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The Classic Pamela Positive: How Close You Are To Success?

“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”

-Thomas A. Edison


That’s a shocking statement.  How close you are to success….

You can do it…

You could do it…

You are ascending the mountain…

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and you stop.


How close are you?  Connect with your true, heart-deep motivation.  Instead of focusing on blocks, frustration or being tired, you can focus on why you are doing what you do.

They Gave Up. They Didn’t Realize. They Were So Close!  Success was just there….. all what Edison tells us.


So what will you do today? Give up or cross over?  Give up or stand up? Give up or ascend? Continue on your pathway, and firmly but gently, success will lead you.


Thank you dear Thomas Edison, as we know you failed thousands of times. Yet your success still shines in our lives today.





Edison was born in 1847 in the canal town of Milan, Ohio. In 1859 Edison began working on a local branch of the Grand Trunk Railroad, selling newspapers, magazines, and candy. At one point he also conducted chemical experiments in a baggage-car laboratory.



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In 1868 Edison became an independent inventor in Boston. Edison soon acquired a reputation as a first-rank inventor. In 1871, Edison married 16-year-old Mary Stilwell, whom he had met two months earlier. She was an employee at one of his shops.  They had three children. Mary Edison died at age 29 in 1884, of unknown causes.


While working on the telephone in the summer of 1877, Edison discovered a method of recording sound, and in the late fall he unveiled the phonograph. Finally, beginning in the fall of 1878, Edison devoted thirty months to developing a complete system of incandescent electric lighting.

In 1886, at the age of thirty-nine, Edison married the 20-year-old Mina Miller. They also had three children together. Edison generally preferred spending time in the laboratory to being with his family. By the time of his death on October 18, 1931, Edison had received 1,093 U.S. patents, a total still untouched by any other inventor. Even more important, he created a model for modern industrial research.

 The Classic Pamela Positive: In Order to Love, You Must First Learn

“The greatest of human emotions is love. The most valuable of human gifts is the ability to learn. Therefore learn to love.”


 – UJ Ramdas



Oh! Dear Leaders today… may we embrace this lovely admonition. Our life is a beautiful life, at home at work, in the depths of despair, in the positive celebrations. We must continue to learn, and continue to love.




I will share this story with you. Early on in my work life, I was running my second company around age 31? 32? And my heart was all in it. It was my calling; it was UniversalGiving. And had worked very hard to get it off the ground.


We were building the team, and it was a young team. Like me… so some were only a few years younger than me, or my age! What to do.


Kindness was key for me. That’s what I grew up with in my home, and I didn’t know any differently. But now, there were points of difference. People wanted things done a certain way, weren’t gracious in their conversation, or they didn’t want to work as much, but we we’re still in startup mode and needed that extra effort in the beginning (in the long-run though, I highly believe in balance!) And I cowtowed.


Because kindness ruled my day, I let that lead everything.


I let them do most everything they wanted, to maintain harmony.


But there wasn’t.


And I got walked on. And tremendously hurt.

And they spoke down to me. And I let it happen.



There were no boundaries.



And they lost respect for me.


And they left.


And I really, really hurt.


I was staying with my values of kindness, yet, it was a permissiveness that was not actually loving. Love can be strong, and kind, and with boundaries. So I had to learn.


This is why I highly agree with UJ Ramdas. We must love– but we must learn. I learned to love in higher, different way– one based on kindness, firmness and adherance to my values. And with that, my respect for myself — and others’ respect for me — returned. And I could rebuild the team.


If you have a challenge today, seek out what you need to learn, and how you need to love. That’s how we can be our best leadership self. Don’t wait — we start today.  (:



UJ Ramdas brings together his passion for psychology and business to create a better world. Along with Alex Ikon, he co-created the “Five Minute Journal” with the goal to enable people to be happier in five minutes a day. With a background in behavioral science, marketing, and hypnosis he consults with hundreds of clients to bring them out of confusion into clarity. Currently based in Toronto, Canada, he is a huge fan of wilderness, eastern meditative practices, and a good cup of tea. You can visit his website by clicking here.

The Classic Pamela Positive: “Tomorrow Is The Most Important Thing In Life.” – John Wayne


“Tomorrow is the most important thing in life.  It comes into us at midnight very clean. It’s perfect when it arrives and it puts itself in our hands. It hopes we’ve learned something from yesterday.”

-John Wayne


When I think of John Wayne, he was a scowling cowboy, master of the screen.  He seemed so strong and invincible!






Wayne teaches us that we all need to be learners. Even if you think you’re really tough, you need to see how you can be better. You can reflect on yesterday and lessons learned. Then, you’ll make today a better day.






While are are tempted to think of John Wayne as cowboy actor, he expanded and skills during different part of his life. He was an excellent athlete and collegiate award-winning football player. He later became very outspoken about political and international issues, even influencing international policy. Wayne was awarded the Congressional Gold Medal and the Presidential Medal of Freedom. On the way, he had 7 children, and also fought cancer, becoming a strong advocate trying to find healing answers for all. And yes, he was an actor. 


So if you think you’ve reached a deadened, look deeper at yourself.



You have many talents



and many chapters to unfold in your life.



You aren’t talent-less or talent-dead. You have something, and many things, important to give.

There is no dead-end… as long as you don’t think there is. Most people know John Wayne as an actor. Yet his legacy is 100x more important. He learned from each past day, and made “Tomorrow the most important thing.”

The Classic Pamela Positive: “You Do Things When The Opportunities Come Along” – Warren Buffett

You do things when the opportunities come along.  I’ve had periods in my life when I’ve had a bundle of ideas come along, and I’ve had long dry spells. If I get an idea next week, I’ll do something. If not, I won’t do a damn thing.”  

– Warren Buffett


You’re an entrepreneur. A scientist. A playwright. A second-grade teacher with a curriculum you need to put together. An artist. A music organizer. A guitarist. A preacher. All of them need new ideas, new creativity, every day!





It’s exciting… and also a lot of pressure.


What’s happening when “you don’t have any ideas”?


Well, something very important is happening.


First, your brain cannot be on creative overdrive every moment. It needs time to recharge and build up “blank” space. It’s like saying you don’t need to sleep. Body, mind, heart and soul all need time for rest… and then you can keep giving your 100% and be charged to excel again!






Secondly, patience is key. Just as Warren Buffett says, “if he doesn’t have an idea he doesn’t do anything.”


That’s really key. He’s not forcing it. He’s staying patient. He’s believing that the new idea is going to come.


And here’s where the real lesson is. He doesn’t make a billion dollar mistake.


If you get worried, push something, force an answer– it’s usually not right. So Buffett has done a brilliant but simple thing. He hasn’t made a lot of mistakes because he is not pushing it. He’s trusting the creative process. And therefore, waiting, patiently, for that wisdom. Therefore he makes billions of dollars, rather than lose billions of dollars.






Let’s review Buffett’s wisdom again. How does this affect your life? When have you made a rushed mistake? When you have had patience

and waited for that peaceful answer? Please comment below!

“You do things when the opportunities come along. I’ve had periods in my life when I’ve had a bundle of ideas come along, and I’ve had long dry spells. If I get an idea next week, I’ll do something. If not, I won’t do a damn thing.” 

– Warren Buffett



Born in Nebraska in 1930, Warren Buffett demonstrated keen business abilities at a young age. Nebraska was hit hard by the effects of the Great Depression. Like many children of the Depression, Buffett grew up to respect the value of money.

In grade school and high school Buffett not only showed his precocious proclivity for business by delivering newspapers, but also sold stamps, Coca-Cola beverages, golf balls and magazines door-to-door. By the time he was 15, Warren had amassed $2,000 and used it to buy a 40-acre farm in Nebraska. He hired a farm laborer to work on the land, then used the profits to help pay his way through University.

He formed Buffett Partnership Ltd. in 1956, and by 1965 he had assumed control of Berkshire Hathaway. Overseeing the growth of a conglomerate with holdings in the media, insurance, energy and food and beverage industries, Buffett became one of the world’s richest men and a celebrated philanthropist. In June of 2006, Buffett announced his intention to give away most of his fortune to charity.

Buffett believes in family and has 4 children, and lives in the same hometown of Nebraska.

10 Strategies To Successfully Start, Fund And Run A Nonprofit Organization


I am so pleased to share UniversalGiving™ was featured in a Forbes Expert Panel article. This article focused on giving advice to anyone who is looking to start a nonprofit and you can see answers from the rest of the community here. Scroll down to see our response on how a wonderful board can help build support and credibility for your nonprofit!



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5. Build Your Board Early

“People might like your idea, but they want to know who is behind it. Get strong, caring and well-connected people on your board. This provides credibility and support. People want to know who is involved, besides you and your staff. That builds momentum, experience and wisdom into your efforts early on.”

 Pamela Hawley, UniversalGiving




What Will Nonprofits Look Like In 2025? Nine Experts Weigh In


I am so pleased to share UniversalGiving™ was featured in a Forbes Expert Panel article. The question was “What factors will influence or change the way their organization functions over the next several years?” and you can see answers from the rest of the community here. Scroll down to see our response on how data will change how nonprofits operate!



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“With data analytics and machine learning, we’ll be able to forecast our futures. This is true for our program services, as well as for our funders. Data analytics will help us understand how people operate and patterns of behaviors. We will adjust the services we provide based on this learning. Similarly, we will know how funders operate and how much and when to ask for funding.”

 Pamela Hawley, UniversalGiving




Seven Tried-And-True Alternative Forms Of Funding For Nonprofits


I am so pleased to share UniversalGiving™ was featured in a Forbes Expert Panel article.  The question is where do nonprofits look for alternate sources of funding and you can view many answers from our nonprofit community here. Scroll down to see our response on how fun fundraising dinners can make a difference!



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7. Fun Fundraising Dinners


“We love fundraising dinners. You can contact a local restaurant, and they will often donate a portion of their receipts to you! It’s fun, engaging and brings your supporters together. You can talk about your mission, have a roundtable on what people love about your organization and build culture and funds at the same time. You do need to market!”


 Pamela Hawley, UniversalGiving