“The grass is greenest where you water it. Successful couples have learned to resist the grass is greener myth – i.e. someone else will make me happy. They have learned to put their energy into making themselves and their marriage better.”
Let’s be focused on how green we can make our grass!
Truly wouldn’t that be lovely? If we all focused on what we have — the wonderful family or our friends who are like family; the job, or the opportunity to explore something new; the husband or the opportunity to date and find the right person – what a joy-filled world we would have! And a joyful world starts with each one of our own little worlds.
So this isn’t restricted to simply appreciating your marriage. This is about any relationship or circumstance in life. If you want to be happy, appreciate the parts that are good — and invest in them.
If you want to see something to grow, water it! Let’s look at some practical ways to do so.
Love him. If it’s your husband, love him. Don’t focus on his faults. Well, his clothes might not match. But, he empties the dishwasher. Let’s water that. Remember, there are millions of women… simply wanting to be married. You have a lifelong committed partner, and that is a very green blessing.
Appreciate your business partner’s strengths. If it’s your business partner, appreciate their vision even if they miss the details. Or, appreciate their attention to detail, if they are missing part of the vision. Work with who they are, and find some quality of value. Let’s be grateful for the partners we have in life.
Love your roommate. If they don’t take out the garbage, value that they are nice companions to speak with when you get home at night, pay their rent on time, or like to water plants.
Appreciate your teenager. Maybe they aren’t so talkative right now. But they get B+ and As, are good people, and don’t get in trouble. We definitely want to put the sprinkler on that.
Value your co-chair. Maybe they’re brusque. But they deliver value and care a lot. Fertilize and nurture the value they are giving. Don’t criticize what they don’t have; be grateful for the strengths they bring. Supplement them. If they are stunning roses with thorns, then plant your gentle daisies. That’s why you are there!
Be Grateful for the Weather as it Keeps the World Going Round. It’s cold. I know it’s Minnesota, or Hanover. It can be brutal! But it’s also beautiful. Nature and greenery are gorgeous…droughts are not. In colder climates, strong, tightknit communities are the norm. Families bond together. It’s green in the land, and in your heart.
So dear Leaders… Water It… Wherever You Are!
Mitch Temple serves as the director over marriage programs at Focus on the Family in Colorado Springs, Colorado. He represents Focus at national events, seminars, media interviews and radio programs. He has served for 23 years as a pulpit and counseling pastor, specializing in crisis, business and marriage- and family-related issues. He is a published author in various professional journals, and co-author of four marriage books such as The Marriage Turnaround. His website Mitch Temple Online offers individuals, companies, and churches information on services, articles by Temple, and contributions by many members. Mitch has been married to Rhonda for 30 years, have 3 grown children and one grand baby.
Bio sources: Focus on the Family and Mitch Temple Online
Quote source: Ten Secrets to a Successful Marriage