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The Classic Pamela Positive: Do It Anyway

Do It Anyway

People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered.
Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives.
Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies.
Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and sincere, people may deceive you.
Be honest and sincere anyway.

What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight.
Create anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous.
Be happy anyway.

The good you do today, will often be forgotten.
Do good anyway.

Give the best you have, and it will never be enough.
Give your best anyway.

In the final analysis, it is between you and God.  It was never between you and them anyway.

This poem is widely attributed to Mother Teresa, after it was found hanging on a wall in her home for children in Calcutta.  It is a revised version of “The Paradoxical Commandments,” written by Dr. Kent M. Keith.  You can read more about the story on our UniversalGiving blog, PhilanthroPost.


The Classic Pamela Positive: “Death Is Nothing At All”

My beloved Oma was one of my best friends. And yet she is with me constantly. It’s not easy, it never will be, but it changes. I am learning to become more natural in my connection with her, even though I can’t see her. I can still feel her presence, I can still feel her love.

I spoke this from memory at her service, and I still love it to this day. Oma, I know you are “just around the corner.” I love you, Oma.

Death Is Nothing At All

Henry Scott Holland

Death is nothing at all.

I have only slipped away to the next room.

I am I and you are you.

Whatever we were to each other,

That, we still are.

Call me by my old familiar name.

Speak to me in the easy way

which you always used.

Put no difference into your tone.

Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.

Laugh as we always laughed

at the little jokes we enjoyed together.

Play, smile, think of me. Pray for me.

Let my name be ever the household word

that it always was.

Let it be spoken without effect.

Without the trace of a shadow on it.

Life means all that it ever meant.

It is the same that it ever was.

There is absolute unbroken continuity.

Why should I be out of mind

because I am out of sight?

I am but waiting for you.

For an interval.

Somewhere. Very near.

Just around the corner.

All is well.

Henry Scott Holland (1847 – 1918) was Regius Professor of Divinity at Oxford, one of Oxford’s oldest and most prestigious seats. He was also canon at St. Paul’s Cathedral.

“If There Is No Struggle, There Is No Progress.” – Frederick Douglass

“If there is no struggle, there is no progress.” – Frederick Douglass

Thank goodness he struggled, persevered and progressed. It helped him, me and our entire world be fairer, more compassionate, and true in our relations with one another.

We all struggle. And we all face lovely times of hope and joy.  That joy is indeed waiting for you, which aids all mankind.

Frederick Douglass (1818-1895) was an American social reformer, orator, writer and statesman. After escaping slavery, Douglass helped lead the abolitionist movement, acquiring a distinguished repertoire of his oratory and writing against slavery. He proved the slaveholders’ argument wrong in their claim that slaves did not possess the intellectual capacity to be independent American citizens. Douglass participated as an impressive player in changing history: rather than quietly living the rest of his life as a free man after escaping slavery, he risked that attainment to speak out for freedom and better treatment for all African Americans.

The Classic Pamela Positive: Jean

Jean. I don’t think there could be a more important word today.

In a rare moment, I was late to my team meeting by 90 seconds, but it had to be. Because I had to take care of Jean today.

One of my favorite people in my life was my Oma, and she was one of my best friends. She was a model of a strong work ethic and a courageous heart.

Today, I had a chance to visit “Oma.”  As I was walking on my way to work consumed by phone calls, I saw a white haired, sweet, frail woman. She was gingerly touching down the steps outside of a hotel. With tightly grasped knuckles, she was holding her cane in one hand, and the railing in the other. While I could only see her back, I could tell there was concern. I stepped around the side of her and gently put my face in front of hers. I put my arm around her back and asked “Would it help if I walked with you?”

She looked up with me with the bluest eyes, sparkling. “Oh yes it would!” She said with a sweet smile. And so, my former quick pace of long stride- long stride-phone call-long stride-phone call-phone call  had slowed for Jean.

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I asked her what her name was as we stepped down together. It was Jean. I turned around to her and smiled. “Is there anywhere else you need to go…?” I asked. “Can I help you anymore…?”

“Oh no, this is quite enough, you’ll never know.” She smiled at me.

“I hope you have a wonderful day, Jean, you deserve it.” I said.  And then she smiled at me with a big smile. She waved her hand at me, waving her cane. And off she went, and off I went.

I held my gaze looking at her, wishing I could spend some more time with her. Perhaps ask her to lunch, and yet I didn’t really know her.


So, in a bit, I gently turned away and went back to a slower long stride- long stride- no phone call- long stride- long stride- no phone call.

I got into the team meeting, and I told them what happened. It became a major point of our meeting. UniversalGiving’s vision is to “Create A World Where Giving And Volunteering Are A Natural Part Of Everyday Life.”

And that doesn’t mean just through a website, it doesn’t mean just through a 25 dollar donation, no matter how much that is needed. It isn’t just through formal volunteering events, it’s in the giving of yourself and creating that world where you are giving in your own world, everyday.

That’s what so exciting about life. This isn’t just about having a 9 to 5 philanthropy job. This is about creating that world of giving, every moment. What was your moment today? Share with us by commenting on Philanthropy at the Dry Cleaners!



“Love is a spirit all compact of fire, Not gross to sink, but light, and will aspire.” – William Shakespeare


“Love is a spirit all compact of fire,
Not gross to sink, but light, and will aspire.”
– William Shakespeare

Please enjoy an audio version of this blog!


Love is gentle and soft.

Yet Love is also filled with fire, energy, excitement and hope! Continue reading

Meet New People and Be Changed

“I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view.”
― Eric Roth, The Curious Case of Benjamin Button Screenplay


Some people will change you.

Let it happen!

Sometimes it might be an inspiring professional talk by John Maxwell or Steven Covey. It might be how your Great Aunt gave you some advice, or your cousin who helped you see things in a different light.

It also might be your neighbor who taught you to be more selfless.
A homeless person who taught you more compassion.
A cheerful bus driver.
Or a post office worker who showed excellent joy- yes! – in taking your package in what might be considered a humdrum day.

All these things can startle you into a greater sense of living a life of love.


I highly recommend being positively affected by others… and then you yourself can jolt into joy, and be the model for someone else!

Love, Pamela

The Classic Pamela Positive: How Can One Love If He Believes Man is Deserving of Resentment?”

“A common mistake is for someone to believe that they can love but at the same time have a grudge, resentment and ill will towards some fellow men. They fool themselves, but certainly not universal love. How can one love understandingly if he believes man is unlovable and deserving of resentment?”
Christian Science Sentinel

Dear Living and Giving Reader –

It’s that clear.

If you truly want to love, you can’t let an ounce of resentment rise. Please heal it quickly.

Otherwise, our love becomes adulterated and muddied.


You are probably thinking:

“How does this relate to me? I am a leader. I am reading your blog to become a better leader. Well, where is the business tip!”

But this is about business. And it’s about life, too. See, if someone annoys you at work, or did something you resent, you hold that. You hold it within and people can feel it. It’s dangerous. Your office will be changed. The culture will go… downhill.

But let’s say you are amazing at keeping things inside. Maybe, the office doesn’t know at all. You are professional and joyful.

But something else is affected. Your home. Your marriage. Your kids, friendships or important outside activities. They certainly don’t deserve your negative comment or shortened patience.

For error and negativity will try to come out. So, you either need to heal it entirely; or, it will have its day. And probably on the people you love most.



So as a leader, continue in love and love only.

You know that issue that has been hanging.. so either go resolve it peacefully in your heart or have the conversation.

You know what you need to do.

Love, Pamela