Tag Archives: Love

The Classic Pamela Positive: “Come to the Edge”

 

 

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Come to the edge, Life said.
They said, we are afraid.
Come to the edge, Life said.
They came; Life pushed them.
And they flew!

 

Poem by Christopher Logue

 

We all have time where we feel pushed to the edge. Yet sometimes, this is part of our greatest growth! We can be thrilled to grow; thrilled to go beyond our capabilities. Something good is waiting on the other side of trying something new.So when you feel pushed beyond your familiar, take the leap, and expect to fly. With good intent and good motives, you will.

 

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I’m Flying With You,

Pamela

The Classic Pamela Positive: “Love Is, Hate Is Made”

 

Let’s really think about this quote by Rebecca Beardsly…

 

“Love IS… hate is made.”

 

 

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It tells us that love is a power which is already existing.

Hate of itself does not exist on its own. We manufacture it.

How are we living the power of Love today?

Let’s focus on this, rather than being a part of creating negative actions and reactions.

The Classic Pamela Positive: The Grass Is Greenest Where You Water It

“The grass is greenest where you water it. Successful couples have learned to resist the grass is greener myth – i.e. someone else will make me happy. They have learned to put their energy into making themselves and their marriage better.”

-Mitch Temple

 

Let’s be focused on how green we can make our grass!

 

 

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Truly wouldn’t that be lovely? If we all focused on what we have — the wonderful family or our friends who are like family; the job, or the opportunity to explore something new; the husband or the opportunity to date and find the right person – what a joy-filled world we would have! And a joyful world starts with each one of our own little worlds.

 

So this isn’t restricted to simply appreciating your marriage. This is about any relationship or circumstance in life. If you want to be happy, appreciate the parts that are good — and invest in them.

 

If you want to see something to grow, water it!   Let’s look at some practical ways to do so.

 

 

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Love him.  If it’s your husband, love him. Don’t focus on his faults. Well, his clothes might not match. But, he empties the dishwasher.  Let’s water that. 32px-Smiley.svg  Remember, there are millions of women… simply wanting to be married. You have a lifelong committed partner, and that is a very green blessing.

 

Appreciate your business partner’s strengths. If it’s your business partner, appreciate their vision even if they  miss the details. Or, appreciate their attention to detail, if they are missing part of the vision. Work with who they are, and find some quality of value. Let’s be grateful for the partners we have in life.

 

Love your roommate. If they don’t take out the garbage, value that they are nice companions to speak with when you get home at night, pay their rent on time, or like to water plants.

 

 

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Appreciate your teenager. Maybe they aren’t so talkative right now. But they get B+ and As, are good people, and don’t get in trouble. We definitely want to put the sprinkler on that. 32px-Smiley.svg

 

Value your co-chair.  Maybe they’re brusque.  But they deliver value and care a lot.  Fertilize and nurture the value they are giving.  Don’t criticize what they don’t have; be grateful for the strengths they bring. Supplement them. If they are stunning roses with thorns, then plant your gentle daisies.  That’s why you are there!

 

Be Grateful for the Weather as it Keeps the World Going Round. It’s cold.  I know it’s Minnesota, or Hanover.  It can be brutal!  But it’s also beautiful.  Nature and greenery are gorgeous…droughts are not.  In colder climates, strong, tightknit communities are the norm.  Families bond together.  It’s green in the land, and in your heart.

 

So dear Leaders… Water It… Wherever You Are!

 


 

Mitch Temple serves as the director over marriage programs at Focus on the Family in Colorado Springs, Colorado. He represents Focus at national events, seminars, media interviews and radio programs.  He has served for 23 years as a pulpit and counseling pastor, specializing in crisis, business and marriage- and family-related issues. He is a published author in various professional journals, and co-author of four marriage books such as The Marriage Turnaround.  His website Mitch Temple Online offers individuals, companies, and churches information on services, articles by Temple, and contributions by many members.  Mitch has been married to Rhonda for 30 years, have 3 grown children and one grand baby.

Bio sources: Focus on the Family and Mitch Temple Online

Quote source: Ten Secrets to a Successful Marriage

The Classic Pamela Positive: “Make a Gift of One’s Life”

 

“One makes a gift of one’s life and endeavors by sanctifying it with love, and devotion and selfless service. When seeking to uplift others, we are uplifted in the process. Every kind thought or smile therefore benefits oneself as well as all the world.”

 

–David Hawkins

 

 

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Dr. David Hawkins is an internationally renowned psychiatrist, physician, researcher, and pioneer in the fields of consciousness research and spirituality. He writes and teaches from the unique perspective of an experienced clinician, scientist, and mystic and is devoted to the spiritual evolution of mankind.

Bio Source: Veritas Publishing

The Classic Pamela Positive: Why Certain People Are In Your Life

These words have been inspiring to me, and I am glad to share them with you.

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.

 

 

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When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly.  They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.  They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be.

 

 

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Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.  They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

 

 

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LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person (any way); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind, but friendship is clairvoyant.

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The Classic Pamela Positive: “When You’re at the Table, You’re Open and Your Defenses Are Down”

 

“People want that gathering together. The table is magical. When you’re at the table, you’re open and your defenses are down.”

– Lidia Bastianich, host of PBS “Lidia’s Italy”

 

Mealtimes seem to be a time of the past. We eat in our cars and desks or even holding a power bar walking out the door… and yet Lidia points out how we can find deep caring and nourishment at the table. It’s not just sharing food, but also sharing of our hearts and feelings. It’s a time to be a sounding board and to have sounding boards…from people who truly care about you. It’s a time to relax, and yet also profound as some of the most important issues in your life may come out in a casual way.

 

 

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Don’t miss this time with your loved ones.  “The table is magical.”  Or I might add  “The people at the table are magical.”

 

You’re Magical,

Pamela

 

 

 

The Classic Pamela Positive: Money Can’t Buy Happiness

 

Money cant buy happiness.  Sometimes we forget this. Remember, it was the Beatles who brought this up through their songs. They had powerful messages which made us think. 

 

 

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So the next time you are enjoying one of their songs, remember, too, their life advice. Money cant buy happiness.

 

Strong relationships do. Working at something you love can bring it. Spending time with those you respect does. Adhering to your values does. Relationships, sincere work, people and values bring you happiness. 

 

 

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Focus on those four areas, and not only will you have happiness, but the money will come. Youll be doing what you love to do, and that will surely be compensated.

 

Do What You Love, Do It With Love,

Pamela