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The Classic Pamela Positive: “Civility Is The Behavior That Marks…Share Common, Public, and Political Space” – Daniel Mendelsohn



“Civility is the behavior that marks mutual acknowledgement that we individuals share common, public, and political space. Think about the platforms through which you interact with people all day, the media that we call social, but if anything, have enhanced our ability to be asocial.

To screen every element of society, culture and politics that doesn’t suit or flatter or soothe us; thereby, removing the necessity for civility in the first place.”

–       Daniel Mendelsohn



Graciousness, goodness, civility—all of this helps us to maintain a sense of calm and peace. Did you know anxiety is one of the most prevalent challenges we face in the U.S.? Nearly one 1/5 of our population experiences it. Yet only 1/3 try to find help.1 They are hurting… and continue to hurt. 



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Where do we think this anxiety is coming from? First, it’s coming from disconnectedness. We aren’t really getting the nurturance and love that we need from one-on-one interactions. And those interactions need to be with people we don’t know, and with people we do.


With people we do know, we build upon positive loving actions that make them become habit and security. With people we don’t know, it enforces the need to extend ourselves, to spread love and to give back. Both are essential.



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If we want more civility, that means that we need to slow down. If we want more civility, that means less screen time. If we want more civility, that means that we care and express our love for more people. It’s that simple. And who doesn’t want to love more? So let’s try.


May you live a civil day today, may you live it with care for everyone in every word that you give out, in every touch, and every comment that you make. And in every thought, so that in our minds and in our actions, civility becomes the natural way again.



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How we all long for graciousness and civility!

With Graciousness,





Daniel Mendelsohn is a classist, writer, and critic. A graduate of Princeton’s graduate school, he published work on Euripidean tragedy before he went on to become a contributor to publications such as The New York TimesOutThe Nation and more. He was born in Long Island and raised in Old Bethage, New York. He received his undergraduate degree at the University of Virginia in Classics. He writes reviews on books, films, theater and television. He has won Princeton University’s James Madison Medal in 2018, American Philological Association President’s Award for service to the Classics in 2014 and the American Academy of Arts and Letters award for Prose Style in 2014. Currently, he is a professor at Bard College. He is also the director of the Robert B. Silvers Foundation, which supports writers. In his free time, Mendelsohn enjoys watching television and going to the movie theater. He has two children and four siblings, including a brother who is a film director, another brother who is a photographer and a sister who is a journalist.



The Classic Pamela Positive: Wisdom, Philosophy, Greatness


“Keep me away from the wisdom which does not cry, the philosophy which does not laugh and the greatness which does not bow before children.”

— Kahlil Gibran




What a beautiful quote from Kahlil Gibran, a philosopher and leader who was so conscious of living in tune with nature, our feelings and our sincerest intentions.






Kahlil Gibran was born in Lebanon in 1883 and emigrated to the United States as a young man. When he came to the U.S., he started his art career, writing in both English and Arabic.  He is best known for his work of philosophical essays, “The Prophet”. “The Prophet” has never been out of print since its initial publication in 1923. Gibran studied at the Académie Julian art school from 1908-1910 in Paris, where he excelled especially in drawing and watercolor. He was raised in a Christian family, but also was heavily influenced by Islam. In Lebanon, he is known as a literary hero. He is the third best-selling poet in the world, after Shakespeare and Lao-Tzu–excellent company to be in!

The Pamela Positive: Teach Me Love – Robert Browning

Teach me, only teach me, Love!
As I ought.
I will speak thy speech, Love,
Think thy thought-

— Robert Browning

Robert Browning (1812-1889) is a well-known Victorian poet and playwright.  His writing met with little critical or public success for most of his lifetime, though it did bring him to the attention of many other well-known writers, including Thomas Carlyle, Wordsworth and Dickens.  Some of his later works met with wider success, including The Ring and the Book, and he is now highly regarded for his dramatic monologues, and both his long and short poetry.  He is also known for his romance and marriage to Elizabeth Barrett Browning, another famous poet.  He is the subject of her best-known poem, which begins, “How do I love thee, let me count the ways.”