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The Classic Pamela Positive: How You Can Be A Family That Gives Back, Part One

 

 

Often we think about giving in a solitary way. It’s just us giving.

We are approached by nonprofits and we give. We see a cause, and we give.

 

 

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But you can have a greater impact if you do one thing: include others. Most importantly, include your family.

 

 

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When you give solo, you are making an impact. But when you share it with others, as a lesson, an inspiration, and as a humble manifestation of good, you are helping the world. You are helping other members of your family see good taking place. Then, it can become a habit. Others will see that as a model of how one should live. They will naturally give.

 

Here’s some practical tips on how your family can give during the holidays or any time of year. Please share with us what you did!

 

1. Model Early

 

Certainly, a humble attitude regarding giving is always appreciated. When people speak about a long list of their giving, it can be about bravado.

 

With family, it’s different. Your 4-year old, 6-year-old, 18-year-old… whatever age they are… will understand it and absorb it. So begin gently sharing how you dropped off a meal for a single mom; donated clothes to the neighbor down the street; or quietly funded a scholarship. All of these actions make a difference. If your child sees this is the norm, he, she, they, or we will do it too.

 

 

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2. Come Up With Your Family Values

Have a dialogue at the family table about what’s important to your family. Is it love? Truth? Doing the right thing, being selfless, slowing down, listening, helping others…? You can decide as a family and make sure that you have that up on an inspirational white board, bulletin board, or chalk board that you can point to. You can read before you sit down for your meals. Have a vision for the type of family you want to be, serving with the world and your local community.

Next, come up with your values. You don’t need more than three. They might be Grace, telling the truth, and loving kindness.  You can always change them but it’s important to start living and practicing them. You can then talk about it at the table. What did you do today to really live these values?

 

 

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Is this philanthropy? You bet it is. The definition of philanthropy by Merriam-Webster is

“goodwill to fellow members of the human race” 

which also means loving people. Loving people is the purest form of philanthropy. It’s from the Latin philanthropia, which is defined by loving people:

Phil (Love) + Anthrōpos (human being).

 

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3. Make A Statement

Now, you’re ready to allow your young ones to make a statement. And they might not be young ones? Many of us live in larger families or blended families. Perhaps everyone gets an “allowance” to do good, not just teens.

 

 

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Everyone should set aside an allowance from your savings or be given it from their parents and talk about what they did that week at the dinner table. It’s basically a spending account, for the world. Right now, just over 60% of parents provide an allowance.1 Be a part of a movement to give your family an allowance to help the world!

 

4. Give Your Time

Perhaps one of the most precious things in our busy, Silicon Valley and global world is our time. How we spend it makes a statement. Are you volunteering? It’s great to take your time to do this with other family members.

You might see dad go to be a banker in the morning or go to work at Bapco construction on the street. But when you’re volunteering, you’re all working together, replanting the garden, or serving meals to homeless individuals. By giving back together, everyone is doing the same thing to create a greater good. And it’s been proven if your family volunteers together, “the children felt cheered up,” and they “respected their parents more.”2 Those are two great, family bonding reasons!

 

Everyone should set aside an allowance from your savings or be given it from their parents and talk about what they did that week at the dinner table. It’s basically a spending account, for the world. Right now, just over 60% of parents provide an allowance.1 Be a part of a movement to give your family an allowance to help the world!

 

 

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So get out there and volunteer and be a stronger family.

I hope these have helped you understand how to live a more impactful life and how to truly give. It’s not just about

 

 

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It’s about the

 

 

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Let’s Be Living And Giving,

Pamela

 

 

 


Citations:

1Fabbri, Briana, “Allowance in America: When, Why & How Much We Pay Our Kids”, NetCredit, published on September 11, 2013,https://www.netcredit.com/blog/allowance-in-america/

2 Littlepage, Laura, “Family Volunteering: An Exploratory Study of the Impact of Families”, Center for Urban Policy and the Environment, 2003, https://archives.iupui.edu/bitstream/handle/2450/438/31_03-C05_Family_Volunteering.pdf?sequence=1

Fig. 1: Photo by Aaron Burden on Unsplash
Fig. 2: Photo by Gustavo Alves on Unsplash
Fig. 3: Photo by Tyler Nix on Unsplash
Fig. 4: Photo by Ty Williams on Unsplash
Fig. 5: Flyer created on Canva
Fig. 6: Photo by Sharon McCutcheon on Unsplash
Fig. 7: Photo by Val Vesa on Unsplash
Fig. 8: Photo by Rawpixel on Unsplash
Fig. 9: Photo by Jon Tyson on Unsplash

The Classic Pamela Positive: How You Can Be A Family That Gives Back, Part Two

 

This is part two of our series on giving with your family. You can read part one here!

 

When you share giving with others, as a lesson, an inspiration, and as a humble manifestation of good, you are helping the world. You are helping other members of your family see good taking place.

Read on to hear more tips on how your family can give together during the holiday season. Please share with us what you did!

3. Make A Statement

Now, you’re ready to allow your young ones to make a statement. And they might not be young ones? Many of us live in larger families or blended families. Perhaps everyone gets an “allowance” to do good, not just teens.

 

 

sharon-mccutcheon-556371-unsplash (1) (1) (1).jpg

 

 

Everyone should set aside an allowance from your savings or be given it from their parents and talk about what they did that week at the dinner table. It’s basically a spending account, for the world. Right now, just over 60% of parents provide an allowance.1 Be a part of a movement to give your family an allowance to help the world!

 

4. Give Your Time

Perhaps one of the most precious things in our busy, Silicon Valley and global world is our time. How we spend it makes a statement. Are you volunteering? It’s great to take your time to do this with other family members.

You might see dad go to be a banker in the morning or go to work at Bapco construction on the street. But when you’re volunteering, you’re all working together, replanting the garden, or serving meals to homeless individuals. By giving back together, everyone is doing the same thing to create a greater good. And it’s been proven if your family volunteers together, “the children felt cheered up,” and they “respected their parents more.”2 Those are two great, family bonding reasons!

 

Everyone should set aside an allowance from your savings or be given it from their parents and talk about what they did that week at the dinner table. It’s basically a spending account, for the world. Right now, just over 60% of parents provide an allowance.1 Be a part of a movement to give your family an allowance to help the world!

 

 

val-vesa-624638-unsplash (1) (1) (1).jpg

 

 

So get out there and volunteer and be a stronger family.

I hope these have helped you understand how to live a more impactful life and how to truly give. It’s not just about

 

 

rawpixel-570908-unsplash (1) (1) (1).jpg

 

 

It’s about the

 

 

jon-tyson-762642-unsplash (1) (1) (1).jpg

 

 

Let’s Be Living And Giving,

Pamela

 

 


 

Citations:
1Fabbri, Briana, “Allowance in America: When, Why & How Much We Pay Our Kids”, NetCredit, published on September 11, 2013,https://www.netcredit.com/blog/allowance-in-america/
2 Littlepage, Laura, “Family Volunteering: An Exploratory Study of the Impact of Families”, Center for Urban Policy and the Environment, 2003, https://archives.iupui.edu/bitstream/handle/2450/438/31_03-C05_Family_Volunteering.pdf?sequence=1
Fig. 6: Photo by Sharon McCutcheon on Unsplash
Fig. 7: Photo by Val Vesa on Unsplash
Fig. 8: Photo by Rawpixel on Unsplash
Fig. 9: Photo by Jon Tyson on Unsplash

 

 

The Classic Pamela Positive: How You Can Be A Family That Gives Back, Part One

 

 

Often we think about giving in a solitary way. It’s just us giving.

We are approached by nonprofits and we give. We see a cause, and we give.

 

 

aaron-burden-211846-unsplash (1) (1) (1).jpg

 

 

But you can have a greater impact if you do one thing: include others. Most importantly, include your family.

 

 

gustavo-alves-669854-unsplash (1) (1) (1).jpg

 

 

When you give solo, you are making an impact. But when you share it with others, as a lesson, an inspiration, and as a humble manifestation of good, you are helping the world. You are helping other members of your family see good taking place. Then, it can become a habit. Others will see that as a model of how one should live. They will naturally give.

 

Here’s some practical tips on how your family can give during the holidays or any time of year. Please share with us what you did!

 

1. Model Early

 

Certainly, a humble attitude regarding giving is always appreciated. When people speak about a long list of their giving, it can be about bravado.

 

With family, it’s different. Your 4-year old, 6-year-old, 18-year-old… whatever age they are… will understand it and absorb it. So begin gently sharing how you dropped off a meal for a single mom; donated clothes to the neighbor down the street; or quietly funded a scholarship. All of these actions make a difference. If your child sees this is the norm, he, she, they, or we will do it too.

 

 

tyler-nix-504391-unsplash (1) (1) (1).jpg

 

 

2. Come Up With Your Family Values

Have a dialogue at the family table about what’s important to your family. Is it love? Truth? Doing the right thing, being selfless, slowing down, listening, helping others…? You can decide as a family and make sure that you have that up on an inspirational white board, bulletin board, or chalk board that you can point to. You can read before you sit down for your meals. Have a vision for the type of family you want to be, serving with the world and your local community.

Next, come up with your values. You don’t need more than three. They might be Grace, telling the truth, and loving kindness.  You can always change them but it’s important to start living and practicing them. You can then talk about it at the table. What did you do today to really live these values?

 

 

ty-williams-466945-unsplash (1) (1) (1).jpg

 

 

Is this philanthropy? You bet it is. The definition of philanthropy by Merriam-Webster is

“goodwill to fellow members of the human race” 

which also means loving people. Loving people is the purest form of philanthropy. It’s from the Latin philanthropia, which is defined by loving people:

Phil (Love) + Anthrōpos (human being).

 

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Thanks for staying with me on giving together and philanthropy. Stay tuned tomorrow to learn more about love and giving!

 


 

 

 

Citations:
Fig. 1: Photo by Aaron Burden on Unsplash
Fig. 2: Photo by Gustavo Alves on Unsplash
Fig. 3: Photo by Tyler Nix on Unsplash
Fig. 4: Photo by Ty Williams on Unsplash
Fig. 5: Flyer created on Canva

 

 

 

The Classic Pamela Positive: “I don’t think you ever stop giving.” —Oprah Winfrey

 

  “I don’t think you ever stop giving. I really don’t. I think it’s an on-going process. And it’s not just about being able to write a check. It’s being able to touch somebody’s life.”

—Oprah Winfrey

 

 

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That’s what we are all here to do: Touch someone’s life today.  

Stop what you are doing, look up, and care about someone today. That might be the window washer, the barista at Peet’s, your mom, or the building manager.

 

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Everyone needs care, love, and attention. Touch someone’s life, right now.

How will you do it?

Touch a Life,

Pamela​

 

 

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Oprah Gail Winfrey was born on an isolated farm in Kosciusko, Mississippi, on January 29, 1954. Winfrey’s unmarried parents separated soon after she was born and left her in the care of her maternal grandmother on the farm. The poor, urban lifestyle had its negative effect on Winfrey as a young teenager. Winfrey said her father saved her life. He was very strict and provided her with guidance, structure, rules, and books. Winfrey became an excellent student.

Winfrey became Miss Black Nashville and Miss Tennessee. The Nashville Columbia Broadcasting System affiliate offered her a job; Winfrey turned it down twice, but finally took the advice of a speech teacher, who reminded her that job offers from CBS were “the reason people go to college.” Winfrey was Nashville’s first African American female co-anchor of the evening news. Her emotional ad-lib delivery eventually got her transferred to the daytime talk show arena, and after boosting a third-rated local Chicago talk show to first place, she launched her own production company and became internationally syndicated. By the mid-1990’s, she had reinvented her show with a focus on literature, self-improvement, and spirituality. Though criticized for unleashing a confession culture, promoting controversial self-help ideas, and an emotion-centered approach, she is often praised for overcoming adversity to become a benefactor to others.

Winfrey’s The Oprah Winfrey Show was hugely successful. It was broadcasted in 145 countries and had an average of 233,000 viewers in 2016. When her show first began, her audience was 55 percent larger than that of her closest competitors. Since its creation in 2000, O, The Oprah Magazine has become one of the most successful titles of the periodical press, its print run copies exceeding 2 million.

 

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The Classic Pamela Positive: Letting It All Go, Each Day – Le Don

 

 

Mentally, I sometimes Let It All Go, Each Day. I literally picture myself moving, and it impels action! You realize as your day unfolds how many things you have which you feel iffy about, or just ok. And that’s when they go in the give away bag.

 

 

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I actually have a giveaway bag now that has its own shelf with the label “Le Don.” That’s French for “The Gift.” So almost every week, I am giving something away, which I hope will be considered a gift eagerly used and appreciated by someone else.

I have found Letting It All Go helps others, and helps my home and heart become simpler, clearer…

It’s a gift in every sense of the word.

 

 

 

The Classic Pamela Positive: What To Do When You Don’t Know What To Do Next

What To Do When You Don’t Know What To Do Next?
 
Have faith, then take another step. 

 

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That’s how life works and soon you’ll reach your destination. So start walking, believing, and doing today!
 
Love,
 
Pamela 
 
 

 


Citations:
Fig. 1: Photo by Clark Tibbs on Unsplash

The Classic Pamela Positive: “Civility Is The Behavior That Marks…Share Common, Public, and Political Space” – Daniel Mendelsohn

 

 

“Civility is the behavior that marks mutual acknowledgement that we individuals share common, public, and political space. Think about the platforms through which you interact with people all day, the media that we call social, but if anything, have enhanced our ability to be asocial.

To screen every element of society, culture and politics that doesn’t suit or flatter or soothe us; thereby, removing the necessity for civility in the first place.”

–       Daniel Mendelsohn

 

 

Graciousness, goodness, civility—all of this helps us to maintain a sense of calm and peace. Did you know anxiety is one of the most prevalent challenges we face in the U.S.? Nearly one 1/5 of our population experiences it. Yet only 1/3 try to find help.1 They are hurting… and continue to hurt. 

 

 

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Where do we think this anxiety is coming from? First, it’s coming from disconnectedness. We aren’t really getting the nurturance and love that we need from one-on-one interactions. And those interactions need to be with people we don’t know, and with people we do.

 

With people we do know, we build upon positive loving actions that make them become habit and security. With people we don’t know, it enforces the need to extend ourselves, to spread love and to give back. Both are essential.

 

 

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If we want more civility, that means that we need to slow down. If we want more civility, that means less screen time. If we want more civility, that means that we care and express our love for more people. It’s that simple. And who doesn’t want to love more? So let’s try.

 

May you live a civil day today, may you live it with care for everyone in every word that you give out, in every touch, and every comment that you make. And in every thought, so that in our minds and in our actions, civility becomes the natural way again.

 

 

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How we all long for graciousness and civility!

With Graciousness,

Pamela

 


 

 

Daniel Mendelsohn is a classist, writer, and critic. A graduate of Princeton’s graduate school, he published work on Euripidean tragedy before he went on to become a contributor to publications such as The New York TimesOutThe Nation and more. He was born in Long Island and raised in Old Bethage, New York. He received his undergraduate degree at the University of Virginia in Classics. He writes reviews on books, films, theater and television. He has won Princeton University’s James Madison Medal in 2018, American Philological Association President’s Award for service to the Classics in 2014 and the American Academy of Arts and Letters award for Prose Style in 2014. Currently, he is a professor at Bard College. He is also the director of the Robert B. Silvers Foundation, which supports writers. In his free time, Mendelsohn enjoys watching television and going to the movie theater. He has two children and four siblings, including a brother who is a film director, another brother who is a photographer and a sister who is a journalist.