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The Classic Pamela Positive: Be Prepared to Be Kind


Be Prepared. That’s the motto of the Girl Scouts and Boy Scouts.

When you think about it, being prepared is not just for wilderness trips. And while being prepared often means having savings, storing water for an earthquake or natural disaster, and keeping a flashlight in your car, it also means being prepared qualitatively. It’s about being prepared to react with positive qualities, in your day to day life.






It’s all about what you hold, store and prepare within yourself.

So be prepared to be kind.

Some days you may not receive pleasant news. Will you react in anger, distrust, sadness, gloom? Or will you respond with patience, a willingness to see all sides and the realization that all things are truly working towards a greater good?






Set yourself to react kindly. That means both to yourself and others. Don’t come down hard on yourself; don’t come down hard on others. Be understanding.

Be prepared to be kind. It’s the ultimate preparation.





Girl Scouts:

Girl Scouts of the USA is the world’s preeminent organization dedicated solely to girls—all girls—where, in an accepting and nurturing environment, girls build character and skills for success in the real world. In partnership with committed adult volunteers, girls develop qualities that will serve them all their lives, like leadership, strong values, social conscience, and conviction about their own potential and self-worth. http://www.girlscouts.org/

Boy Scouts:

The Boy Scouts of America is one of the nation’s largest and most prominent values-based youth development organizations. The BSA provides a program for young people that builds character, trains them in the responsibilities of participating citizenship, and develops personal fitness. http://www.scouting.org/

The Classic Pamela Positive: Better To Make a Few Mistakes Being Natural


“Better to make a few mistakes being natural than to do everything out of a feeling of worry.”


The Common Sense Book of Baby and Child Care, Dr. Benjamin Spock, 1946





It’s better to make a few mistakes being natural.   It’s important to be who we are in a natural, real way.  If we get everything right, and are absolutely perfect, but it’s done with anxiety…. then it actually isn’t right, is it?


What we do needs to be done with care, love, calm.  With joy and sincerity…and since Dr. Benjamin Spock was a famous leader in parenting in the 40s, I’ll take his advice not only for parenting, but also for management.  And for our communications, how we live our lives, how we treat others…




Dr. Spock was an influential writer on childrearing, who advocated for increased flexibility and affection in the treatment of infants and children. He was a pediatrician and his book entitled Baby and Childcare is one of the best selling books in history. Aside from that work, he also published 12 other books. He was an activist, involved in the anti-war movements in the 1960s and 1970s. While at Yale University, he became an Olympic gold medalist in rowing. He married Jane Cheney and they had two children together.

The Classic Pamela Positive: “What the World Needs Is People Who Have Come Alive” – Howard Thurman


“Don’t ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive and then go do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”

– Howard Thurman


This is very true.






Often I hear people say,”Oh! I wish I did something meaningful like you do, helping the world.”


Working in philanthropy is a wonderful way to serve. But just because you aren’t a social worker, teacher, or philanthropist doesn’t mean you aren’t living a meaningful life of service.


Follow what your deepest inner voice tells you – not what society says. You are created for a purpose.





It may be that you have a passion and talent for design. Help make peoples’ homes a special haven. We all need a haven, and a place to welcome others, and ourselves.





Perhaps you love numbers. Become an accountant or work at a bank. Help provide order and semblance to the operations and reports.


What would I do without my bank? Where would I put the deposits of donations for UniversalGiving? We need you, and we need a good banker.





You love sports. Play that game with integrity and enthusiasm! With the greatest sportsmanship. You will be a model for everyone watching, your colleagues, the audience, the referees, and any children present. Modeling positive energy and ethics, you can’t lose.


So much of life is simply how we live each moment. It’s how we govern each activity.






You serve by being kind. You serve by following your passion. You serve by being true to yourself. Don’t do what you think you should do; do what you are created to do. You will find all types of wonderful people needing your inspiration and services, in ways you’ve never imagined.


And remember, the most important is “who you be.” Did you live kindly, with integrity, with joy today?


That’s the greatest service to our world, and open to all.


Take the time,


The Classic Pamela Positive: Sit Down at the Table


“…they’ve done studies on children who are required to sit down at the family table and those who are not.  And the ones who are score higher academically; they’re more well adjusted.”

– Paula Deen, Food Network Star






Sit down, be present, share. It’s not just about community, about family… but also about being the best we can be. Sitting down at the table with your loved ones for a mealtime shares love, and, helps you reach your goals!




Paula Deen was born Paula Hiers in Albany, Georgia, the daughter of Corrie A. (née Paul) and Earl Wayne Hiers, Sr. Her parents died before she was 23, and an early marriage ended in divorce. In her 20s, Deen suffered from panic attacks and agoraphobia. She then focused on cooking for her family as something she could do without leaving her house.


Her grandmother Irene Paul had taught her the hand-me-down art of Southern cooking; one of the only places she felt safe was at her own stove, making thousands of pots of chicken and dumplings.  She later moved to Savannah, Georgia, with her sons. In 1989, she divorced her husband, Jimmy Deen, to whom she had been married since 1965.  She tried hanging wallpaper, working as a bank teller, selling real estate and insurance. She then started a catering service,  making sandwiches and meals, which her sons Jamie and Bobby delivered.

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The Classic Pamela Positive: What’s In a Conversation…Who Will You “Turn Towards” Today?


The word to conversehas morphed to mean using words or talking.


But what it meant at inception was to turn towards one another.






First, it was designed to delve more deeply into a truth of some sort.  To learn more, explore, care.  It was also to find commonalities amongst people.


Yet even more importantly, it means we turn to one another with our full attention. With care, with sincere interest, even a them-onlyfocus.  To converse, then, is actually one of the greatest signs of respect we can provide someone.






Who will you turn towardstoday?

This Is The Age Of A Human’s Right


Today is a day where anyone can say whatever they want.



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You can speak rudely to your boss

You can write a negative review

You can tell someone off and not feel badly (is that really true?)

You can state your rights, expect them to be heard and be enfranchised in every view point you have.

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This is the age of a human’s right. A human’s right to speak, a human’s right to voice their opinion, a human’s right to be heard, and

a human’s right to have things arighted.   

In so many cases, this is wonderful, just, and long-time coming. People have been abused and silent; their perpetrators have gotten away with it. Women have been beaten and neglected; children have been sold into slavery… They have never been able to look back, look forward, or get out.

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Gay men have been discriminated against and disabled people have been quietly discriminated against, at times when they know it and at times when they don’t. Muslims, Christian Scientists, Sunnis, Muslim Uighurs, and Tibetan Buddhists have been vilified, shunned… In each country their injustices take place.

In the 1930s…the Salvadorian government took over the territory of thousands of native Indians. When the Indian populations revolted, the Salvadoran military killed thousands of the native population Now, only 10% indigenous people exist. 1

Tell me this isn’t revolting; it’s inexplicable how a human can do this to another human.

It cannot be. For these human rights, and every human’s right, we must take a stand.



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Practice kindness and doing the right thing.

While we take a stand in the present, we must also take a stand for the past. We have to acknowledge what happened under the Nazi era in Germany, we have to support Jewish people and their future heritage for something that happened seventy years ago. We have to help South Sudanese people, who have had fourteen- and fifteen-year old’s fleeing their lands for a decade, carrying their sisters on their backs, acting like mothers, because no one has them. According to News24, even more than 60% of South Sudan refugees don’t have parents. 2 They come to a new country, perhaps one not of their choosing, without family or support.

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Then we have Venezuela, where mangoes and avocados were plenty. People had strong rights to property and talent flew into the country from Italy, Portugal, Spain. So in the 1950s, did you know Venezuela was in 4th place for GDP per capita — worldwide? 3

And now if anyone brings up human rights, tries to adjust the constitution for better, they are bloodied, beaten, put in jail and killed. President Nicolás Maduro jails political activists, punishes and terrorizes those in jail, and keeps the opposition hushed. 4  El Helocoide is a jail, owned by the Bolivarian National Intelligence Service, that hosts hundreds number of people and where prisoners’ bones and spirits are broken, with 22 people per cell. Crammed in bodies, but hearts filled with righteousness.

And it happens in Venezuela in 2016 – Attorney General Luisa Ortega Díaz admitted the government and security forces killed hundreds during “Operation Peoples’ Liberation” (OLP).  Dozens more have been killed since. The security forces says that there were confrontations but the families say there were not confrontations. People are just killed at the whim of the government. 5

And this is happening in our current day. What can you do about it? Well, there are ways to help. Don’t get overwhelmed, because you can help

just one other person.



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That’s right, help just one other person. If we all just helped one other person, then the entire world would be helped. We would help others, we’d be helping ourselves. So give back Sudan, Venezuela, and El Salvador today.



1 Chapin, Mac, “The 500,000 Invisible Indians of El Salvador”, Cultural Survival Quarterly Magazine, September 1989, https://www.culturalsurvival.org/publications/cultural-survival-quarterly/500000-invisible-indians-el-salvador
2 “South Sudan’s refugee flow is often a children’s crisis”, Associated Press, April 15, 2018, https://www.news24.com/Africa/News/south-sudans-refugee-flow-is-often-a-childrens-crisis-20180415
3 Niño, José, “Venezuela Before Chavez: A Prelude to Socialist Failure, Mises Wire, May 4, 2017, https://mises.org/wire/venezuela-chavez-prelude-socialist-failure
4 Delgado, Antonio Maria, “ ‘Welcome to hell.’ Former Venezuelan political prisoner says he was tortured in jail”, July 20, 2018, https://www.miamiherald.com/news/nation-world/world/americas/venezuela/article215033815.html
5 “Venezuela: Events of 2016”, Human Rights Watch, https://www.hrw.org/world-report/2017/country-chapters/venezuela
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The Classic Pamela Positive: “I shut my eyes in order to see.” – Paul Gauguin

“I shut my eyes in order to see.” 

– Paul Gauguin





Paul Gauguin (1848-1903) was an artist who was renowned for his Post Impressionism painting in the 19th century. He was an innovator in the use of bold colors. At the same time, he also brought out the meaning of each subject. He balanced authenticity with innovation.


What we can learn from Paul Gauguin: Let’s ‘see’ differently. Don’t use your eyes.  Instead, use “meaning” to see.






What’s meaningful to you? Be bold in recognizing it. You’ll see an amazing painting of goodness, kindness and abundance all around you, if you will just see.





Eugène Henri Paul Gauguin (7 June 1848 – 8 May 1903) was a leading French Post-Impressionist artist who was not well appreciated until after his death. Gauguin was later recognized for his experimental use of colors and synthetist style that were distinguishably different from Impressionism. His work was influential to the French avant-garde and many modern artists, such as Pablo Picasso, and Henri Matisse. Gauguin’s art became popular after his death and many of his paintings were in the possession of Russian collector Sergei Shchukin. He was an important figure in the Symbolist movement as a painter, sculptor, printmaker, ceramist, and writer. His bold experimentation with coloring led directly to the Synthetist style of modern art, while his expression of the inherent meaning of the subjects in his paintings, under the influence of the cloisonnist style, paved the way to Primitivism and the return to the pastoral. He was also an influential proponent of wood engraving and woodcuts as art forms.

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