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The Classic Pamela Positive: “Before You Can Give Yourself Away, You Must Have a Self to Give.”

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“Before you can give yourself away, you must have a self to give.”

– Isabel Hickey

Similar to George Gurdjieff’s commitment to self and spirit before serving others, Isabel Hickey realized that we must put ourselves first. In so doing, we become strong and committed to giving ourselves the best, and then we can give our best selves unto others…

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Isabel Hickey was an American astrologer and writer who practiced Humanist Astrology with a psychological approach. She is considered the Mother of Astrology in the Sixties and Seventies. She wrote “Astrology, A Cosmic Science,” “It Is All Right” and “Minerva or Pluto, The Choice Is Yours.”

The Classic Pamela Positive: “Look Deeply and Recognize the Real Enemy” – Thich Nhat Hanh

“If I can say anything to you, it is to invite you to look deeply and recognize the real enemy. The enemy is not a person. That enemy is a way of thinking that has brought a lot of suffering for everyone.”

– Thich Nhat Hanh

Anything negative — is not from a person.

Radical thinking?  It shouldn’t be.   If we view the enemy as simply a thought and not a person, we depersonalize it.   It’s temporary, changeable.   And we allow the person to grow beyond it, rather than be it.

We can then eliminate personal offense, and work constructively towards a solution.

Look at the Why

If something seems to be negative, we can encourage ourselves to look at “the why.” Why might someone think, or take action, in this way?   This offers us an opportunity to develop empathy. Perhaps this person—let’s call her Jeanine—came from a difficult circumstance or has been hurt.

It’s not Jeanine who is “bad,” but the experiences which occurred in her life which impacted her.  It’s those events that led to the thinking and action behind negativity.

So Jeanine’s identity is not “Prejudice”, “Anger” or “Hurt”:

It’s instead:

The most beautiful thing about this is the following.

She can change.

Allow her to do so.  Wouldn’t we all wish to be forgiven for a past action?

Happy PeopleEvery day we can begin again.   We can embrace a fresh purity for each person in our lives, allowing us and others to lives to our fullest – with Love.

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Thich Nhat Hanh is a Buddhist monk and Zen master.  He is a well-known poet, writer and peace activist.  A native of Vietnam, during the Vietnam War he helped found the “engaged Buddhism” movement, combining the contemplative practice of the monastery with active ministry to victims of the conflict.  He founded the School of Youth Social Service, a Buddhist University, a publishing house, and a Vietnamese peace activist magazine.

During a trip to the United States, Thich Nhat Hanh persuaded Martin Luther King, Jr. to publicly oppose the Vietnam War; King subsequently nominated him for a Nobel Peace Prize.  Thich Nhat Hanh led the Buddhist delegation to the Paris Peace Talks.

Thich Nhat Hanh is the author of more than 85 books on mindfulness and peace.  He founded the Plum Village community in France, a Buddhist community in exile.   He continues to live and work at the Plum Village, and leads retreats worldwide on “the art of mindful living.”

Why You, Me, the Night Building Manager, the Cleaners, Recyclers and Homeless People Have Something In Common: We Need to be Nourished

Life is Sharing

You, me, the night building manager, the cleaners and homeless people all have something in common: We need to be nourished.

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“The Spirit of Kansas City”: Where the Greeting Card Industry Got Started

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It was my joy to be visiting a friend and for a business trip in Kansas City and there… I stumbled upon the story of the founder of Hallmark cards. Joyce Clyde Hall grew up in Nebraska, his two older brothers opened up a post card store, which were then very much in vogue. He worked for them for awhile and then thought perhaps he would move and open up distribution and send bulk postcards to retailers. A friend, who later became a top salesman for him, deterred him from going to Omaha and said, “You should go to Kansas City! There you will find such spirit and receptivity!”

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The Best Way to Reverse Hatred- Learn from Civil Rights Leader Bettie B. Thompson

“I have put aside the concept that people are not all in one accord. We have to learn how to reverse hatred by focusing on Love itself.” What a beautiful quote by Bettie B. Thompson.  Read on about how to love your way through seeming discrimination, and triumph! We can all apply this today. Ralph Abernathy Continue reading

The Classic Pamela Positive: Sit Down at the Table

family-eating-at-the-table-619142_640“…they’ve done studies on children who are required to sit down at the family table and those who are not.  And the ones who are score higher academically; they’re more well adjusted.”

– Paula Deen, Food Network Star

Sit down, be present, share.   It’s not just about community, about family… but also about being the best we can be.  Sitting down at the table with your loved ones for a mealtime shares love, and, helps you reach your goals!

Deen was born Paula Hiers in Albany, Georgia, the daughter of Corrie A. (née Paul) and Earl Wayne Hiers, Sr. Her parents died before she was 23, and an early marriage ended in divorce. In her 20s, Deen suffered from panic attacks and agoraphobia. She then focused on cooking for her family as something she could do without leaving her house.

Her grandmother Irene Paul had taught her the hand-me-down art of Southern cooking; one of the only places she felt safe was at her own stove, making thousands of pots of chicken and dumplings.  She later moved to Savannah, Georgia, with her sons. In 1989, she divorced her husband, Jimmy Deen, to whom she had been married since 1965.  She tried hanging wallpaper, working as a bank teller, selling real estate and insurance. She then started a catering service,  making sandwiches and meals, which her sons Jamie and Bobby delivered.

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The Classic Pamela Positive: What’s In a Conversation…Who Will You “Turn Towards” Today?

girls-380617_640The word to ‘converse’ has morphed to mean using words or talking.

But what it meant at inception was to “turn towards one another.” Continue reading