The Classic Pamela Positive: Promise Yourself – To make all your friends… (Part 3 of 10)

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Promise Yourself is a beautiful list of 10 Positives we should “Promise Ourselves.”   The piece allows us to embrace life fully by expecting the best and clearing away anything that might hold us back.    It’s healthy for our minds and hearts.

Here’s your third one, below. I hope you will practice it with me today!  Please let me know your thoughts and how it affects your day, your life, and the people around you.

Promise yourself

To make all your friends feel that there is something special in them.

 

Christian D. Larson (1874 – 1962) was a New Thought leader and teacher, as well as a prolific author of metaphysical and New Thought books. He is credited by Horatio Dresser as being a founder in the New Thought movement.  Many of Larson’s books remain in print today, nearly 100 years after they were first published, and his writings influenced notable New Thought authors and leaders, including Religious Science founder, Ernest Holmes.

Larson, of Norwegian origin, was born in Iowa and attended Iowa State College and a Unitarian theological school in Meadville, PA.  While little is known about his personal life and what led to his studies in mental science, what is known is its logical teachings appealed to Larson’s analytical mind and led him to discover that combining theology and science could provide a practical and systematic philosophy of life.  During his time he was honorary president of the International New Thought Alliance and lectured extensively during the 1920s and 1930s. He was a colleague of such notables as William Walker Atkinson, Charles Brodie Patterson, and Home of Truth founder Annie Rix Militz. He developed the Optimist Creed in use today by Optimist International, better known as the Optimist Clubs.

Bio Source: Wikipedia and Christian D. Larson Home Page

The Classic Pamela Positive: Promise Yourself – To talk health… (Part 2 of 10)

fitness-332278_640Promise Yourself, by Christian D. Larson

Promise Yourself is a beautiful list of 10 Positives we should “Promise Ourselves.”   The piece allows us to embrace life fully by expecting the best and clearing away anything that might hold us back.    It’s healthy for our minds and hearts.

Here’s your second one, below. I hope you will practice it with me today!  Please let me know your thoughts and how it affects your day, your life, and the people around you.

Promise yourself

To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person you meet.

 

Christian D. Larson (1874 – 1962) was a New Thought leader and teacher, as well as a prolific author of metaphysical and New Thought books. He is credited by Horatio Dresser as being a founder in the New Thought movement.  Many of Larson’s books remain in print today, nearly 100 years after they were first published, and his writings influenced notable New Thought authors and leaders, including Religious Science founder, Ernest Holmes.

Larson, of Norwegian origin, was born in Iowa and attended Iowa State College and a Unitarian theological school in Meadville, PA.  While little is known about his personal life and what led to his studies in mental science, what is known is its logical teachings appealed to Larson’s analytical mind and led him to discover that combining theology and science could provide a practical and systematic philosophy of life.  During his time he was honorary president of the International New Thought Alliance and lectured extensively during the 1920s and 1930s. He was a colleague of such notables as William Walker Atkinson, Charles Brodie Patterson, and Home of Truth founder Annie Rix Militz. He developed the Optimist Creed in use today by Optimist International, better known as the Optimist Clubs.

Bio Source: Wikipedia and Christian D. Larson Home Page

The Classic Pamela Positive: Promise Yourself – To be so strong… (Part 1 of 10)

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“Promise Yourself” is a beautiful list of 10 Positives we should “Promise Ourselves.”   The piece allows us to embrace life fully by expecting the best and clearing away anything that might hold us back.    It’s healthy for our minds and hearts.

Here’s your first one, below. I hope you will practice it with me today!  Please let me know your thoughts and how it affects your day, your life, and the people around you.

Promise yourself

To be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind.

 

Christian D. Larson (1874 – 1962) was a New Thought leader and teacher, as well as a prolific author of metaphysical and New Thought books. He is credited by Horatio Dresser as being a founder in the New Thought movement.  Many of Larson’s books remain in print today, nearly 100 years after they were first published, and his writings influenced notable New Thought authors and leaders, including Religious Science founder, Ernest Holmes.

Larson, of Norwegian origin, was born in Iowa and attended Iowa State College and a Unitarian theological school in Meadville, PA.  While little is known about his personal life and what led to his studies in mental science, what is known is its logical teachings appealed to Larson’s analytical mind and led him to discover that combining theology and science could provide a practical and systematic philosophy of life.  During his time he was honorary president of the International New Thought Alliance and lectured extensively during the 1920s and 1930s. He was a colleague of such notables as William Walker Atkinson, Charles Brodie Patterson, and Home of Truth founder Annie Rix Militz. He developed the Optimist Creed in use today by Optimist International, better known as the Optimist Clubs.

Bio Source: Wikipedia and Christian D. Larson Home Page

 In Order to Love, You Must First Learn

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“The greatest of human emotions is love. The most valuable of human gifts is the ability to learn. Therefore learn to love.”  – UJ Ramdas
Oh! Dear Leaders today… may we embrace this lovely admonition. Our life is a beautiful life, at home at work, in the depths of despair, in the positive celebrations. We must continue to learn, and continue to love.
I will share this story with you. Early on in my work life, I was running my second company around age 31? 32? And my heart was all in it. It was my calling; it was UniversalGiving. And had worked very hard to get it off the ground.
We were building the team, and it was a young team. Like me… so some were only a few years younger than me, or my age! What to do.
Kindness was key for me. That’s what I grew up with in my home, and I didn’t know any differently. But now, there were points of difference. People wanted things done a certain way, weren’t gracious in their conversation, or they didn’t want to work as much, but we we’re still in startup mode and needed that extra effort in the beginning (in the long-run though, I highly believe in balance!) And I cowtowed.

Because kindness ruled my day, I let that lead everything.

 

I let them do most everything they wanted, to maintain harmony.

But there wasn’t.

And I got walked on. And tremendously hurt.

And they spoke down to me. And I let it happen.
There were no boundaries.
And they lost respect for me.

And they left.

And I really, really hurt.

I was staying with my values of kindness, yet, it was a permissiveness that was not actually loving. Love can be strong, and kind, and with boundaries. So I had to learn.

This is why I highly agree with UJ Ramdas. We must love– but we must learn. I learned to love in higher, different way– one based on kindness, firmness and adherance to my values. And with that, my respect for myself — and others’ respect for me — returned. And I could rebuild the team.

If you have a challenge today, seek out what you need to learn, and how you need to love. That’s how we can be our best leadership self. Don’t wait — we start today.  (:
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UJ Ramdas brings together his passion for psychology and business to create a better world. Along with Alex Ikon, he co-created the “Five Minute Journal” with the goal to enable people to be happier in five minutes a day. With a background in behavioral science, marketing, and hypnosis he consults with hundreds of clients to bring them out of confusion into clarity. Currently based in Toronto, Canada, he is a huge fan of wilderness, eastern meditative practices, and a good cup of tea. You can visit his website by clicking here.

How Entrepreneurs Can Avoid Being Emotionally Scammed

Many entrepreneurs believe.

They have to.

At all times.

It’s how we are made up: We have a vision, and most times, others don’t believe it. They can’t see the future, and are often are afraid of it. So they say no. They say it can’t be done.

Believing is an awesome view of life.  Don’t we want to Believe?

Such as…

      Anything is Possible

                    Truth will Win

                                   The Right Plan is happening Right Now

                                                    Good is Present Everywhere… Find it, See it

These are the things I try to believe. And it can be hard when someone tries to distort it. This is where we entrepreneurs can get “emotionally scammed.”

Yet we often think of a scam regarding a business deal.

Miriam Webster’s dictionary notes a scam as a “fraudulent or deceptive act.”  We have to realize this is not just a business operation, but can come in the guise of a person. While I believe in the long-term, positive nature of folks, at times they may be misled. They might do something wrong or harmful for a temporary period. Or perhaps they behave in a way that isn’t right, isn’t ethical. It could affect your partnerships, your culture, your team, and you, in a significant way.

And yet the entrepreneur might give a second chance… Or at least this entrepreneur gives a second, third, fourth, fifth opportunity. I don’t want to give up on people – just as I wouldn’t want someone to give up on me. 

Yet this is where letting an emotional scam take place in your organization can hurt your organization. It can dent your vision (briefly for a time), or simply slow your progress. It can demoralize your team, and hurt you.
So in essence, don’t get scammed. But remember, it’s “don’t get scammed by yourself.” No one can do it to you; you are the one who continues to give that person a chance. It might be best to release them from your efforts, with the following caveat: You can believe that the person is trying their best, or that there is another right place for them.  In worst case — wish them well and believe you followed your highest sense of right.
Remember to take care of yourself and to take care of your team. Don’t get emotionally scammed.  Keep with the right vision, the right ethics and the right people, and save yourself time, heartache and cultural wear.

The Top Thing Everyone Loves

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“Smiling is Free”

Love,

   Dove

It’s one of the greatest things.

Don’t forget to do this.

Everyone loves this.

And even if they are having a really really bad day – if you smile at them — they will smile back at you, simply by reflex.

Bring some peace to someone’s troubled heart today. I am leaving work now, and with a smile.  Good night!

– Pamela
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Dove Chocolate, sold as Galaxy in other countries, is a Mars Company owned and operated brand of chocolate that is virtually in all supermarkets and convenience stores across the US. They are well known for their silky and smooth texture and are well liked. However, what makes each chocolate special is the addition of a quote inside each of their wrappers, which has attracted both praise and critique from many consumers. 
 
Dove Chocolate messages like “Believe in yourself,” and “Make the most of everyday,” and others dealing with hope, mindfulness, and inspiration, bring positivity to the life of the reader. However, some people feel that sayings like “Too much of a good thing is still wonderful,” and “Do what feels right,” are misleading and may be giving people bad advice, and have been poking fun at the wrapper messages. You can take a look at photos of their wrappers by clicking here and you can read a compilation of their messages here.

“Make a date with your favorite book tonight.” -Love, Dove

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In Silicon Valley, we are go-go-go getters. We “go -get” after our businesses, our startup company, our new deal, our new everything. We are “on it!”

And yet… while that productivity is good, leadership and kind caretaking of oneself takes time.

I’ll share. The other night I had a Duke Event (which I love) and a Stanford International Happy Hour, (which I also love). And yet, I needed to be quiet…

But my mind said…  

You should go!! You could meet more people that will help UniversalGiving! You should take this opportunity. If you don’t you will feel badly.

And part of me, did.

I wrestled.

I finally made the decision:

To go home. 

And I read. And it was so peaceful, and lifegiving and regenerating, and kind. And I was filled. And I was ready the next day…

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If you’ve been going hard, why not let yourself go home tonight. You don’t need to network, make the next deal, meet a new person. If you are supposed to meet them, they wlll come back into your life in another way, if that is the right opportunity for the both of you.

Enjoy a Peaceful Night. I’m going to church… and then, I’m going to read. 🙂

Sincerely, Pamela
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Dove Chocolate, sold as Galaxy in other countries, is a Mars Company owned and operated brand of chocolate that is virtually in all supermarkets and convenience stores across the US. They are well known for their silky and smooth texture and are well liked. However, what makes each chocolate special is the addition of a quote inside each of their wrappers, which has attracted both praise and critique from many consumers. 
 
Dove Chocolate messages like “Believe in yourself,” and “Make the most of everyday,” and others dealing with hope, mindfulness, and inspiration, bring positivity to the life of the reader. However, some people feel that sayings like “Too much of a good thing is still wonderful,” and “Do what feels right,” are misleading and may be giving people bad advice, and have been poking fun at the wrapper messages. You can take a look at photos of their wrappers by clicking here and you can read a compilation of their messages here.