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Won’t You Be My Neighbor: Mr Rogers’ Impact On the World

 

Mr. Rogers was an icon. He had a purity of heart that made people believe.

 

It made people believe in purity, in goodness, in kindness, in love and in allowing everyone to feel valued. He looked in their eyes and made them feel that way.

 

 

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I know it, because when I worked in broadcast at KTLA in Los Angeles, I had the honor of meeting this man.

 

 

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My job was to take care of all the on-screen talent. He was indeed authentic and caring, not only with children, but also with every adult as well. He took the time to truly look them in the eyes, to slow down, and to really care.

 

 

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If you haven’t seen the documentary, then I recommend that you go see it. It doesn’t just talk about a man and his values, it’s not about a man and children, it’s about a man who has a vision.

 

A vision that people should be loved everywhere and that people should be cherished. And he let them know it.

 

 

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That doesn’t mean his life was easy.

 

At times, he had to take a stance. At times, he had to be very strong regarding

 the state of television. 

 

He was shocked at the negativity– how all the cartoons have violence. It was so uncomfortable for such a wonderful man to see that all the goodness that he had put forth on his show every day was being eclipsed by tech warriors, video figures, bullies and negative characters. He saw that television was hurting a generation of young children and it broke his heart.

 

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So this loving man took a stance against negativity — in all forms. He used his show as a platform:

  • In 1968 Mister Rogers Neighborhood shared antiwar sentiments and messages of peace,  right in the middle of the Vietnam War — and the first year of his show. That takes courage.
  • He showcased Make-Believe episodes against arms races, and focused on purity.
  • He made food and hunger issues a prominent issue on his show.

 

We are grateful for icons such as Mr. Rogers who never gave up and fought to see positive justice for kids and their education and their learning. Watch here to see how he impacted people’s lives. You can do this too!

We’re All Trying To Be Loving,

Pamela

 


 

Fred Rogers was an American television personality, most known for his television series Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood. He was also trained as a Presbyterian minister and his trainings caused him to dislike the type of media aimed at children. This led him to create his television series, which quickly became an icon for children’s media and education. Rogers promoted racial equality, pacifism during the Gulf War, and women’s equality throughout his episodes and characters. He was also a vegetarian, an avid swimmer, and did not drink or smoke. He attended Dartmouth College before moving on to Rollins College to study music composition. There he met and married his wife, Sarah Joanne Byrd. They had a lifelong marriage and they had two sons together.

The Classic Pamela Positive: “Shame on You, Aunt Pamela, That’s a TREE”

“Shame on You, Aunt Pamela, that’s a TREE. We can’t hurt the trees!”

 

A few years ago, my niece Lindsey gave me a great talking to. She was 5 or 6, and needed help in the restroom, so off we went. As we finished up, I pulled two paper towels to dry my hands.

 

 

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“Shame on you, Aunt Pamela. That’s a tree! We can’t hurt the trees!”

I asked her where she learned that important lesson.

“In school. They teach us paper comes from trees, and we need to keep our trees.”

Anyone who doesn’t have hope for our future should rethink. What a wonderful opening our world is facing where we teach elementary kids the connection between paper and our living trees…to be conscious of conserving, so that Lindsey and others grow up with conservation being a natural part of their lives.

There is a new standard of living being created, and not only our youth, but our elementary school children, are leading the way.

 

 

The Classic Pamela Positive: Do It Anyway

 

Do It Anyway

People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered.
Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives.
Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies.
Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and sincere, people may deceive you.
Be honest and sincere anyway.

 

 

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What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight.
Create anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous.
Be happy anyway.

The good you do today, will often be forgotten.
Do good anyway.

Give the best you have, and it will never be enough.
Give your best anyway.

In the final analysis, it is between you and God.  It was never between you and them anyway.

 


 

This poem is widely attributed to Mother Teresa, after it was found hanging on a wall in her home for children in Calcutta.  It is a revised version of “The Paradoxical Commandments,” written by Dr. Kent M. Keith.  You can read more about the story on our UniversalGiving blog, PhilanthroPost.

 

 

 

The Classic Pamela Positive: Better To Make a Few Mistakes Being Natural

 

“Better to make a few mistakes being natural than to do everything out of a feeling of worry.”

 

The Common Sense Book of Baby and Child Care, Dr. Benjamin Spock, 1946

 

 

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It’s better to make a few mistakes being natural.   It’s important to be who we are in a natural, real way.  If we get everything right, and are absolutely perfect, but it’s done with anxiety…. then it actually isn’t right, is it?

 

What we do needs to be done with care, love, calm.  With joy and sincerity…and since Dr. Benjamin Spock was a famous leader in parenting in the 40s, I’ll take his advice not only for parenting, but also for management.  And for our communications, how we live our lives, how we treat others…

 

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Dr. Spock was an influential writer on childrearing, who advocated for increased flexibility and affection in the treatment of infants and children. He was a pediatrician and his book entitled Baby and Childcare is one of the best selling books in history. Aside from that work, he also published 12 other books. He was an activist, involved in the anti-war movements in the 1960s and 1970s. While at Yale University, he became an Olympic gold medalist in rowing. He married Jane Cheney and they had two children together.

The Classic Pamela Positive: Sit Down at the Table

 

“…they’ve done studies on children who are required to sit down at the family table and those who are not.  And the ones who are score higher academically; they’re more well adjusted.”

– Paula Deen, Food Network Star

 

 

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Sit down, be present, share. It’s not just about community, about family… but also about being the best we can be. Sitting down at the table with your loved ones for a mealtime shares love, and, helps you reach your goals!

 

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Paula Deen was born Paula Hiers in Albany, Georgia, the daughter of Corrie A. (née Paul) and Earl Wayne Hiers, Sr. Her parents died before she was 23, and an early marriage ended in divorce. In her 20s, Deen suffered from panic attacks and agoraphobia. She then focused on cooking for her family as something she could do without leaving her house.

 

Her grandmother Irene Paul had taught her the hand-me-down art of Southern cooking; one of the only places she felt safe was at her own stove, making thousands of pots of chicken and dumplings.  She later moved to Savannah, Georgia, with her sons. In 1989, she divorced her husband, Jimmy Deen, to whom she had been married since 1965.  She tried hanging wallpaper, working as a bank teller, selling real estate and insurance. She then started a catering service,  making sandwiches and meals, which her sons Jamie and Bobby delivered.

Bio Source: Wikipedia

The Classic Pamela Positive: “When The Child Welcomes The Mother, The Mother Rushes Off To Her”

 

“When the child welcomes the mother, the mother rushes off to her” 

 

 – Deborah Santana

 

I am not someone who cancels meetings or dinners very often, simply because it’s something to reschedule and I like to stay committed.  And yet the main reason I will cancel — as would one of my cherished friends, Deborah Santana — is for family.

 

 

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Deborah emailed me that she needed to move our dinner, because her daughter invited her to a weekend together in Seattle.  I love what she said, and it warmed my heart… “When the child welcomes the mother, the mother rushes off to her.”  A mother should go to her child first.

 

There is no more important reason in the world.

The Classic Pamela Positive: How You Can Give Back To A Youth- Without Money

 

 

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Do you know what some of the greatest needs of our youth today are? Love.

Trust.

Safety.

Kindness.

 

 

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So many of our youth need tangible, practical support.

Here are three key areas:

 

    1. Emotional Support

 

That’s having someone who’s there to listen and to support you with whatever you are feeling, or facing.

 

    2. Inspirational Support

 

This means that you are encouraging them to live their best lives and showing they can take a step forward, they can make a difference in their lives. Eventually, you want it to be not just about them, but about the future world that they’ll help create.

 

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    3. High Level Support

 

These are conversations that help youth understand how the world works and how they can impact the world. This makes them feel like their day-to-day and the world is “navigable”. How in a job they can support their future family. How they can march for freedom. How there is Temporary Assistance for Needy Families to help them get food and day-to-day support.

 

    4. High-Level Attention

 

Many kids have been neglected. They might have been left on the streets. Or they might have parents who don’t have time for them, or don’t wish to spend time.

So how is it, exactly, that you can help? With your committed, High-Level Attention. Here some of the qualities that you can embody with any youth you encounter.

 

 Be

      Nurturing.

Provide a

      friendship.

       Give them

          some love.

    Express

        compassion.

Be

      empathetic.

 

         Affirm every good decision

            and every good word they speak.

   

    Help be a model for caring relationships,

       by caring for them.

 

 

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    5. Recognize Any Accomplishment

During your time with them, you can identify their strengths and I would repeat it often. Remember, they missed out on needed, life-giving encouragement.   Everyone needs to hear that they’re good at something and often.

 

Recognize them for any accomplishment.

 

 

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Celebrate their accomplishments, and often. Bring it up again and again. You’re essentially saying:

 

I see you.

 

I see you too,

Pamela

 

 

Citations:
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