can be even more meaningful to put a note in writing. What if you made a commitment to write a thank you note to someone every week? Since the invention of stamps in 1840, this has been possible. Hallmark really innovated by coming up with the concept of greeting cards. In the early 1900s an aspiring entrepreneur, Joyce Clyde Hall, left Nebraska to sell his cards in Kansas City.  He simply had positive quotes, and put them in the cards. Soon we had cards for birthdays, anniversaries, graduations and the like.

Now you can congratulate friends on a new job, express condolences for the passing of a loved one, or simply say you are thinking of them. You can think of any positive reason you like. Handwritten letters are memorable, and heartfelt.

4. INVITE SOMEONE OVER FOR DINNER

You never know what someone might be going through – a painful divorce, struggling through college, or just having a bad day. Opening up your home will make someone feel appreciated. In addition, it costs less than going out. The leftovers from this dinner can be packaged up for the homeless. That’s double giving!

5. SET ASIDE MONEY FROM A DAILY RITUAL TO DONATE

Giving doesn’t have to mean a life full of sacrifices. We can still buy an In-N-Out burger or get our nails done. But instead of buying several Starbuck’s coffees every week, you can drink one less.  Donate the money you saved: Even $5 can make a difference in someone’s life. In the U.S. it can buy a small lunch, but abroad it can be used to build a library or to buy mosquito nets to prevent malaria. In these cases, your money is scaling to help many people — your dollar goes even further. 
Difficult financial times does not mean your giving must shut down. Instead, it allows us to examine how our time and money are spent. Do you have time to write that kind note? Have a free moment to make a delicious home cooked meal? There are so many ways to give back that won’t hurt your wallet and will enrich your life.  It takes a different view of wealth. This kind of wealth consists of kindness, patience, and selflessness.   

There’s not a moment to wait – let’s get started giving of our abundance!

 

Click here for the full article on The Good Trade’s website!

The Pamela Positive: “Oh Still, Small Voice of Calm” – John Greenleaf Whittier

“Oh Still, Small Voice of Calm

Breathe through the pulses of our desire

Thy coolness and Thy balm;

Let sense be dumb, let flesh retire;

Speak through the earthquake, wind, and fire,

O still, small voice of calm!

– John Greenleaf Whittier

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John Greenleaf Whittier (1807 – 1892) was an influential American Quaker poet and abolitionist. Highly regarded in his lifetime and after, he is remembered for his patriotic poems and a number of poems turned into hymns. Whittier grew up on a poor farm with a large extended family and little formal education. However, he was heavily influenced by Quaker ideologies of humanitarianism, compassion, and social responsibility, introduced to him by his father. He remained an outspoken proponent of abolitionism as a founding member of the American Anti-Slavery Society. Many of his early poems dealt with the cause of slavery.  After the passage of the Thirteenth Amendment, Whittier turned to other forms of poetry; his most famous include Snow-Bound and Dear Lord and Father of Mankind Starting around 1850, he also wrote folksy New England ballads and narrative poems, sentimental country idylls, and simple religious poems that appealed strongly to his readers.