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The Classic Pamela Positive: “Enjoy When You Can, Endure When You Must”


“Enjoy when you can, and endure when you must.” 


— Johann Wolfgang von Goethe


Two grand lessons today: Enjoy and Persevere.





There is so much to enjoy… and so important that we focus on it.  It can be easy to be distracted into something that isn’t working, when we really should enjoy and relish what is before us.  It need not be a big event. It can be a small gratitude.






Then, too, there are times to patiently persevere.  Not all is easy, peaceful; at times we must stay the course, step by step, like a diligent marathon runner, committed to her course, unrelenting until the final finish line.  It might not be a quick race, but more a matter of a marathon.




Johann Wolfgang von Goethe (1749-1832) was a German poet, playwright, novelist, and natural philosopher, best known for his two-part poetic drama Faust, which he started around the age of twenty-three and didn’t finish till shortly before his death sixty years later. He is considered one of the greatest contributors of the German Romantic period. At the age of sixteen, in 1765, Goethe went to Leipzig University to study law as his father wished, though he also gained much recognition from the Rococo poems and lyric he wrote during this period. In 1766 he fell in love with Anne Catharina Schoenkopf (1746-1810) and wrote his joyfully exuberant collection of poems Annette.

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe now rests in the Fürstengruft or “Royal Tomb” in the “Historic Cemetery” in Wiemar where his dear friend Schiller is also laid to rest. In honour of these two famous German men of letters, a statue of Goethe and Schiller now stands at the German National Theatre in Munich. UNESCO’S “Memory of the World” list includes the handwritten works of Goethe preserved by the Goethe-Schiller-Archive.

Bio Source: The Literature Network

The Classic Pamela Positive: “What’s Important to You Is Important to Me”


Pamela’s Favorite…Pamela Positive


“What’s Important To You Is Important To Me”






This is one of my favorite statements.  It helps me understand and sincerely care about others.  When we truly listen to our family, friends, partners, team mates, improv players, then we can really hear…what’s important.


Sometimes it might be a clean kitchen.  For others, it might be taking the dog for a walk or getting the car cleaned.  Or it might be that you showed up at your daughter’s gymnastics recital. And sometimes, sitting down and listening to your boyfriend, while not multitasking and cleaning the dishes at the same time, may be the biggest sign of attention. It can even be as small as keeping your desk clean at work because you know it inspires your manager.






The point is, we all fall into habits.  These habits are what are most comfortable, and convenient, for us.  They are our priorities. But they are not necessarily important to others.  Instead, we need to take a look at what motivates others.

So even if we can live with a messy desk, if we know the manager is inspired to see an ordered workspace, then we can try to rise to that new standard.  If it bothers our companion that we’re doing something else while he’s talking about a serious issue, then we need to stop and sit down, and give our undivided attention.  If it makes a difference to our mom that we check the stove one more time before we leave the kitchen, then we make her feel cared for, and can do it again.






These are the small and important ways that we can let someone know they are important to us.

It’s the Substance of what builds or breaks down any relationship.

Many of us have felt that overwhelmingly warm feeling when someone does something for us… It specifically hits our hearts.  “Ah…how grateful I am that they took out the recycling!  I love an ordered home…” It’s something that puts you at  peace. And that positive energy allows you to give more.






“What’s Important to You is Important to Me.”

What a beautiful way to live…

The Classic Pamela Positive: “When You Learn Something From People…” – Yo-Yo Ma



“When you learn something from people or from a culture, you accept it as a gift, and it is your lifelong commitment to preserve that gift and to build on that gift.”

– Yo-Yo Ma


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Appreciate the gifts people offer you…and thank them by passing on their gift to others, whether through appreciation, gratitude, love, recognition, sincerity.  Life and music are about giving.




Yo-Yo Ma is one of the world’s most famous cellists, and has won multiple Grammy awards. Ma was born in Paris, though the family moved to New York when he was five. He comes from a musical family. His mother was a singer and his father was a violinist; his older sister is also a violinist. A child prodigy, Ma began playing the cello at age four, and performed for John F. Kennedy and Dwight Eisenhower at the age of seven. He attended Julliard at age nine, and went on to study at Harvard. He has performed with orchestras around the world, and has put out 75 albums. Ma currently plays with the Silk Road Ensemble; their goal is to bring together musicians from the countries which are historically linked by the Silk Road, an ancient trade route linking southeast Asia through the Middle East to northern Africa and the Mediterranean coast of Europe.

The Classic Pamela Positive: The New Luxury – Water


In many emerging nations, children are starving and dying due to lack of clean water.  As a developednation, it certainly doesnt seem that advanced for us to be getting water for free when there appears to be a plenitude of it.  Meanwhile, two million people in the developing world are dying every year because they cant access clean water.





Maybe we wont have water fountains in the future. Maybe that just doesnt make senseand people might be forced to buy bottled water, because it is a cherished, expensive and rare commodity. Quite soon, and even by certain nations, water already is the new diamond.  And the only challenge here is that diamonds are optional.  This high-end commodityis not something we can go without.





Its where our society is now realizing that the most expensive, prized and honored possessions in our world are things that we actually cannot possesswater must be used and reobtained and used again.  Unlike diamonds, it cant fit in our jewelry box, where we take it out whenever we so desire.  Its beauty rests in livelihood.





Further, its beauty rests in the continuation of life.

Our new luxuriesare now things that we must use to survive.  They are things that must be used frequently, and they must be sought out and obtained on a daily basis.  Our new luxury is about survival.



Women Are Breaking Ground!


I’m so thrilled that there’s new statistics out supporting the growth of women. For example, the percentage of career positions held by women in our country is now above 50%.1



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While we still have some progress to go, there are twenty-four women that are CEOs, leading Fortune 500 companies.2 Ten years ago, it was 12.3



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Let’s make sure we celebrate and continue to encourage the rise of women in our country and all across the world.

I am grateful for women, and Women rising,




1 “Employment Rates of College Graduates”, National Center for Education Statistics,  https://nces.ed.gov/fastfacts/display.asp?id=561
Warner, Judith and Corley, Danielle, “TheWomen’s Leadership Gap”, Center for American Progress, May 21 2017,https://www.americanprogress.org/issues/women/reports/2017/05/21/432758/womens-leadership-gap/
3 Wolfe, Lahle, “Women CEOs at Fortune 500 Companies”, June 30, 2018, https://www.thebalancecareers.com/a-decade-of-women-ceos-at-fortune-500-companies-3515967
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Fig. 2: Kimothy Joy  on the Bulletin

The Classic Pamela Positive: “The Greatest Mind is Always the Simplest.” – Russell Conwell

Now, the greatest mind is always the simplest.
Did you ever see a really great man?
Great in the best and truest sense?
If so, you could walk right up to him and say:
“How are you, Jim? “


-Russell Conwell, “Acres of Diamonds”


That’s right. The most amazing people are warm and accessible to all. That’s because they know everyone has a beautiful gift to give, and no one is greater. The greatest gift is being open and loving.



Russell Conwell (February 15, 1843 – December 6, 1925) was an American Baptist minister, orator, philanthropist, lawyer, and writer. He is best remembered as the founder and first president of Temple University in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania and for his inspirational lecture Acres of Diamonds. The son of Massachusetts farmers, Conwell attended Yale University and after graduating enlisted in the Union Army during the American Civil War. He was ordained as a Baptist minister in 1880, and delivered his famous speech “Acres of Diamonds” over 6,000 times around the world. The central idea of the work is that one need not look elsewhere for opportunity, achievement, or fortune – the resources to achieve all good things are present in one’s own community. Conwell’s capacity to establish Temple University and his other civic projects largely derived from the income that he earned from the speech. The published version has been regarded as a classic of New Thought literature since the 1870s.

Let Someone In

You’re probably thinking that I’m telling you to be emotionally vulnerable. That you have a wall up, and you need to let someone in.

Well, that might be true! But what we’re talking about here is letting someone in on the road.



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There are more than 31% car crashes caused by people speeding up, rushing, and trying to make a lane change or cut in front of someone when they shouldn’t.More than 31% of crashes are caused by careless or un-thoughtful, too-rushed drivers.


So let’s let someone in.






Let someone in… your lane.


If you’re from the Silicon Valley, New York, or Shanghai (which now has more than 200 million people), you might say, “I don’t have time to let someone in.”


You don’t? Then who’s going to let you in? 🙂






Well we really shouldn’t do it—let someone in in order to that someone else lets us in in the future. That’s not the purest motive.  We’re not trying here, to give something back.


We really have to have a pure heart. That means that when we’re driving, we need to be conscientious, we need to slow down, and we need to be grateful.


That means that at each leg of the drive you’re on, try to let someone in. At least, that’s my goal. Every time I get on the road from a busy Silicon Valley area, traveling from San Francisco to San Jose, or vice versa, I try to let someone in. 


I’m still not 100% perfect and I have to remind myself. So it’s important we realize that we’re all on a journey. And it’s hard, for a journey that used to be forty minutes sometimes takes an hour and forty minutes.



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But we can still let someone in.

And that means, that you may also be letting someone into your heart.

We can be kind drivers,




1 “Car Accident Statistics: The Truth Behind The Numbers”, Aceable 2018, https://www.aceable.com/safe-driving-videos/car-accident-statistics/
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