“Love Many, Trust a Few, And Always Paddle Your Own Canoe”
–Terri, from Coudersport, PA, as seen on Dark Chocolate Dove Wrapper
Terri has it right. What a joy to enjoy dark chocolate, which I love, with a truly inspired quote.
Life affords us so many ways to love, and how important we keep doing so. At the same time, we have to be careful, and so Trust, or entrusting ourselves to others, perhaps must be a bit more rare. I wish it weren’t so… however, everyone is on their pathway of personal growth. So we must honor them, honor ourselves: We should always love, but not necessarily entrust to others.
As far as paddling one’s own canoe. As my Oma says, “You’d better put a little elbow grease into that.” She was always ensuring she had pulled her weight. In fact, when I went over to Oma’s for a sleepover as a young child, even at the age of 8 or 9, our fun together — was working together. We scrubbed the kitchen floor on hands and knees, sharpened pencils, and wrote up a list for the freezer so she knew what was in there. She taught me to care about being clean, ordered and organized, which made her home special. She made it fun. I loved working with my Oma.
Terri, we thank you for a quote which has delighted us all!
Do It Anyway
People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered.
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives.
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies.
If you are honest and sincere, people may deceive you.
Be honest and sincere anyway.
What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight.
If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous.
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, will often be forgotten.
Do good anyway.
Give the best you have, and it will never be enough.
Give your best anyway.
In the final analysis, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.
This poem is widely attributed to Mother Teresa, after it was found hanging on a wall in her home for children in Calcutta. It is a revised version of “The Paradoxical Commandments,” written by Dr. Kent M. Keith. You can read more about the story on our UniversalGiving blog, PhilanthroPost.
Here are the top things you can say to make a relationship work, from All There Is:
You look great.
Can I help?
Let’s eat out.
I was wrong.
I am sorry.
I love you.
Say Something Positive Today!!
All There Is by Dave Isay grew from the StoryCorps initiative, a project to record the oral histories of individuals. StoryCorps has collected stories from more than 75,000 people, in an attempt to record the history of people who rarely appear in history books. In 2010, Isay published another book from StoryCorps stories, Mom: A Celebration of Mothers from StoryCorps. All There Is celebrates love, with heartwarming stories from real couples. Leroy A. Morgan contributed the list quoted above.
“You have to be able to tell people ‘great job’ on things that didn’t work.”
— J. Kermit Campbell, former CEO of Herman Miller
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Campbell has it right. A CEO is not an expert except in one area: getting the right people. Actually, let’s add another area: values. You must be a leader who gets the best people and demonstrates the highest values.
Even if you are a manager, you should still think this way. Empower your people to learn and maintain a domain of expertise. Hopefully, you can hire them with it. If you can’t, make sure they have the rapid capability to do so. Let’s learn from Campbell’s advice to us:
“I don’t believe that my job is to lead design at Herman Miller. My job is to make sure we have great design leaders, continue to listen and try to learn from them…My job is not to be a creative guy, my job is to create a culture that allows and promotes creativity…
You’re going to have to take risks. It’s not all going to work.
You have to be able to tell people ‘great job’ on things that didn’t work.”
J. Kermit Campbell is a former CEO of Herman Miller, and the current Lead Independent Director of SPX Corporation. He is an investor or board member for a number of companies and charitable organizations. Herman Miller is a leading furniture company, founded by D. J. DePree, with a more than 100-year history. They focus on innovation, and designing products to create a better world.
“In happy moments, praise God. In the difficult moments, seek God. In the quiet moments, trust God. In every moment, thank God.”
“One of the most important ways to manifest integrity is to be loyal to those who are not present. In doing so, we build the trust of those who are present. When you defend those who are absent, you retain the trust of those present.”
Stephen Covey is a speaker and author, writer of The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. His work focuses primarily on leadership, family and living with principle. He is a professor at the Jon M. Huntsman School of Business at Utah State University. He and his wife, Sandra, have nine children and fifty-two grandchildren.