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The Pamela Positive: Audrey Hepburn’s Tips for Beauty…It’s All Inside ~ New Audio Version Available!

We are pleased to announce that this post is now accompanied with an audio version! Happy listening!

I love these beauty tips by Audrey Hepburn because they are accessible to us all.  How could Beauty be constrained?  We don’t have to wait for it, prepare for it or create it.  So much of beauty is how we are, each moment. I look forward to hearing about your beautiful moments today!

For attractive lips, speak words of kindness.

For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people.

For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry.

For beautiful hair, let a child run their fingers through it once a day.

For poise, walk with the knowledge that you never walk alone.

People, more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeemed.

Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, you will find one at the end of each of your arms. As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself and the other for helping others.

How Do You Lead? With Values, Vision, or Voice?

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Actually, with all three. 

 

As blogger and author roshnyjr states in her piece entitled “Leadership and Ethics,” Values and Vision give the leader an organizational compass. But you can’t just know where you want to go; you have to have the right heart. That’s where Virtue comes in, and doing the right thing. Here, you have to be aware of relationships and how to conduct them appropriately. Finally, you can have all the Vision and Virtue in the world, but if you don’t Voice them, they are silent. You go nowhere!

 

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Let’s look at a great, long-term example of how this works. A favorite leader of mine is  Howard Schultz, CEO of Starbucks. His father was a blue collar worker and had little or no health benefits for himself or his family. It was a constant struggle.

 

Taking that personal experience, Schultz created a value-based company by providing healthcare for all workers, even part-time employees. As roshnyjr states: “Here, the leader tried getting right things done so as to get a good result which influenced the workers to perform their duty in the right way.” As long as it’s authentic, that’s the right thing to do.

 

Schultz’s vision was local and global: they expanded into China and all over the world. At the same time, they created a strong, local presence by providing fresh coffee, personalized service and a store where people know your order. More than 15 years ago, their strategy was to create a “third space” outside of home and work; a second home to come to. They’ve done it.

 

Finally, Schultz is the voice and model of the company. He is a tireless worker and great spokesperson, driving the company through many challenges and enduring.

 

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Lead with Vision, Voice and Virtue – and you’ll be leading to success.  Want to read a more analytical piece on the diagram above? Check out the article that inspired this piece here!

The Human Touch by Spencer Michael Free ~ Don’t Get So Busy On Your Phone You Forget to Truly Connect!

 

A photo by Jonathan Velasquez. unsplash.com/photos/4mta-DkJUAgThis simple poem reminds us that genuine friendship is about the closeness of hands, hearts, and souls. It also, incidentally, captures the profundity of “touch” between Helen Keller, who was blind, deaf and barely speaking, and her mentor Anne Mansfield Sullivan.

 

“Tis the human touch in this world that counts,

The touch of your hand and mine,

Which means far more to the fainting heart

Than shelter and bread and wine;

For shelter is gone when the night is o’er,

And bread lasts only a day,

But the touch of the hand and the sound of the voice

Sing on in the soul alway.”

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Please put your cellphone down right now, and touch or help someone who needs it.  That’s where the true connection in life is!

 

Spencer Michael Free was a poet who graduated from the College of Physicians and Suregons at John Hopkins University in 1880. Later, he went on to practice medicine and surgery. He taught natural philosophy, chemistry, Latin and algebra at Ohio Wesleyan University. In addition, Free had a passion for the arts and letters which led to his writing hundreds of medical papers as well as poems.He tried several times to enlist in the army and wished to protect our country abroad. However, he never did, so instead he wrote and aimed to give his readers a sense of hope.

The Human Touch was written shortly after World War I and the poem urges a sense of love and humanity. Free also published Shawnee Cabin and Other Poems. While he was not healing people of their physical ailments, he worked for various charitable organizations throughout his life.

Classic Pamela Positive: Communicate With More Than Words

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It is so amazing to me that when we communicate, the words really ‘come in third place.’

What’s first and second? First is the tone. If we are abrasive, affrontive, sarcastic then it doesn’t open up the conversation and action for change. Calm, proactive, inclusive, even — “slow” — conversations help provide dynamic change. It sounds as if it is an oxymoron. But allowing the participants to breathe in the interaction helps bring about the best and most inclusive solutions for all parties.

Second then is body language and what we communicate; third come the words.

The Importance of A Conversation

It’s just a conversation.

You’re just chatting.

You’re at a sports event and you’re catching up, in line at the grocery store, after church, or at your child’s gymnastic event. It’s talk. It’s casual, it’s no big deal.

Or is it?

Each conversation can be a treasure–or a dumpster. What you say can uplift someone, or it can drag them down.

Your tone can affect them. If you’re down they might feel it. They might go home to dinner, and focus on a low mood rather than the great presentation they had that day.

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If you’re positive, you’ll lead them to a more peaceful state of mind. If your topics are about joy, they’ll likely be more joyous. It’s that simple.

How you affect them affects how they treat the next person they encounter. Every conversation is part of a chain for good, stress, joy, or negativity.

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Are you stressed? It wont draw more people on to you. Are you positive? Then you can be grateful for the wonderful partnership you have, and expand it.

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It’s not just chatter. Every conversation leads to something. Make it for good! 

Sincerely,

Pamela

 

 

The Importance of Relationships

The Power of a Relationship. 

Today, I’d like to talk about the importance of a full relationship. Often, we think about someone being in our life for one, single reason.  But that’s not actually true.

In fact, every conversation, every relationship affects dozens, even thousands, of other people.  That’s right, thousands.  

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When we talk to someone, we affect them. We might ask them to do something.  That affects someone else, or even a group of people.   Even our tone can affect them: If you’re down, they might feel it. If you’re positive, you might lead them to a more peaceful state of mind.   How you affect them will affect how they treat the next person.  Every conversation is part of a chain for good, or stress, of joy or negativity.

You can make  every relationship,  lead to something greater.  I want to give an example of that today.

I’ve known Chris Towle for more than 10 years. He is a significant funder of ours. But he didn’t start out as a funder.

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I like creating relationships that relate to the whole person.  This is because I want to have a long-term relationship with them, which is based on them and not just money. After years of watching us, Chris donated from his family foundation, and then in subsequent years, donated stock.  So I don’t usually start fundraising from people after two or three years; then they know I value them for who they are.  Sometimes, I don’t even have to ask; they just give.

The relationship now extends into positive marketing for UniversalGiving. Chris and his wife are involved in Principia, where they invited us to speak at a conference. So you can see we’re building a long-term relationship, attaining funding, getting his company involved to give funding, and also helping with marketing. This isn’t just about a funding request.

I encourage you to think about this. How can your build positive relationships that go further than one person?

Let’s take a look at companies.  If you’re trying to attain a new client, is it just about closing a new deal?  Absolutely not.

First, it’s great to have a positive client.  That’s wonderful.  You can add to that.  We have such a positive relationship with Cisco, that former Cisco employees join UniversalGiving as a Returnee . How wonderful to get team members from Cisco!

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In addition, we can sell in our gift certificates to them: For the holidays or performance reviews, they provide gift certificates to their employees. Then, we both promote each other on social media; that’s marketing. So if you look at that, there’s a corporate contracts, returnees, gift certificates, and increasing donations on our site.  Pretty spectacular!  That’s certainly beyond one conversation, one relationship.

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So as you move forward today, know that one conversation can lead to another.  This kind of mindset can build so much good for the future.   Are you stressed? It won’t draw more people to your cause.  Are you positive?  Then you can be grateful for the great partnership you have, and expand it.

Sincerely,

Pamela

 

Love, All Along the Way

Today I share with you a letter that I wrote to a young woman graduating from high school. A life of promise lies ahead.
But a life of promise lies ahead for you, too, whether you are 18, 48 or 88.
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You can ‘graduate’ into a renewed sense of life.  Read on to see how you can impact the world today.

 

You might decide to donate today through UniversalGiving. You might decide to volunteer in Vietnam and help teach children English, build classrooms and playgrounds, or work towards building better homes for families. And you might also just be kind and loving to someone else.  All of it changes the world.  It’s time to graduate to a life filled with promise and joy.

Dear Brittany Joy,

A grand congratulations on your graduation! I am so proud of who you are as a person. You are a joyful, positive, and kind person. Your character is your most precious possession.

As you go into the world, may you take this treasure and share it with each individual you meet. That, in and of itself, is your greatest profession- to share love, each moment!

When I think of you, here are your gifts:

1.Principled Action:You take on action based on principle. With thoughtfulness and care, you bless the world with each task and endeavor.

2.Full Joy: That is your name and expression, and you shine it so radiantly. Brittany Joy Duke. It’s regal, loving, vibrant, and joy filled! Always spread the joy!

3.Love-all along the way: You might have a passion, or find the career of your dreams, or the man of your dreams! But, don’t forget to love all along the way. Thats the mailman, or grocery store clerk, your employee, parents, and the neighbor who might seem “tough”. Remember, all are lovable.

Congratulations dear Brittany Joy, on this momentous day. You are graduating, and graduating to live life with principle, joy, and love.

Onwards, onwards you go!

With greatest love, Auntie Pammie