Tag Archives: Appreciation

The Classic Pamela Positive: Be Prepared to Be Kind

 

Be Prepared. That’s the motto of the Girl Scouts and Boy Scouts.

When you think about it, being prepared is not just for wilderness trips. And while being prepared often means having savings, storing water for an earthquake or natural disaster, and keeping a flashlight in your car, it also means being prepared qualitatively. It’s about being prepared to react with positive qualities, in your day to day life.

 

 

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It’s all about what you hold, store and prepare within yourself.

So be prepared to be kind.

Some days you may not receive pleasant news. Will you react in anger, distrust, sadness, gloom? Or will you respond with patience, a willingness to see all sides and the realization that all things are truly working towards a greater good?

 

 

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Set yourself to react kindly. That means both to yourself and others. Don’t come down hard on yourself; don’t come down hard on others. Be understanding.

Be prepared to be kind. It’s the ultimate preparation.

 

 

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Girl Scouts:

Girl Scouts of the USA is the world’s preeminent organization dedicated solely to girls—all girls—where, in an accepting and nurturing environment, girls build character and skills for success in the real world. In partnership with committed adult volunteers, girls develop qualities that will serve them all their lives, like leadership, strong values, social conscience, and conviction about their own potential and self-worth. http://www.girlscouts.org/

Boy Scouts:

The Boy Scouts of America is one of the nation’s largest and most prominent values-based youth development organizations. The BSA provides a program for young people that builds character, trains them in the responsibilities of participating citizenship, and develops personal fitness. http://www.scouting.org/

The Classic Pamela Positive: “What the World Needs Is People Who Have Come Alive” – Howard Thurman

 

“Don’t ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive and then go do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”

– Howard Thurman

 

This is very true.

 

 

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Often I hear people say,”Oh! I wish I did something meaningful like you do, helping the world.”

 

Working in philanthropy is a wonderful way to serve. But just because you aren’t a social worker, teacher, or philanthropist doesn’t mean you aren’t living a meaningful life of service.

 

Follow what your deepest inner voice tells you – not what society says. You are created for a purpose.

 

 

 

 

It may be that you have a passion and talent for design. Help make peoples’ homes a special haven. We all need a haven, and a place to welcome others, and ourselves.

 

 

 

 

Perhaps you love numbers. Become an accountant or work at a bank. Help provide order and semblance to the operations and reports.

 

What would I do without my bank? Where would I put the deposits of donations for UniversalGiving? We need you, and we need a good banker.

 

 

 

 

You love sports. Play that game with integrity and enthusiasm! With the greatest sportsmanship. You will be a model for everyone watching, your colleagues, the audience, the referees, and any children present. Modeling positive energy and ethics, you can’t lose.

 

So much of life is simply how we live each moment. It’s how we govern each activity.

 

 

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You serve by being kind. You serve by following your passion. You serve by being true to yourself. Don’t do what you think you should do; do what you are created to do. You will find all types of wonderful people needing your inspiration and services, in ways you’ve never imagined.

 

And remember, the most important is “who you be.” Did you live kindly, with integrity, with joy today?

 

That’s the greatest service to our world, and open to all.

 

Take the time,

Pamela

The Classic Pamela Positive: Sit Down at the Table

 

“…they’ve done studies on children who are required to sit down at the family table and those who are not.  And the ones who are score higher academically; they’re more well adjusted.”

– Paula Deen, Food Network Star

 

 

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Sit down, be present, share. It’s not just about community, about family… but also about being the best we can be. Sitting down at the table with your loved ones for a mealtime shares love, and, helps you reach your goals!

 

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Paula Deen was born Paula Hiers in Albany, Georgia, the daughter of Corrie A. (née Paul) and Earl Wayne Hiers, Sr. Her parents died before she was 23, and an early marriage ended in divorce. In her 20s, Deen suffered from panic attacks and agoraphobia. She then focused on cooking for her family as something she could do without leaving her house.

 

Her grandmother Irene Paul had taught her the hand-me-down art of Southern cooking; one of the only places she felt safe was at her own stove, making thousands of pots of chicken and dumplings.  She later moved to Savannah, Georgia, with her sons. In 1989, she divorced her husband, Jimmy Deen, to whom she had been married since 1965.  She tried hanging wallpaper, working as a bank teller, selling real estate and insurance. She then started a catering service,  making sandwiches and meals, which her sons Jamie and Bobby delivered.

Bio Source: Wikipedia

The Classic Pamela Positive: Don’t Just Stop and Smell the Flowers

 

“Stop and smell the flowers” is a good starting point.  But why not stay with the flower?

 

Have you ever really looked at what makes up the flower? Its petals, the stamen, the actual layout and folding over of different petals… it’s quite remarkable.

 

Appreciate the wisdom behind its creation.

Its unfolding process as it blooms…

 

 

 

And its journey of growth.

 

 

 

 

It’s simple and complex in its beauty and expression.

 

And so are you. Appreciate the beautiful simplicity and complexity of you and of each of our fellow men, women and children. Be open and beautiful; endure through your growth.

The Classic Pamela Positive: Praise and Joy Should Be a Permanent Part of Our Soul – Inspired by G.K. Chesterton

 

A person is fully human

“when joy is the fundamental thing in him, and grief the superficial. Melancholy should be an innocent interlude, a tender and fugitive frame of mind; praise should be the permanent pulsation of the soul.  Pessimism is at best an emotional half-holiday; joy is the uproarious labor by which all things live.”

 

– G. K. Chesterton

 

 

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G.K. Chesteron certainly let us know what we need to focus on: joy.  And what a life force it is!  We don’t realize how much our thoughts impact us, our minds, our actions, our responses.  And therefore how it affects others’ minds, actions, and responses. He also points to the vapidness of negative thinking. What can it do, how can it build?  It only tears down. And so we should, as best as possible, obliterate it from thought.

 

 

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We can contribute so much in this world.  It starts with our thoughts; it starts right now; and that joy can carry us to an entirely different level of harmonious living.

 

Thank you to Gilbert Keith Chesterton for such wonderful advice.

 

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G.K. Chesterton was a profound English writer of the 20th century who contributed across philosophy and poetry, as well as fiction.  Two of his best known works are Orthodoxy and The Everlasting Man. He also wrote a weekly column in The London Illustrated News for thirty years.  He was known for his incredible intellect, desire to decrease political divisions, and strong reasoning skills.

Source quote and bio: Gilbert Keith Chesterton

The Classic Pamela Positive: Serenity, Courage and Wisdom

 

“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things that I cannot change; The courage to change the things I can; And the wisdom to know the difference.”

– Dr. Reinhold Niebuhr

 

Dr. Niebuhr’s quote is one of the most world renowned, for he paints to the fact that “everything you need is already inside,” and the importance of believing in oneself, balanced with a practical sense of what can be done.  We should encourage ourselves in areas in which we can truly make a change.  Of course the process of trying, especially if we love it, is important to our growth at times. At other times, we need to let go and focus on the positive mountain which is beckoning us to climb it.

 

 

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For the most part, it does come down to motives, too. If it is our past, you cannot change it.  Therefore his wisdom guides us.  Focus on the present, right now, right now, right now…in order to live fully and effect change as we speak…

 

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Dr. Reinhold Niebuhr was a theologian and orator.  He was an outspoken critic of poor industry conditions in factories.  He supported unions by letting organizers use his pulpit to advocate for workers rights.  He edited the magazine Christianity and Crisis for more than twenty years, and published a number of books and essays, including The Nature and Destiny of Man.  He was married to Ursula Keppel-Compton, a leading figure at Barnard College, who worked with Niebuhr on his writing.

The Classic Pamela Positive: The Importance of “Yes And”

 

When on the improv stage, one of the most important principles is listening to and supporting your partner.  If you do this, you help create a very strong sense of team, and also further the story in a way that is interesting to the audience.

 

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For example, if someone says, “Let’s go to the store,” you can “Yes and” it by saying, “wonderful, I love JZ’s store, because it has such great record memorabilia that dates back to the fifties!” What you have done is “yes and-ed” your partner.  You have essentially built on the first concept they introduced, a store.

 

Contrary to good improv, one could have done a “yes but.” For example, “Okay, that store is fine, but I really want to go to the movies.” That is denying your partner on stage, and invalidating their idea. You are not building on their initial idea, nor are you moving the story forward. You’ve essentially blocked them.  our story has now halted, and your partner does not necessarily feel supported.  This is the importance of “yes and-ing” rather than “yes but-ing.”

 

 

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Whether you’re an investor, an improviser on the stage, leading a team at a company, or a soccer captain, we can all practice the glory of “yes and-ing” one another.  If we do so, we will build a beautiful and strong world based on a foundation of supporting wins for everyone, all around.