Tag Archives: Love

The Classic Pamela Positive: “A Smile Is a Blessing” – Mpho Tutu

 

“A smile is a blessing…It really doesn’t take that much to live into our blessing and make the world better for each person we encounter during our day.”

 

 

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This quote is from Mpho Tutu, the daughter of Archbishop Desmond Tutu and an ordained minister herself.

 

She was quoted in the Christian Science Sentinel, in an article discussing her and her father’s new book, Made for Goodness.  She also said that they hope the book will help people to “recognize in themselves their own innate goodness.”

 

How can we each be a blessing to another person today?

 

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The Reverend Mpho A. Tutu, an Episcopal priest, is the founder and Executive Director of the Tutu Institute for Prayer & Pilgrimage.  Ms. Tutu has run ministries for children in the downtown Worcester, Massachusetts; for rape survivors in Grahamstown, SA; and for refugees from South Africa and Namibia at the Phelps Stokes Fund in New York City. She earned her MDiv from Episcopal Divinity School in Cambridge, Massachusetts and began her ordained ministry at Historic Christ Church in Alexandria, Virginia.  Ms Tutu is married to Joseph Burris; they have two daughters, Nyaniso and Onalenna. (Bio from http://www.tutuinstitute.org)

How You Can Give Back To A Youth- Without Money

 

 

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Do you know what some of the greatest needs of our youth today are? Love.

Trust.

Safety.

Kindness.

 

 

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So many of our youth need tangible, practical support.

Here are three key areas:

 

    1. Emotional Support

 

That’s having someone who’s there to listen and to support you with whatever you are feeling, or facing.

 

    2. Inspirational Support

 

This means that you are encouraging them to live their best lives and showing they can take a step forward, they can make a difference in their lives. Eventually, you want it to be not just about them, but about the future world that they’ll help create.

 

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    3. High Level Support

 

These are conversations that help youth understand how the world works and how they can impact the world. This makes them feel like their day-to-day and the world is “navigable”. How in a job they can support their future family. How they can march for freedom. How there is Temporary Assistance for Needy Families to help them get food and day-to-day support.

 

    4. High-Level Attention

 

Many kids have been neglected. They might have been left on the streets. Or they might have parents who don’t have time for them, or don’t wish to spend time.

So how is it, exactly, that you can help? With your committed, High-Level Attention. Here some of the qualities that you can embody with any youth you encounter.

 

 Be

      Nurturing.

Provide a

      friendship.

       Give them

          some love.

    Express

        compassion.

Be

      empathetic.

 

         Affirm every good decision

            and every good word they speak.

   

    Help be a model for caring relationships,

       by caring for them.

 

 

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    5. Recognize Any Accomplishment

During your time with them, you can identify their strengths and I would repeat it often. Remember, they missed out on needed, life-giving encouragement.   Everyone needs to hear that they’re good at something and often.

 

Recognize them for any accomplishment.

 

 

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Celebrate their accomplishments, and often. Bring it up again and again. You’re essentially saying:

 

I see you.

 

I see you too,

Pamela

 

 

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The Classic Pamela Positive: “There is no door that love will not open.”

“There’s no difficulty that enough love will not conquer . . . no gulf that enough love will not bridge; no wall that enough love will not throw down; how hopeless the outlook . . . how great the mistake. A sufficient realization of love will dissolve it all.”

Emmet Fox

 

I think this is beautiful and these kind of things are so important to keep emphasizing.

 

 

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Emmet Fox (1886 – 1951) was a New Thought spiritual leader, meaning that he was aligned with the philosophical movement from early 20th century USA. His words were particularly influential during the Great Depression when he would give sermons to people suffering from the economic downturn. Today, he is remembered for his strikingly beautiful phrases and his involvement with the New Thought movement.

The Classic Pamela Positive: “The Wise Shape Their Minds” – Buddha

 

“As irrigators lead water where they want, as archers make their arrows straight, as carpenters carve wood, the wise shape their minds.”

– The Buddha

 

Watch your mind. Watch what you put into it, accept into it. Cherish every thought and suggestion you allow entrance.

Your mind guides every aspect of your life.

 

 

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Before you take action, you must have first thought of the action.

So watch, care for, tend to your thoughts, as if they are as precious as gold. They are. They will determine how shining and sparkling each day is, each interaction, or how dull and buried your moments are.

 

 

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Keep them shining for all your loved ones and for the world!

With love, Pamela

The Classic Pamela Positive: “What’s Important to You Is Important to Me”

 

Pamela’s Favorite…Pamela Positive

 

“What’s Important To You Is Important To Me”

 

 

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This is one of my favorite statements.  It helps me understand and sincerely care about others.  When we truly listen to our family, friends, partners, team mates, improv players, then we can really hear…what’s important.

 

Sometimes it might be a clean kitchen.  For others, it might be taking the dog for a walk or getting the car cleaned.  Or it might be that you showed up at your daughter’s gymnastics recital. And sometimes, sitting down and listening to your boyfriend, while not multitasking and cleaning the dishes at the same time, may be the biggest sign of attention. It can even be as small as keeping your desk clean at work because you know it inspires your manager.

 

 

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The point is, we all fall into habits.  These habits are what are most comfortable, and convenient, for us.  They are our priorities. But they are not necessarily important to others.  Instead, we need to take a look at what motivates others.

So even if we can live with a messy desk, if we know the manager is inspired to see an ordered workspace, then we can try to rise to that new standard.  If it bothers our companion that we’re doing something else while he’s talking about a serious issue, then we need to stop and sit down, and give our undivided attention.  If it makes a difference to our mom that we check the stove one more time before we leave the kitchen, then we make her feel cared for, and can do it again.

 

 

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These are the small and important ways that we can let someone know they are important to us.

It’s the Substance of what builds or breaks down any relationship.

Many of us have felt that overwhelmingly warm feeling when someone does something for us… It specifically hits our hearts.  “Ah…how grateful I am that they took out the recycling!  I love an ordered home…” It’s something that puts you at  peace. And that positive energy allows you to give more.

 

 

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“What’s Important to You is Important to Me.”

What a beautiful way to live…

The Classic Pamela Positive: God Help Me To Become a Clearer More Loving Person

 

God help me to become a clearer more loving person.

To think of others more; myself less.

To listen more carefully; respond in deeper gentleness.

 

 

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To have a quiet centering of appreciation in
morning and in night.

 

To convince myself of joy in darkened dawn’s flittering might
To protect my thought as well as spiritual sight.

 

 

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To see the good, seek the good, see the good again.
To cherish all identity in my family brother friend.

 

To enrich my self’s experience in understanding God’s word.
Constantly grateful, amaze, at His beautifully created world.

 

From Pamela’s journal, 1994.

The Classic Pamela Positive: “When You Learn Something From People…” – Yo-Yo Ma

 

 

“When you learn something from people or from a culture, you accept it as a gift, and it is your lifelong commitment to preserve that gift and to build on that gift.”

– Yo-Yo Ma

 

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Appreciate the gifts people offer you…and thank them by passing on their gift to others, whether through appreciation, gratitude, love, recognition, sincerity.  Life and music are about giving.

 

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Yo-Yo Ma is one of the world’s most famous cellists, and has won multiple Grammy awards. Ma was born in Paris, though the family moved to New York when he was five. He comes from a musical family. His mother was a singer and his father was a violinist; his older sister is also a violinist. A child prodigy, Ma began playing the cello at age four, and performed for John F. Kennedy and Dwight Eisenhower at the age of seven. He attended Julliard at age nine, and went on to study at Harvard. He has performed with orchestras around the world, and has put out 75 albums. Ma currently plays with the Silk Road Ensemble; their goal is to bring together musicians from the countries which are historically linked by the Silk Road, an ancient trade route linking southeast Asia through the Middle East to northern Africa and the Mediterranean coast of Europe.