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The Classic Pamela Positive: Communicate With More Than Words

 

It is so amazing to me that when we communicate, the words really ‘come in third place.’

What’s first and second?

 

 

 

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First is the tone. If we are abrasive, affrontive, sarcastic then it doesn’t open up the conversation and action for change.

Calm, proactive, inclusive, even — “slow” — conversations help provide dynamic change. It sounds as if it is an oxymoron. But allowing the participants to breathe in the interaction helps bring about the best and most inclusive solutions for all parties.

 

 

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Second then is body language. If our body is open, or hunched over, our shoulders upright or slumped, communicates a world of information! And yes, most significantly is your “face language.” A frown or a smile will tell all, and make or break someone’s day!

 

 

 

smile!

 

 

Third come the words. This is actually not our main way to communicate. For us, we must take care that tone and face and body communicate positivity.  There are no words that will make up for a frown. 🙂

 

So yes, choose your words carefully and positively, and match them with a welcoming posture and smile.

 

Now, you are on your way to being a great communicator!

 

Communicate Positively, 

Pamela

The Classic Pamela Positive: “We Are Going To Get Through This”- Sheryl Sandberg

 

We are not going to say, “You are going to get through this”

but

We are going to get through this.”

 

“I learned the power of the word ‘we.’ Not saying to people, ‘You are going to get through this,’ but ‘We are going to get through this.’ That is such a different message, because it makes people feel less alone, and all of these forms of hardship, it’s not just the hardship itself but the isolation that comes with it. ‘We’ changes that.”

 

–       Sheryl Sandberg, Facebook COO, author, activist

 

What a beautiful quote from Sheryl Sandberg, who knows that hardships can’t be faced by themselves.

 

 

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People face tough events, such as Sheryl Sandberg, and losing her spouse and partner.  But other people face hardships in a different way.1 Did you know that more than 72% of the population is lonely? This is leading to an epidemic of people having psychological problems and breakdowns by not having the bonds of community, love, and feeling cherished.

 

 

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All of us need to know that when we are facing a changing time, that we have someone by our side.

 

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There’s someone to hold our hand.

 

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You might be going through anxiety that makes your heart race and feel as if it’s going 20,000 beats per minute. Your husband might have just asked you for divorce. Your precious pet needs to get an operation. Or your son didn’t get into the elementary school that you’d hoped. Some of these may be major crises and some of these are “softer” crises, but they’re all things where we need a shoulder to shoulder approach.

Whose side can you stand by today?

Is there someone in your life who’s going through something that needs your help? Don’t let them go through it alone. Remember that we are going get through thisnot you are going to get through this.

 

Let’s do this together,

Pamela

 

*****

 

 

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Sheryl Sandberg is the chief operating officer (COO) of Facebook and founder women’s empowerment organization Lean In Foundation. She was born in Washington, D.C. and grew up in North Miami Beach, Florida. She was an exceptional student in high school, graduating top ten of her class and then went on to Harvard College. She studied economics at Harvard and graduated summa cum laude. She also received the John H. Williams Prize for top graduating student in economics. She would later attend Harvard Business School as well. Before moving to Facebook, Sandberg was vice president of global online sales and operations at Google, where she would help launch Google’s philanthropy program. In 2009, she was named one of the 25 most influential people on the web byBusiness Week. On their list of top 100 most powerful women in the world, Forbes has listed her as ninth in 2014 and fourth in 2017. She is a widow and she has two children.

 

 

Citations:
1 Lunardi, Stefano, “Feeling lonely? So are a lot of other people, survey finds”, CBS News, October 12, 2016, https://www.cbsnews.com/news/many-americans-are-lonely-survey-finds/
Fig. 1: Photo by Duy Pham on Unsplash
Fig. 2: Photo by Tyler Nix on Unsplash
Fig. 3: Photo by Priscilla Du Preez on Unsplash
Fig. 4: Photo by Desiree Fawn on Unsplash
Fig. 5: Photo by Unknown on Forbes

 

 

Classic Pamela Positive: Communicate With More Than Words

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It is so amazing to me that when we communicate, the words really ‘come in third place.’

What’s first and second?

First is the tone. If we are abrasive, affrontive, sarcastic then it doesn’t open up the conversation and action for change.

Calm, proactive, inclusive, even — “slow” — conversations help provide dynamic change. It sounds as if it is an oxymoron. But allowing the participants to breathe in the interaction helps bring about the best and most inclusive solutions for all parties.

communicate

Second then is body language. If our body is open, or hunched over, our shoulders upright or slumped, communicates a world of information! And yes, most significantly is your “face language.” A frown or a smile will tell all, and make or break someone’s day!

smile!

Third come the words. This is actually not our main way to communicate. For us, we must take care that tone and face and body communicate positivity.  There are no words that will make up for a frown. 🙂 So yes, choose your words carefully and positively, and match them with a welcoming posture and smile.

Now, you are on your way to being a great communicator!

Communicate positively, 

Pamela

The Pamela Positive: Well-Being Through Community

John Haworth and Graham Hart are on to something big, yet something natural.  In their book, Well-Being, they speak about having health through several core areas.   And one of the key areas is Community. 

Community is defined as being connected to our surrounding area, and especially through giving of ourselves.  They speak strongly about the positive impact of donating money and volunteering.  And of course at UniversalGiving, we couldn’t believe in that more strongly.  We’re headed on our vision to “Create a World Where Giving and Volunteering Are a Natural Part of Everyday Life.”

Thank you, John and Graham, for such great yet practical steps available to us all.  You encourage us to live with joy, health and wellness.   If anyone would like to pick up Well-Being, it can be bought here.