Monthly Archives: October 2019

The Classic Pamela Positive: “Find the People Who Can Make You a Better Person.” – Ted Danson


“My philosophy is, don’t hang on to whatever degree of success or celebrity you have,” he explains. “Find the smartest people you can and work with them, even if it means taking a smaller role. Get lost in something that inspires you. Find the people who can make you a better person. That’s how you stay fresh.”

- Ted Danson


How true is this. You always want to find great people with whom to work! Then you excel, soar, float and can contribute to the world even more strongly.

Did you know that people who love what they do are 50% more likely to report being rated as meeting or exceeding expectations at work?¹ And it follows that people who work around likeminded people with similar values are more likely to stay. You have work you love, and people that you love. A great (and sometimes rare) combination!




Looking for it? Match up with a good-hearted, values-based team, doing something that you love. Then, identify organizations doing something you love. Or, you can donor vice versa! With both in mind, at some point, both will fall into place.




You’ll learn, grow, and ascend. You will make the world better. Plus it’s so much more fun!

Live With Great People Everyday,



Ted Danson, born Edward Bridge Danson, is an American actor who first became well known for his character Sam Malone on the hit sitcom, Cheers. He’s also starred on CBS’s CSI, HBO’s Curb Your Enthusiasm, and NBC’s The Good Place. Throughout his career, he’s won two Emmy’s, three Golden Globe Awards, and many more accolades. Outside of his acting career, Mr. Danson also is an environmentalist and released his book Oceana: Our Endangered Oceans and What We Can Do to Save Them in 2011. His father was an anthropology and director of a Native American museum, which led to Ted’s love of nature. Since then, he’s also helped found the American Oceans Campaign, which is now known as Oceana. He’s married to Mary Steenburgen and has two children.

Bio Source: Wikipedia

Citation: ¹Hagel, John; Seely Brown, John; Ranjan, Alok; and Byler, Daniel, “Passion at Work”, Deloitte Insights, October 7, 2014,

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The Classic Pamela Positive: “Make of Your Life an Affirmation” -Alexander Haig


“Make of your life an affirmation, defined by your ideals, not the negation of others. Dare to the level of your capability then go beyond to a higher level.”

-Alexander Haig


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Alexander Haig was a four-star general in the United States Army, as well as Chief of Staff under President Nixon and President Ford, and Secretary of State under President Reagan. He grew up as the middle child in a Catholic family in Pennsylvania. Haig would attend the University of Notre Dame for a couple years before finishing at West Point Academy. He would later also receive an MBA from Columbia Business School and a MA in International Relations from Georgetown University. A veteran of the Korean War and Vietnam War, Haig received the Distinguished Service Cross, the Silver Star with oak leaf cluster, and the Purple Heart. He was married to Patricia Fox and they had three children together.

Bio Source: Wikipedia

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The Classic Pamela Positive: How Close You Are To Success? -Thomas A. Edison


“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”

-Thomas A. Edison


That’s a shocking statement. How close you are to success….

You can do it…

You could do it…

You are ascending the mountain…


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and you stop.

How close are you? Connect with your true, heart-deep motivation. Instead of focusing on blocks, frustration or being tired, you can focus on why you are doing what you do.

They Gave Up. They Didn’t Realize. They Were So Close! Success was just there….. all what Edison tells us.

So what will you do today? Give up or cross over? Give up or stand up? Give up or ascend? Continue on your pathway, and firmly but gently, success will lead you.

Thank you dear Thomas Edison, as we know you failed thousands of times. Yet your success still shines in our lives today.


Edison was born in 1847 in the canal town of Milan, Ohio. In 1859 Edison began working on a local branch of the Grand Trunk Railroad, selling newspapers, magazines, and candy. At one point he also conducted chemical experiments in a baggage-car laboratory.

In 1868 Edison became an independent inventor in Boston. Edison soon acquired a reputation as a first-rank inventor. In 1871, Edison married 16-year-old Mary Stilwell, whom he had met two months earlier. She was an employee at one of his shops. They had three children.  While working on the telephone in the summer of 1877, Edison discovered a method of recording sound, and in the late fall he unveiled the phonograph. Finally, beginning in the fall of 1878, Edison devoted thirty months to developing a complete system of incandescent electric lighting.

In 1886, at the age of thirty-nine, Edison married the 20-year-old Mina Miller. They also had three children together. By the time of his death on October 18, 1931, Edison had received 1,093 U.S. patents, a total still untouched by any other inventor. Even more important, he created a model for modern industrial research.

Bio Source: Wikipedia

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The Classic Pamela Positive: The Right Timing in Your Life: What We Can Learn from Japan’s Edo Era


During the Edo era in Japan (1603-1868), the only wood they’d use from the forest was if a branch had fallen from a tree. In the same way, we don’t pick fruit before it’s ripe.

We don’t wrench the immature tomato from the vine. When it is the right time, you’ll find it almost drops off naturally in your hand.


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Perhaps then, the message for us in present-day is, don’t cut down the wood until the tree is ready to release its branch. Perhaps all the wood we need will fall naturally and offer itself to you. This will be right timing for the tree as well as your needs.

Is there an area you are pushing for, that is perhaps unripe? Perhaps it’s time to gently let it go. We can let right timing lead, delivering the gift to you and everyone, at its specially appointed time.

Let’s enjoy the gifts, events, and happenstances which are given naturally to us.


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The Classic Pamela Positive: “Oh Still, Small Voice of Calm” – John Greenleaf Whittier


“Breathe through the pulses of our desire

Thy coolness and Thy balm;

Let sense be dumb, let flesh retire;

Speak through the earthquake, wind, and fire,

O still, small voice of calm!”

-John Greenleaf Whittier


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Dear Living and Giving readers… this is all we need today. Just a bit of calm. See where you can be and feel calm today.

Believing in Peace for You and for Us All,



John Greenleaf Whittier (1807 – 1892) was an influential American Quaker poet and abolitionist. Highly regarded in his lifetime and after, he is remembered for his patriotic poems and a number of poems turned into hymns. Whittier grew up on a poor farm with a large extended family and little formal education. However, he was heavily influenced by Quaker ideologies of humanitarianism, compassion, and social responsibility, introduced to him by his father. He remained an outspoken proponent of abolitionism as a founding member of the American Anti-Slavery Society. Many of his early poems dealt with the cause of slavery. After the passage of the Thirteenth Amendment, Whittier turned to other forms of poetry; his most famous include Snow-Bound and Dear Lord and Father of Mankind. Starting around 1850, he also wrote folksy New England ballads and narrative poems, sentimental country idylls, and simple religious poems that appealed strongly to his readers.

Bio Source: Wikipedia, The Famous People

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The Classic Pamela Positive: “Thinking of the Things in My Life That Bring Me Pleasure Is a Peaceful and Positive Way to Start the Day.” -Warren Bennis


“Thinking of the things in my life that bring me pleasure is a peaceful and positive way to start the day — and a much better way to deal with a perceived failure than to ruminate on it. 

When you’re down, think of the things you have to look forward to. When you are no longer in the grip of the mishap, then you are ready to reflect on it…. 

After reflection, the learning of the past is known, and the solution of the experience — the course of action we must take as a result — becomes clear. ”

- Warren Bennis


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I was honored to work in Leadership under Warren Bennis, a wonderful Business Leader. Ever calm and so very experienced, he taught us to look at life from an evaluative outlook.

What can I learn from this today?

How can I become better?

How will my life be better once I implement what I have learned?


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Take each step of life with great step of gratitude, goodness, and desire to grow. And upwards you go! With grace and peace. Thank you, dear Warren Bennis.


Warren Bennis was a pioneer in Leadership studies, writing numerous influential books on the subject, including Leaders and Leading For a Lifetime. He was raised in New Jersey and he enlisted in the U.S. Army in 1943. During his time in the U.S. Army, he received the Purple Heart and Bronze Star. After his time in the military, he went on to attend Antioch College, receiving his B.A. in 1951. He continued his education at the London School of Economics before receiving his Ph.D. from MIT in 1955. His focus was on Economics. He was a business professor at the University of Southern California. In 2007, BusinessWeek named him one of the top ten thought leaders in business. He has been married twice and has 4 children.

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The Classic Pamela Positive: Let Someone In


I really love being truthful about my self-growth. Recently, I have been trying to work on my driving.

I don’t mean on not cutting people off or not being rude on the road. I meant that extra sense of courteousness and kindness.

In Silicon Valley, the traffic has increased by 80% in the last 8 years.¹ We’re all rushing around to get places. It used to take me 40 minutes from San Francisco to get to my parents’ home but now it can take upwards to 1 hour and 40 minutes. Well, my goal is to be contrarian. I want to be the person who “lets someone in”.


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I have to admit, and I’m embarrassed, it’s been hard for me to let someone in.

Sometimes, I forget.

Sometimes, I’m in a rush.


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Sometimes, I don’t “feel like it”.

That’s probably the most embarrassing of all: You don’t feel like helping someone?


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Well, there are ways to change our thinking.

One of the things that’s helped me is to imagine someone I really respect being in that car. We only see tail lights or a bumper; we don’t see the person. What if your mom was in there? What if Jesus was in there? What if Buddha was in there? What if Mister Rogers was in there? What if Mother Teresa was in there?

Would that make a difference?


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I have to say it would.

So I’m just writing this to help encourage myself on an area I need to work on: Let People In.



Once I master this, my new goal will be to let two cars in. And I will make it a habit. I believe this will build my character; I will believe it will help the world; and I believe… I will still be on time.


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When you do the right thing, the right thing always happens.

I’m Trying To Drive With Courtesy,



Citation: ¹Baldassari, Erin, “Traffic on major Bay Area freeways has grown 80 percent since 2010”, Mercury News, September 18, 2017
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