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The Classic Pamela Positive: “A Selfless Person Is More Concerned About the Happiness of Another…”


“A selfless person is one who is more concerned about the happiness and well-being of another than about his or her own convenience or comfort, one who is willing to serve another when it is neither sought for nor appreciated, or one who is willing to serve even those whom he or she dislikes.

A selfless person displays a willingness to sacrifice, a willingness to purge from his or her mind and heart personal wants, and needs, and feelings. Instead of reaching for and requiring praise and recognition for himself, or gratification of his or her own wants, the selfless person will meet these very human needs for others. ”

–H. Burke Peterson





What a great lesson to learn today, team Living and Giving. You need
to think about how you can think about others. 

We all have a tendency to think about our lives, our pathway, our job,
our marriage, our date, our dog, our, our, OUR!

Get off yourself and on to serving others.   You will feel an
indescribable joy, and, relief!  Life is not just about you. Start
living… for others.

I love you,



H. Burke Peterson was an authority in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, and the author of “A Glimpse of Glory”. He was born in Salt Lake City, Utah and grew up in Phoenix, Arizona. In World War II, he fought with the American Navy in the Pacific theatre.  After the war, he attended the University of Arizona and went on to receive his masters at the Utah State Agricultural College. Throughout his time serving in the church, he was published in The Ensign of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, which is the official periodical of the Church, numerous times He was married to Brookie Carden in 1947, and they had five daughters.

The Classic Pamela Positive: Give A Gift Every Day


Give a gift every day.

Send your friend’s birthday gift early.

See a gift that would be meaningful for someone you care about, and just buy it. Give it to them now.

Take the time to cook a meal for your partner or your roommate.  Take the time to cook a meal for yourself.

Smile at a person walking down the street.

Smile at a homeless person and stop and learn their name. There is the gift of knowing someone. Of acknowledging you care.

Be kind to yourself.






Get in bed early.

Say three gratefuls before you fall asleep.

Say three gratefuls when you wake up.

Believe today is special.

Take time at lunch to be grateful for three more things.

Pay the phone bill for your roommate.

Drop off banana bread for your neighbor.

Give a lot. Expect little.

Smile at yourself in the mirror.

Work hard and attain the gift of devotion to something you believe in.

Work and leave early and give yourself a gentle night off, nurturing yourself.

Stop and look at nature. Any part of nature. The expanse of the sky; drifting clouds; a vibrant flower.

Give yourself the gift of awareness of how precious and beautiful life is every day.

The Classic Pamela Positive: See The Latest On How Are We Connect

In an interesting book called Lessons for the 21st Century, Yuval Noah Harari reminds us that as human beings we are always connected.



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What is so profound is his discovery of the connections that have happened in our past.

Community was in the form of groups, religion, churches, community leagues, philosophies, salons, discussions and in-person gatherings. As someone who loves volunteering, I love community. Community means spending time together.






Yet a shift is happening. Machine-learning and AI are starting to assume the wisdom of how we should group. The wisdom of how we should communicate and the wisdom of our actions. “Group data” is dictating how our communities should act, how we should act, and what we are going to do.

I love community — and I also love technology. I believe it can be used for good. Many companies can use AI and these behavioral predictions to help people in health, business predictions, and operations, reducing costs. This kind of AI is all good.



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But how discomforting that AI transcends into our personal sphere. Now, more than ever, many of us long for a true, heartfelt connection. Long for caring about the world, long for caring about each other. And machine learning is supposed to be our glue? Machine learning is going to tell us how are going to connect and when and how?



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I’m not sure we want to be categorized by group behaviors, by computer algorithms that say when we should talk, when we need to meet, or predict how we’re going to behave.






However, this may well help companies and their sales teams. It will help companies create and deliver products that may appeal to us. But the line has to stop when it starts to dictate how we act, feel, or how we will act or feel.



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There’s a part of life that shouldn’t be categorized. There’s a part of human connection that should be considered priceless, unquantifiable. There is a part of us that all long for the literary salon,






the community group with a potluck,






the book club where we are all nurturing and listening to each other






and the warm church or synagogue or temple gathering.






We’re not asking to be quantified.



Let’s go find and nurture community the old-fashioned, connected way. It will create deep relationships and help us be our best. We can be grateful for advancement in technology, but keep community personal. If we listen to our hearts, we will know when we need to meet, with whom and where. We must be sure to

listen to our hearts.


Let’s Go Out And Find Some Community,





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The Classic Pamela Positive: What’s In a Conversation…Who Will You “Turn Towards” Today?


The word to conversehas morphed to mean using words or talking.


But what it meant at inception was to turn towards one another.






First, it was designed to delve more deeply into a truth of some sort.  To learn more, explore, care.  It was also to find commonalities amongst people.


Yet even more importantly, it means we turn to one another with our full attention. With care, with sincere interest, even a them-onlyfocus.  To converse, then, is actually one of the greatest signs of respect we can provide someone.






Who will you turn towardstoday?


Turning Towards You,




The Classic Pamela Positive: Why Certain People Are In Your Life

These words have been inspiring to me, and I am glad to share them with you.

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.






When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly.  They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.  They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be.






Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.  They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.






LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person (any way); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind, but friendship is clairvoyant.

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The Classic Pamela Positive: Be Prepared to Be Kind


Be Prepared. That’s the motto of the Girl Scouts and Boy Scouts.

When you think about it, being prepared is not just for wilderness trips. And while being prepared often means having savings, storing water for an earthquake or natural disaster, and keeping a flashlight in your car, it also means being prepared qualitatively. It’s about being prepared to react with positive qualities, in your day to day life.






It’s all about what you hold, store and prepare within yourself.

So be prepared to be kind.

Some days you may not receive pleasant news. Will you react in anger, distrust, sadness, gloom? Or will you respond with patience, a willingness to see all sides and the realization that all things are truly working towards a greater good?






Set yourself to react kindly. That means both to yourself and others. Don’t come down hard on yourself; don’t come down hard on others. Be understanding.

Be prepared to be kind. It’s the ultimate preparation.





Girl Scouts:

Girl Scouts of the USA is the world’s preeminent organization dedicated solely to girls—all girls—where, in an accepting and nurturing environment, girls build character and skills for success in the real world. In partnership with committed adult volunteers, girls develop qualities that will serve them all their lives, like leadership, strong values, social conscience, and conviction about their own potential and self-worth. http://www.girlscouts.org/

Boy Scouts:

The Boy Scouts of America is one of the nation’s largest and most prominent values-based youth development organizations. The BSA provides a program for young people that builds character, trains them in the responsibilities of participating citizenship, and develops personal fitness. http://www.scouting.org/

The Classic Pamela Positive: Promise Yourself – To be too large for worry… (Part 10 of 10)


Promise Yourself, by Christian D. Larson


Promise Yourself is a beautiful list of 10 Positives we should “Promise Ourselves.”   The piece allows us to embrace life fully by expecting the best and clearing away anything that might hold us back.    It’s healthy for our minds and hearts.





Here’s your tenth one, below. I hope you will practice it with me today!  Please let me know your thoughts and how it affects your day, your life, and the people around you.


Promise yourself

To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.



Christian D. Larson (1874 – 1962) was a New Thought leader and teacher, as well as a prolific author of metaphysical and New Thought books. He is credited by Horatio Dresser as being a founder in the New Thought movement.  Many of Larson’s books remain in print today, nearly 100 years after they were first published, and his writings influenced notable New Thought authors and leaders, including Religious Science founder, Ernest Holmes.

Larson, of Norwegian origin, was born in Iowa and attended Iowa State College and a Unitarian theological school in Meadville, PA.  While little is known about his personal life and what led to his studies in mental science, what is known is its logical teachings appealed to Larson’s analytical mind and led him to discover that combining theology and science could provide a practical and systematic philosophy of life.  During his time he was honorary president of the International New Thought Alliance and lectured extensively during the 1920s and 1930s. He was a colleague of such notables as William Walker Atkinson, Charles Brodie Patterson, and Home of Truth founder Annie Rix Militz. He developed the Optimist Creed in use today by Optimist International, better known as the Optimist Clubs.

Bio Source: Wikipedia and Christian D. Larson Home Page