Tag Archives: Giving

The Pamela Positive: Peyton March on Obtaining the Things We Crave Most – Give

There is a wonderful mythical law that the three things we crave most in life – happiness, freedom, and peace of mind – are always attained by giving them to someone else.” – Peyton March

Peyton Conway March (December 27, 1864 -1955) was an American soldier and Army Chief of Staff.  He had enormous influence in preparing America for World War I, and was highly committed to upholding freedom.

March was the son of Francis Andrew March, who was a founder of modern comparative linguistics in English.  He was among the first professors to advocate English be taught in universities.

Peyton March fought in the Philippines during the Spanish-American War.  During the Russo-Japanese War, he traveled as an American military attaché with the Japanese army, and he also worked with General MacArthur.  March was promoted to brigadier general during World War I, and later to Army Chief of Staff.

Philanthropy – Start Loving Others Now

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While it is commonly accepted, I’m not sure I agree that philanthropy means giving away ‘money.’

Instead, philanthropy is the love of humanity, of people.

And what I cherish about this definition is that it is accessible to anyone, at any time.

We can all be philanthropists.

Whether you are getting the drycleaning, having a conversation with your boss or coworker, or saying a kind hello to a homeless person, you are a philanthropist.

Philanthropy should be, and is, accessible to all.

I love that we can start loving others now!

*The Definition of Philanthropy, in Merriam-Webster: 1: goodwill to fellow members of the human race; especially : active effort to promote human welfare 2: an act or gift done or made for humanitarian purposes

The Pamela Positive: “A Selfless Person Is More Concerned About the Happiness of Another…”

“A selfless person is one who is more concerned about the happiness and well-being of another than about his or her own convenience or comfort, one who is willing to serve another when it is neither sought for nor appreciated, or one who is willing to serve even those whom he or she dislikes. A selfless person displays a willingness to sacrifice, a willingness to purge from his or her mind and heart personal wants, and needs, and feelings. Instead of reaching for and requiring praise and recognition for himself, or gratification of his or her own wants, the selfless person will meet these very human needs for others. ”

–H. Burke Peterson

H. Burke Peterson is an authority in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, and the author of A Glimpse of Glory.

Reverse Trick-Or-Treating


We all know Halloween is around the corner. No, not because of the multi-colored leaves, the smell of firewood, or the calendar on the kitchen fridge, but because every time we walk into the grocery store, our eyes are overwhelmed with visions of fat, round pumpkins, fake spiders and ghosts, and shelves stocked full of Kit-Kats, Snickers, and Swedish Fish. According to the History Channel, this now secular and commercial holiday originated from the ideas of giving to the poor, dressing up in costumes to trick “ghosts” who were believed to have come back from the dead, and honoring the deceased. Today, many kids don’t understand the joy of giving candy and are instead only focused on taking. Somewhere along the way, we have forgotten that the holiday was based on giving to others. We have somehow started to feel entitled to candy! And there’s nothing wrong with candy. But is there another lesson we can emphasize? This year, UniversalGiving wants you to consider this question:

What would Halloween look like if you gave instead of took?

This question aligns with the new movement called “Reverse Trick-or-Treating.” In this article from Disney’s Babble, the writer explains that this event entails going around from house to house and giving candy to people in the houses instead of taking their candy (see original idea here)UniversalGiving wants to expand on this concept to include other events that save you money and a trip to the dentist for all those candy cavities!

Here is a quick list that we put together to help you get started with ideas:

  1. Give someone a call to ask how they’re doing
  2. Give advice to a friend in need
  3. Give time volunteering at a soup kitchen or helping to cook a hot meal
  4. Give help to a younger sibling with homework or give them an hour of your time to play their favorite board game
  5. Give a donation all of those clothes that you don’t wear anymore to GoodWill
  6. Give someone random a high-five, a hug, or a smile


When we use a wider approach to giving and brainstorm all the ways we can give, the list is endless. Instead of a picture of your most creative costume, we challenge you to send us your most creative giving idea for this Halloween season! Remember to tag @UniversalGiving and use the #reversetrickortreating to get your post noticed. Happy Giving!

Kids In Afghanistan

According to the Christian Science Monitor, Civilian casualties in Afghanistan have increased at a record rate. 1,601 civilians have been killed in 2016 and 3,565 have been wounded. Close to a third of the casualties are children.


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This kind of statistic is unacceptable. Kids should not suffer. Let’s take a step back today and be grateful for all we have. This will also allow us to give more. We have so much. Help make the world a more equal place.


Learn about a few of our partner organizations working to support at-risk populations in Afghanistan.


Direct Relief is a humanitarian aid organization, working in the United States as well as 70 other countries around the world, with a mission to improve the health and lives of people impacted by poverty and emergencies. Direct Relief has assistance programs in Afghanistan that focus on maternal and child health, the prevention and treatment of disease, and emergency preparedness and response. These programs are tailored to the specific circumstances and needs of the world’s most vulnerable and at-risk populations.


Benetech is an organization working to solve social needs among four areas: global literacy, human rights, environment, Benetech Labs. Their focus is on supplying technology to blind people to help them achieve an education. However, they have also helped create systems that allow human rights workers to safely and securely document human right violations. Their work in Afghanistan aims to create a safer, more inclusive environment.
Visit UniversalGiving to learn about more giving and volunteer opportunities.
Want to know more about what’s going on in Afghanistan? Click here to see the full article. 

The Pamela Positive: “To Be an Altruist, You Must First Be an Egoist.”

“To be an altruist, you must first be an egoist.” – George Gurdjieff

In 1919 Armenian George Gurdjieff founded the Institute for the Harmonious Development of Man in Tbilisi, Georgia, in order to serve men in peace. Yet Mr. Gurdjieff’s commitment to helping others began with himself. It was about complete self awareness; absorption in meditation; and pushing oneself to a higher attunement to the Spirit.  In so doing, we are then able to be conscious of our own spirituality as foremost in thought.

From that standpoint, we can then go on to help others.  We see everyone connected in spirit.  We wish the best for others as we strive for peace and perfect alignment for spirit for ourselves.  So we focus first on our own spiritual commitment, before we focus on helping other’s spirit, in this wonderful journey of life.

George Gurdjieff was an Armenian mystic and philosopher. He traveled in the Middle East, Africa, and Central Asia as a young man. He taught in Moscow and St. Petersburg, and in 1919 he founded the Institute for the Harmonious Development of Man at Tiflis (now Tbilisi), Georgia. In 1922 he reestablished the institute at Fontainebleau, France, gathering a group of followers who lived communally, engaging in philosophical dialogue, ritual exercises, and dance. His basic assertion was that ordinary living was akin to sleep and that through spiritual discipline it was possible to achieve heightened levels of vitality and awareness. The Fontainebleau centre closed in 1933, but Gurdjieff continued to teach in Paris until his death.

The Good Trade: How to Give Back When You’re Short on Cash Part II

In Part I of this series, we talked about attitude changes making meaningful phone calls are ways that simultaneously save money and give back to your community. In Part II,  we finish this series with other ideas that make you feel good without spending!

Missed Part I? Click here! 




While some people enjoy receiving gifts, all of us appreciate a kind word. It is one thing to say it, but it can be even more meaningful to put a note in writing. What if you made a commitment to write a thank you note to someone every week? Since the invention of stamps in 1840, this has been possible. Hallmark really innovated by coming up with the concept of greeting cards. In the early 1900s an aspiring entrepreneur, Joyce Clyde Hall, left Nebraska to sell his cards in Kansas City.  He simply had positive quotes, and put them in the cards. Soon we had cards for birthdays, anniversaries, graduations and the like.

Now you can congratulate friends on a new job, express condolences for the passing of a loved one, or simply say you are thinking of them. You can think of any positive reason you like. Handwritten letters are memorable, and heartfelt.


You never know what someone might be going through – a painful divorce, struggling through college, or just having a bad day. Opening up your home will make someone feel appreciated. In addition, it costs less than going out. The leftovers from this dinner can be packaged up for the homeless. That’s double giving!


Giving doesn’t have to mean a life full of sacrifices. We can still buy an In-N-Out burger or get our nails done. But instead of buying several Starbuck’s coffees every week, you can drink one less.  Donate the money you saved: Even $5 can make a difference in someone’s life. In the U.S. it can buy a small lunch, but abroad it can be used to build a library or to buy mosquito nets to prevent malaria. In these cases, your money is scaling to help many people — your dollar goes even further. 
Difficult financial times does not mean your giving must shut down. Instead, it allows us to examine how our time and money are spent. Do you have time to write that kind note? Have a free moment to make a delicious home cooked meal? There are so many ways to give back that won’t hurt your wallet and will enrich your life.  It takes a different view of wealth. This kind of wealth consists of kindness, patience, and selflessness.   

There’s not a moment to wait – let’s get started giving of our abundance!


Click here for the full article on The Good Trade’s website!