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The Classic Pamela Positive: A Solution to Any Relationship Problem: What Abraham Lincoln Did

 

“You can have no conflict without being yourselves the aggressors… Though passion may have strained it must not break our bonds of affection.”

 

— Abraham Lincoln

 

 

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No matter how we feel we have been wronged, let’s follow Lincoln’s wise advice.

 

At a minimum, we can pause before we take action.

 

We slow down to determine the right pathway.

 

 

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Even if we take a stance for what is right, we must come not from a space of ourselves  being right.

 

Taking action simply because we are right does not serve the end.  Taking action because we feel wronged most certainly doesn’t.

 

It wins no battles.  Your opponent, who is indeed your friend, will not feel heard, respected, even loved.

 

 

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We must step back and come from a space of calm and centeredness, expecting the best for both parties. Then, listening as to what that next step should be, we will be led.  Your response, then, is not a reaction; it is thoughtful.   It is not ever in retaliation, for no law endorses it. It is of pure motive, as Abraham Lincoln speaks to “the better angels of our nature.”

 

It does not matter if you are in politics, business, a personal relationship, in a family.  It all applies. It’s a law of nature that allows us to keep that “Union” that Abraham Lincoln fought so dearly for, for our country. Thus by his example and success, we too can take a stand to preserve the union of any relationship in our lives.

 

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Abraham Lincoln served as the 16th President of the United States, during the Civil War.  He was instrumental in ending slavery and is admired for his commitment to national unity, equal rights, liberty, and democracy in America. He is also known for his humble background, self-education, and skill with writing and rhetoric. He was not a member of any one organized religion, but he frequently used Biblical imagery and references in his writing and speaking, and referenced a Providence who had a higher purpose. The Civil War and the deaths of two of his children led him near the end of his life to more frequently speak of dependence on God.

Quote Source: Lincoln’s First Inaugural Address, quoted by Bob Buford in his newsletter article, “Prayers of Three Great Men in Unsettled Times.”

The Classic Pamela Positive: “Life Is 10% What Happens To You And 90% How You React To It.”- Charles R. Swindoll

“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.”

– Charles R. Swindol

 

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So your roommate left. The head of your soccer team left. Your husband left. Your children left for college. Your dog left and wandered away from home.

 

Those are events……. You aren’t responsible for them.

 

But… you are responsible for how you respond. Not even react – but respond… with

 

grace, 

 

love, 

 

and poise.

 

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There is an answer.

 

And the answer is not “why?”

 

It is not about complaint.

 

And it’s not about smashing rackets.

 

There is a peaceful, calm solution to what Life throws at you.

 

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You’ll find it, and respond with a positive solution.

 

That’s the only way,

 

Pamela

 

*****

 

Charles Rozell Swindoll was born on October 18, 1934, in El Campo in Wharton County, Texas. After graduating from high school, Swindoll then fulfilled his military service obligation with the United States Marine Corps, first in San Francisco, then on the Japanese island of Okinawa. After his honorable discharge in 1959, he attended Dallas Theological Seminary, where he graduated with three major honors and magna cum laude four years later. Swindoll was ordained into the ministry in 1963 and served in Dallas, he has since held senior pastorates. He has since received four honorary doctorate degrees from varying universities in honor of his dedication and contribution to ministry work. In July 1994, Swindoll became the president of the Dallas Theological Seminary and now serves as its chancellor. He is the author of more than 70 books, most of which are based on his research and preparation for sermons preached each Sunday.

 

On June 18, 1955, Swindoll married Cynthia Ann Parker, who used to be the pianist at a Baptist Church in Galena Park, Texas. Together, the couple has four children, ten grandchildren and two great-grandchildren. In 1998 Swindoll founded Stonebriar Community Church in Frisco. The church first held services at Collin County Community College (now Collin College), then moved to its permanent home on Legendary Drive. The congregation grew rapidly from a few hundred members to several thousand in the first few years and this growth has necessitated major expansion of the current facility. He’s been honored in numerous ways including Clergyman of the Year in 1988 and second most influential Christian preacher in 2009.  Many of the pastors at Stonebriar are graduates of Dallas Theological Seminary, and the church is known for its missionary work in India and in other countries.

 

 

Citations:
Fig. 1: Photo by Simon Davis/DFID
Fig. 2: Photo by Marvin Meyer on Unsplash
Fig. 3: Photo by Nick Dunlap on Unsplash

A Solution to Any Relationship Problem: What Abraham Lincoln Did

The_Peacemakers_1868“You can have no conflict without being yourselves the aggressors…

Though passion may have strained it must not break our bonds of affection.”

— Abraham Lincoln

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A Love that is Universal – William Barclay and Pammie Hawley

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“I am a convinced universalist. I believe that in the end all men will be gathered into the love [of God].”

-William Barclay

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A Solution to Any Relationship Problem: What Abraham Lincoln Did

“You can have no conflict without being yourselves the aggressors…

Though passion may have strained it must not break our bonds of affection.”

— Abraham Lincoln

*******************

No matter how we feel we have been wronged, let’s follow Lincoln’s wise advice.

At a minimum, we can pause before we take action.

We slow down to determine the right pathway.

Even if we take a stance for what is right, we must come not from a  space of ourselves  being right.

Taking action simply because we are right does not serve the end.  Taking action because we feel wronged most certainly doesn’t.

It wins no battles.  Your opponent, who is indeed your friend, will not feel heard, respected, even loved.

We must step back and come from a space of calm and centeredness, expecting the best for both parties. Then, listening as to what that next step should be, we will be led.  Your response, then, is not a reaction; it is thoughtful.   It is not ever in retaliation, for no law endorses it.  It is of pure motive, as Abraham Lincoln speaks to “the better angels of our nature.”

It does not matter if you are in politics, business, a personal relationship, in a family.  It all applies.  It’s a law of nature that allows us to keep that “Union” that Abraham Lincoln fought so dearly for, for our country. Thus by his example and success, we too can take a stand to preserve the union of any relationship in our lives.

Abraham Lincoln served as the 16th President of the United States, during the Civil War.  He was instrumental in ending slavery and is admired for his commitment to national unity, equal rights, liberty, and democracy in America.  He is also known for his humble background, self-education, and skill with writing and rhetoric.  He was  not a member of any one organized religion, but he frequently used Biblical imagery and references in his writing and speaking, and referenced a Providence who had a higher purpose.  The Civil War and the deaths of two of his children led him near the end of his life to more frequently speak of dependence on God.

Quote Source: Lincoln’s First Inaugural Address, quoted by Bob Buford in his newsletter article, “Prayers of Three Great Men in Unsettled Times.”

A Solution to Any Relationship Problem: What Abraham Lincoln Did

“You can have no conflict without being yourselves the aggressors…

Though passion may have strained it must not break our bonds of affection.”

— Abraham Lincoln

*******************

No matter how we feel we have been wronged, let’s follow Lincoln’s wise advice.

At a minimum, we can pause before we take action.

We slow down to determine the right pathway.

Even if we take a stance for what is right, we must come not from a  space of ourselves  being right.

Taking action simply because we are right does not serve the end.  Taking action because we feel wronged most certainly doesn’t.

It wins no battles.  Your opponent, who is indeed your friend, will not feel heard, respected, even loved.

We must step back and come from a space of calm and centeredness, expecting the best for both parties. Then, listening as to what that next step should be, we will be led.  Your response, then, is not a reaction; it is thoughtful.   It is not ever in retaliation, for no law endorses it.  It is of pure motive, as Abraham Lincoln speaks to “the better angels of our nature.”

It does not matter if you are in politics, business, a personal relationship, in a family.  It all applies.  It’s a law of nature that allows us to keep that “Union” that Abraham Lincoln fought so dearly for, for our country. Thus by his example and success, we too can take a stand to preserve the union of any relationship in our lives.

Abraham Lincoln served as the 16th President of the United States, during the Civil War.  He was instrumental in ending slavery and is admired for his commitment to national unity, equal rights, liberty, and democracy in America.  He is also known for his humble background, self-education, and skill with writing and rhetoric.  He was  not a member of any one organized religion, but he frequently used Biblical imagery and references in his writing and speaking, and referenced a Providence who had a higher purpose.  The Civil War and the deaths of two of his children led him near the end of his life to more frequently speak of dependence on God.

Quote Source: Lincoln’s First Inaugural Address, quoted by Bob Buford in his newsletter article, “Prayers of Three Great Men in Unsettled Times.”