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The Classic Pamela Positive: Stop For Three Dollars

 

The street always stops me.

 

 

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There are so many homeless people in San Francisco, that it can be overwhelming.

 

 

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It makes your heart stop — there are people who really need help.  And then there are people who make homelessness a lifestyle choice.  So I’m careful about how I donate and when I do it.

Today was different.  A wonderful gentleman who was selling our San Francisco homeless newspaper was kind and working hard. Street Sheet in San Francisco employs the homeless to sell the Street Sheet newspapers for $1.

They are working.

Obviously things on the street are really hard to track. But in this case, I just turned around. I went back. I just thought there was something right there. Follow, follow, your heart.

 

 

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I had a kind conversation with Ben*, but I didn’t have any ones.  I only had tens. Did he have any change?  He didn’t know, but he could check.

“I would like to give you three dollars. Keep the newspapers, and I want you to keep selling them again.  Would you be able to give me seven dollars, please?”

He goes, “I dunno, I’m a checking.” He pulled into his pocket…

And the miracle came.

He counted them out.

He had seven ones.

 

 

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Seven exactly.

I just looked into his eyes and said, “That was God, wasn’t it?”

He said, “It surely was.” He just started smiling and laughing.

I said, “Keep selling. I don’t need the papers — I read up on homeless issues all the time. I support you! Have a wonderful day!”

 

 

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When we hear that call in our hearts… listen….. it says

Stop

Listen

Give.

We have to do it. Otherwise we would miss one of the most meaningful opportunities of our lives right there about affecting someone.

It was the perfect interchange.

It’s just amazing.

Don’t miss listening to your heart today.  Then, give.

 

 

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*Name has been changed to protect Ben’s identity on the street.

Embrace Simplicity In 2019 With These 10 Campaign Tips

 

I am so pleased to share UniversalGiving™ was featured in a Forbes Expert Panel article.   The question is “How do they plan to embrace simplicity in their campaigns this year?” and you can view many answers from our nonprofit community here. Scroll down to see our response on how “$25” and “friends” can make a difference!

 

 

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Make A Specific Request

 

“Ask your supporters to introduce you to just one other friend, with a specific request they give $25. It’s a simple, specific request. And you’ve gained a new supporter! Start a campaign: “25 for $25!” Get 25 supporters to ask a friend for $25, and measure results. The point is not how much money, but that you get them engaged and develop the relationship from there. This can be done at any time!”

– Pamela Hawley, UniversalGiving™

 

 

 

This Is The Age Of A Human’s Right Series, Part Two

 

We’ve just read about the importance of injustice overturned from Series One on “This Is The Age Of A Human’s Right.”

 

So here we continue our conversation of a human, having their rights arighted. This is the age of a human’s right. A human’s right to speak, a human’s right to voice their opinion, a human’s right to be heard, and a human’s right to have things arighted. In so many cases, this is wonderful, just, and long-time coming. People have been abused and silent; their perpetrators have gotten away with it. Women have been beaten and neglected; children have been sold into slavery… They have never been able to look back, look forward, or get out.

While we take a stand in the present, we must also take a stand for the past. We have to acknowledge what happened under the Nazi era in Germany, we have to support Jewish people and their future heritage for something that happened seventy years ago. We have to help South Sudanese people, who have had fourteen- and fifteen-year old’s fleeing their lands for a decade, carrying their sisters on their backs, acting like mothers, because no one has them. According to News24, even more than 60% of South Sudan refugees don’t have parents. 1 They come to a new country, perhaps one not of their choosing, without family or support.

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Then we have Venezuela, where mangoes and avocados were plenty. People had strong rights to property and talent flew into the country from Italy, Portugal, Spain. So in the 1950s, did you know Venezuela was in 4th place for GDP per capita — worldwide? 2

And now if anyone brings up human rights, tries to adjust the constitution for better, they are bloodied, beaten, put in jail and killed. President Nicolás Maduro jails political activists, punishes and terrorizes those in jail, and keeps the opposition hushed.3 El Helocoide is a jail, owned by the Bolivarian National Intelligence Service, that hosts hundreds number of people and where prisoners’ bones and spirits are broken, with 22 people per cell. Crammed in bodies, but hearts filled with righteousness.

And it happens in Venezuela in 2016 – Attorney General Luisa Ortega Díaz admitted the government and security forces killed hundreds during “Operation Peoples’ Liberation” (OLP).  Dozens more have been killed since. The security forces says that there were confrontations but the families say there were not confrontations. People are just killed at the whim of the government.4

And this is happening in our current day. What can you do about it? Well, there are ways to help. Don’t get overwhelmed, because you can help

just one other person.

 

 

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That’s right, help just one other person. If we all just helped one other person, then the entire world would be helped. We would help others, we’d be helping ourselves. So give back Sudan, Venezuela, and El Salvador today.

Citations:
1 “South Sudan’s refugee flow is often a children’s crisis”, Associated Press, April 15, 2018, https://www.news24.com/Africa/News/south-sudans-refugee-flow-is-often-a-childrens-crisis-20180415
2 Niño, José, “Venezuela Before Chavez: A Prelude to Socialist Failure, Mises Wire, May 4, 2017, https://mises.org/wire/venezuela-chavez-prelude-socialist-failure
3 Delgado, Antonio Maria, “ ‘Welcome to hell.’ Former Venezuelan political prisoner says he was tortured in jail”, July 20, 2018, https://www.miamiherald.com/news/nation-world/world/americas/venezuela/article215033815.html
4 “Venezuela: Events of 2016”, Human Rights Watch, https://www.hrw.org/world-report/2017/country-chapters/venezuela
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The Classic Pamela Positive: The Importance of “Yes And”

 

When on the improv stage, one of the most important principles is listening to and supporting your partner.  If you do this, you help create a very strong sense of team, and also further the story in a way that is interesting to the audience.

 

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For example, if someone says, “Let’s go to the store,” you can “Yes and” it by saying, “wonderful, I love JZ’s store, because it has such great record memorabilia that dates back to the fifties!” What you have done is “yes and-ed” your partner.  You have essentially built on the first concept they introduced, a store.

 

Contrary to good improv, one could have done a “yes but.” For example, “Okay, that store is fine, but I really want to go to the movies.” That is denying your partner on stage, and invalidating their idea. You are not building on their initial idea, nor are you moving the story forward. You’ve essentially blocked them.  our story has now halted, and your partner does not necessarily feel supported.  This is the importance of “yes and-ing” rather than “yes but-ing.”

 

 

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Whether you’re an investor, an improviser on the stage, leading a team at a company, or a soccer captain, we can all practice the glory of “yes and-ing” one another.  If we do so, we will build a beautiful and strong world based on a foundation of supporting wins for everyone, all around.

The Classic Pamela Positive: How You Can Give Back To A Youth- Without Money

 

 

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Do you know what some of the greatest needs of our youth today are? Love.

Trust.

Safety.

Kindness.

 

 

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So many of our youth need tangible, practical support.

Here are three key areas:

 

    1. Emotional Support

 

That’s having someone who’s there to listen and to support you with whatever you are feeling, or facing.

 

    2. Inspirational Support

 

This means that you are encouraging them to live their best lives and showing they can take a step forward, they can make a difference in their lives. Eventually, you want it to be not just about them, but about the future world that they’ll help create.

 

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    3. High Level Support

 

These are conversations that help youth understand how the world works and how they can impact the world. This makes them feel like their day-to-day and the world is “navigable”. How in a job they can support their future family. How they can march for freedom. How there is Temporary Assistance for Needy Families to help them get food and day-to-day support.

 

    4. High-Level Attention

 

Many kids have been neglected. They might have been left on the streets. Or they might have parents who don’t have time for them, or don’t wish to spend time.

So how is it, exactly, that you can help? With your committed, High-Level Attention. Here some of the qualities that you can embody with any youth you encounter.

 

 Be

      Nurturing.

Provide a

      friendship.

       Give them

          some love.

    Express

        compassion.

Be

      empathetic.

 

         Affirm every good decision

            and every good word they speak.

   

    Help be a model for caring relationships,

       by caring for them.

 

 

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    5. Recognize Any Accomplishment

During your time with them, you can identify their strengths and I would repeat it often. Remember, they missed out on needed, life-giving encouragement.   Everyone needs to hear that they’re good at something and often.

 

Recognize them for any accomplishment.

 

 

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Celebrate their accomplishments, and often. Bring it up again and again. You’re essentially saying:

 

I see you.

 

I see you too,

Pamela

 

 

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Pamela’s Weekly Words of Wisdom: Celebrate the Beauty of Balance!

cairn-437303_640We’re all here to help each other, and part of that is supporting balance.   And one of the ways we can do this is to encourage your team to share their goals outside of work.   In so doing, this will help your organization’s mission, too.

It’s important to have outside lives and interests.  You have to begin by recognizing those first for yourself.  Your team will see you modeling this balance and how it makes you a whole, fully giving person.

Why do we try to encourage our team to have outside interests, and to share their goals? We know UniversalGiving can’t be everything for everyone (even me :)).  Balance helps keep people energized and refreshed. They maintain strong critical thinking skills and positive energy. Your team also feels they can be transparent about what their goals are. Continue reading

Stay Positive And Committed

This week, our partner Forbes published my article about staying positive and committed. Enjoy!

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As a CEO, I am used to pressure. But even when it’s tough, I’ve learned to turn “off” moments into opportunities.

Here are three simple but effective strategies that have helped me remain committed and inspired since founding my organization in 2001. I hope they help you, too.

Take A Break

Being a CEO can be hectic. Our minds are racing between what we need to get done today and what our company will look like in the future — we have to be pragmatic operators and visionaries at the same time.

Be mindful of the stress you put on yourself. Many people think taking a break during the workday won’t work. Yet, according to ScienceDirect, Stanford researchers found taking breaks improves your ability to focus on a task. “Microbreaks,” which are 1-5-minute breaks, are most beneficial if taken throughout the day.

Taking a break means different things to different people. You can go on a walk, take a nap, review meditations or prayers, or shoot some hoops. If you are unable to leave your workplace, shift your thoughts to something different. One way I take a break is by reciting things for which I’m grateful. This turns into a beautiful stream of images: my parents’ smiles, the conversation I had with a friend the previous night, the radiant blue sky. This “off time” re-energizes my mind.



Have A Hobby

Studies have shown that external interests engage different parts of the brain and allow us to be more creative. Kevin Eschleman, a psychology professor at San Francisco State University, led a study to test how creative hobbies such as knitting, photography or even doodling can make an impact on your work life and productivity. It turns out that those who participate in creative hobbies do 15-30% better at work. Why? It allows you to unwind after a stressful day at the office, while still encouraging you to develop skills beneficial for your success professionally.

In my case, I adore improv. I find it thrilling to explore different characters, and be someone I’ve never been, nor ever will be, in real life. It also increases my listening skills and allows me to connect with others on stage. This helps me a better and diverse communicator at work, adjusting to different people’s styles. On the stage, you have to react, to make a decision. Similarly, if you want to be CEO, you’ll have to improvise and respond under pressure. Improv requires individuals to collaborate with one another, to let go of their judgment, and to become better listeners.

Engage With Caring Supporters

While many people don’t recognize it, CEOs need appreciation and support as well. Pay attention to your own heart. Surround yourself with strong supporters inside and outside of your company. This could be anyone from your Board of Directors to informal advisors, family or certain members of your management team.

Your inner circle of confidants should also be external to your work. Outside of work, my family is my number one supporter. They have seen me through starting two companies and the demands that come with that challenge.

In Conclusion

Be the creative and encouraging leader that you are inside. Take steps to avoid feeling burnout and to remain present, positive and energized. If you commit to being an inspired leader, your company will thrive.

What other strategies work for you? I look forward to your comments!

 

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