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The Classic Pamela Positive: “Thinking of the Things in My Life That Bring Me Pleasure Is a Peaceful and Positive Way to Start the Day.” -Warren Bennis

 

“Thinking of the things in my life that bring me pleasure is a peaceful and positive way to start the day — and a much better way to deal with a perceived failure than to ruminate on it. When you’re down, think of the things you have to look forward to. When you are no longer in the grip of the mishap, then you are ready to reflect on it….  After reflection, the learning of the past is known, and the solution of the experience — the course of action we must take as a result — becomes clear. ”

- Warren Bennis

 

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I was honored to work in Leadership under Warren Bennis, a wonderful Business Leader. Ever calm and so very experienced, he taught us to look at life from an evaluative outlook.

What can I learn from this today?

How can I become better?

How will my life be better once I implement what I have learned?

 

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Take each step of life with great step of gratitude, goodness, and desire to grow. And upwards you go! With grace and peace. Thank you, dear Warren Bennis.

 


Warren Bennis was a pioneer in Leadership studies, writing numerous influential books on the subject, including Leaders and Leading For a Lifetime. He was raised in New Jersey and he enlisted in the U.S. Army in 1943. During his time in the U.S. Army, he received the Purple Heart and Bronze Star. After his time in the military, he went on to attend Antioch College, receiving his B.A. in 1951. He continued his education at the London School of Economics before receiving his Ph.D. from MIT in 1955. His focus was on Economics. He was a business professor at the University of Southern California. In 2007, BusinessWeek named him one of the top ten thought leaders in business. He has been married twice and has 4 children.

Bio Source: Wikipedia


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The Classic Pamela Positive: Keep Your Balance

 

I think one key point in life is to maintain balance — balance between time for work, time for loved ones, time for oneself, time for interests outside of one’s business. It’s so important to keep that balance, or we’ll simply burn-out.

 

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I remember once when I was young in my career, and meeting with a fairly older, single woman. She was a successful venture capitalist. But I don’t know that I would consider her life successful. She traveled the world incessantly and was on every important board. But she seemed tired and joy was scarce. She told me to “Pack it all in.”

I didn’t. I kept my balance. I started a nonprofit and I did creative improv. I took care of my very young nephews and nieces. I loved life and I loved the people in my life.

 

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We need to be renewed. We need to feel honored as whole, functioning people with families, outside interests, balanced lives, as well as our commitment to achieving the goals and vision of the organizations we run. The beauty of this balance is that I come back energized to UniversalGiving®. My mind has had “time off” and is thrilled to re-engage with our efforts to serve. I look at challenges in a new light. My energy is renewed. I bring new skills to the table; my thoughts are stronger and more helpful. It’s better for me-and for my organization.

Keeping Balanced for Me, for You and Our Way of Giving Back to the World,

Pamela

 


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The Classic Pamela Positive: Keep Your Balance

 

I think one key point in life is to maintain balance — balance between time for work, time for loved ones, time for oneself, time for interests outside of one’s business. It’s so important to keep that balance, or we’ll simply burn-out.

 

 

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I remember once when I was young in my career, and meeting with a fairly older, single woman. She was a successful venture capitalist. But I don’t know that I would consider her life successful. She traveled the world incessantly and was on every important board. But she seemed tired and joy was scarce. She told me to “Pack it all in.”

I didn’t. I kept my balance. I started a nonprofit and I did creative improv. I took care of my very young nephews and nieces. I loved life and I loved the people in my life.

 

 

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We need to be renewed. We need to feel honored as whole, functioning people with families, outside interests, balanced lives, as well as our commitment to achieving the goals and vision of the organizations we run. The beauty of this balance is that I come back energized to UniversalGiving™. My mind has had “time off” and is thrilled to re-engage with our efforts to serve. I look at challenges in a new light. My energy is renewed. I bring new skills to the table; my thoughts are stronger and more helpful. It’s better for me–and for my organization.

 

 

The Classic Pamela Positive: “Be Clear About What Is Truly Essential”

 

Marine corps officer Robert J. Wicks shares with us some important lessons on life and nature.

Rather than read, he encourages us to reflect.  If we face a challenge, we can act not from anger but from joy and grounded peace.

 

 

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From his book, Streams of Contentment, here are three tips on living a natural, and successful life.

* Be clear about what is truly essential.

* Appreciate everything and everyone in your life right now.

* Recognize that a little silence and solitude is no small thing.

– Robert J. Wicks

When we appreciate what is important, right now, we honor life and everyone around us.

 

 


 

 

 

Robert J. Wicks is a clinical psychologist and author, interested in how spirituality and psychology are intertwined. He graduated from Fairfield University in Connecticut in 1968, with a B.A. in psychology and philosophy. He later went on to receive his PhD in psychology from Hahnemann Medical College and Hospital, now known as Drexel University Medical College. Wicks has taught at a number of universities, given commencement speeches, and presented to Congress. In the 1990s, he worked with relief workers, who were working in Rwanda during the civil war. He has also worked with professionals who support Iraqi and Afghan war veterans in the early 2000s. Throughout his career, he has published over 40 books inspired by his studies into psychology and spirituality. Wicks has received a number of awards including the The Humanitarian Award Association for Spiritual, Ethical, Religious and Value Issues in Counseling American Counseling Association. He has been married to his wife, Michaele Barry Wicks, for over 40 years and they have one daughter together.

 

 

 

The Classic Pamela Positive: “Thinking Of The Things In My life That Bring Me Pleasure Is A Peaceful And Positive Way To Start The Day.” – Warren Bennis

 

“Thinking of the things in my life that bring me pleasure is a peaceful and positive way to start the day — and a much better way to deal with a perceived failure than to ruminate on it. When you’re down, think of the things you have to look forward to. When you are no longer in the grip of the mishap, then you are ready to reflect on it….  After reflection, the learning of the past is known, and the solution of the experience — the course of action we must take as a result — becomes clear. ”

– Warren Bennis

 

 

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Warren Bennis was a pioneer in Leadership studies, writing numerous influential books on the subject, including Leaders and Leading For a Lifetime. He was raised in New Jersey and he enlisted in the U.S. Army in 1943. During his time in the U.S. Army, he received the Purple Heart and Bronze Star. After his time in the military, he went on to attend Antioch College, receiving his B.A. in 1951. He continued his education at the London School of Economics before receiving his PhD from MIT in 1955. His focus was in Economics. He was a business professor at the University of Southern California. In 2007, BusinessWeek named him one of the top ten thought leaders in business.

 

 

 

“Many of Us Crucify Ourselves Between Two Thieves – Regret For the Past and Fear Of the Future.” – Fulton Oursler

 

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves – regret for the past and fear of the future.”

– Fulton Oursler

 

 

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What can you let go of today?

 

 


 

 

Charles Fulton Oursler (January 22, 1893 – May 24, 1952) was an American journalist, playwright, editor, and author of mysteries and detective fiction. He was raised in a devout Baptist family. His childhood passions of reading and stage magic led to crafting stories that combined magic and magicians. Notable works include “The Magician Detective,” Father Flanagan of Boy’s Town (later adapted into the 1938 movie Boys Town), and The Greatest Story Ever Told (adapted as the 1965 movie of the same name). Although he was raised in a devout Baptist family, Charlies declared himself an agnostic at age 15. He, his second wife Grace Perkins, and their family would eventually convert to Catholicism following a trip to the Holy Land. (Bio source: Wikipedia: Fulton Oursler, Quote source: Quotes on Fear and Other Profound Sayings)

The Classic Pamela Positive: “And the Day Came When the Risk to Remain Tight In a Bud Was More Painful Than the Risk It Took to Blossom.” – Anais Nin

 

“And the Day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”

-Anais Nin

 

There is certainly a time to “stay in your bud,” to hibernate. There are times when it is important to be quiet, reflective. In this space, one can hear the truth, and we can ask questions which gear us towards wise actions:

 

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What shall I do for the next step to help further my business today?

What shall I do to help enhance my relationship with my husband?

What shall I do to help bring peace into a colleague’s day?

Perhaps…. it is slowing down.  It is identifying the top two companies we should speak with who would be good partners — rather than the top 10. Or sending positive stats on your husband’s favorite sports teams. Or buying a chocolate chip cookie for your colleague and leaving it on her desk with a kind note and a smile.  Anything we are impelled to do with love as our direction, is the right thing to do.

So if we listen…

and follow the footsteps of Truth in serving others…

That wisdom leads us to larger views….

and larger questions.

Perhaps there is a bigger step in our future… and it is a time to really blossom. Our bud must come forth.

 

 

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So we keep listening… at some point, wisdom will make it so clear that we must take action in a revolutionary way. Perhaps it is something we had thought of, or perhaps a surprise. It could be a career change. It could be setting up an annual get-away with your husband or changing where you and your husband live.  It could be that we manage more coworkers, or move into another business unit.

But we will be listening.  We will be poised. We will be ready to blossom!

 


 

Anaïs Nin (born Angela Anaïs Juana Antolina Rosa Edelmira Nin y Culmell, February 21, 1903 – January 14, 1977) was an American author born to Spanish-Cuban parents in France, where she was also raised. She spent some time in Spain and Cuba but lived most of her life in the United States where she became an established author. She published journals (which span more than 60 years, beginning when she was 11 years old and ending shortly before her death), novels, critical studies, essays, and short stories. A great deal of her work, including Delta of Venus and Little Birds, was published posthumously. Nin was first married to Hugh Parker Guiler, and later to actor Rupert Pole.

Bio source: Wikipedia: Anais Nin

Quote source: Quotes on Fear and Other Profound Sayings