Tag Archives: balance

The Pamela Positive: A Home Should Be…


A home should be inspiring.  All the objects in your home should reinforce your values and character.  Home should be a respite of calm and peace, and a reflection of who you are.

A home should demonstrate moderation.  Homes should reflect what is needed.  Meet your needs, and then embrace moderation and simplicity.

A home should have balance.  The best homes reflect a sense of balance within the spaces, allowing for different types of activities.  Some may be more energetic, others which are more peaceful.

Love: Vulnerability Balanced with Courage


 “I have learned about love. Love should be easy, free in connection; work, wonderfully so, as in investment; vulnerability balanced with courage, and always undergirded with trust. It should be grace, graced and grateful. It should uplift you.”

Love – we feel it, we know it, we believe in it. And I think it truly is indispensable.. we can’t live without it. As we peel away the layers of love… one I’d like to cover today is:

Vulnerability Balanced with Courage.

Love isn’t always easy for we must be open.  Are you willing to love even if you are hurt?

Because a relationship didn’t work the way you’d prefer… or a church committee member spoke harshly to you… your idea got shot down at work or a precious pet ascended to heaven…

I know… it hurts… of course it does…

So be gentle with yourself, first.

But dear leader – we have to have the courage to soften our hearts, stay receptive, and be open to love at all times.  And yes, that is at home and work.

This allows us to give the most to the world, and to ourselves.

Yes, at all times.

I know that might be hard to hear… Hang in there…

So there may be something that shut you down recently. Well, it’s time to unshutter the door and open back up. Take your heart out of the basement, or release your self-imposed sequestration in the attic. 🙂

Let’s be those loving, beautiful individuals, who deserve to receive and give love. And other people need it too!

Remember, to receive the benefit of love, we have to have courage.

“Love is Vulnerability Balanced with Courage.”

–Sunday, November 29th, 1998. 10:20pm.


Pamela Hawley is the founder and CEO of UniversalGiving, an award-winning nonprofit helping people to donate and volunteer with top-performing, vetted organizations all over the world. Unique to UniversalGiving, 100% of all donations go directly to the cause.

Pamela is a winner of the Jefferson Award (the Nobel Prize in Community Service) and has been invited three times to the White House. Pamela was a finalist for Ernst and Young’s Entrepreneur of the Year Award and is an Expert Blogger for Fast Company and CSRWire. She is a philanthropy expert for the new TV show, Billions Rising.

Pamela is also an accomplished actress, improviser, dancer, and singer with over 100 performances in San Francisco, New York, and Los Angeles. She is trained by The Groundlings, a graduate of Upright Citizens Brigade, at advanced level Second City Los Angeles, and a BATS improv player. Pamela donates a portion of every show’s proceeds to UniversalGiving.

I Hope You Live a Life You’re Proud Of

“I hope you live a life you’re proud of. If you find that you’re not, I hope you have the strength to start all over again.” 
― Eric RothThe Curious Case of Benjamin Button Screenplay

What do you do if you aren’t proud of your life?

What do you do? You might be upset, sweating, or have stuffed it away deep in the core of your being.
Maybe you treated someone poorly..
walked out on a job
Didn’t keep your agreement…
or lost your temper
But that bad feeling, it’s still there. You’re not peaceful or proud of what you represent right now.
What do you do?
Gain strength. Gain that strength of integrity to start over.  You can do this.  Be the Real You.  Once you stop the unpositive action, you are New. 

Classic Pamela Positive: A Common Mistake is For Someone to Believe That They Can Love, but at the Same Time Have a Grudge. They Fool Themselves.

“A common mistake is for someone to believe that they can love God but at the same time have a grudge, resentment or ill will towards some fellow men. They fool themselves.

Christian Science Sentinel

Love is pure.


Love loves, and must do so as a flowing current…


If you have resentment, it obstructs the river.


If you have ill will, you can even stop the river.


So go heal yourself now.

Not someone else. Yourself.

You can’t change anyone else, and you can’t change the past. Neither of those are roles given to you by God, nature or any other power.

So stop taking responsibility for judging someone else. No one asked you to be the judge.

Instead, heal your own mind. Release the past, release this individual, and you will be free. And your heart will heal, be filled and flow.

And the river flows lovingly on….


It’s Never Too Early to Be Who You Want to Be

“For what it’s worth: it’s never too late or, in my case, too early to be whoever you want to be.”- Eric RothThe Curious Case of Benjamin Button Screenplay
“For what it’s worth: it’s never too late or, in my case, too early to be whoever you want to be. There’s no time limit, stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same, there are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. And I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view. I hope you live a life you’re proud of. If you find that you’re not, I hope you have the courage to start all over again.”
Don’t even think about it.
It doesn’t matter what has happened in the past, dear.
Just let it go
It’s just simply this: You can be who you feel you can and should be, starting today.
And your life can be filled with new experiences, new people, a grand sense of a new adventure. And that adventure might be dynamic, or quite gentle.  Either way it’s a renewing of yourself.
So change your life today, just by your own decision, to be who you were designed to be.
Let go
Embrace the Real You!

Does Religion Matter In Building Peace?

Good news. Of nearly 40 armed conflicts across the world, only 5 had religious elements. And that’s the way it should be. The best of religions is so positive, pure, and inspiring!

So what caused these conflicts? According to the Peace and Religion Report from the Institute for Economics & Peace, people rose up against governments for reasons that related to political issues, injustice, lack of economic opportunity, or the social structure of a country. And interestingly enought the report noted that “the desire for identity and self-government was a part of 60% of conflicts.”

We all need a voice.

To be unique, heard, loved. To live free lives.

So here’s what we face, according to the report:

Main findings:

  • Corruption, economic inequality and political instability have a greater impact on countries’ likelihood of conflict than religious differences.

We need to be able to provide for ourselves,

  • Many Muslim-majority countries with Sunni and Shia demographic mixes are relatively peaceful.

Super!! Let’s stop generalizing.

  • Only 14% of conflicts in 2013 were motivated by religion alone

We can use religion as a vehicle for good, for compassion…

  • More peaceful countries tend to have fewer restrictions on religious behaviour and less hostility towards religion.

Be open…. accepting… loving…


The Peace and Religion report shows that religion, civic involvement, more social groups, and a sense of community will make a country stronger. People are more resilient if they feel they have likeminded souls around them. They can make change for the better, together. It’s an uplifting power!

“Although the violence being perpetrated by ISIL in Iraq and Syria is motivated by religious extremism, this broader analysis highlights that many other factors are also driving conflict. There is a need to recognise these other factors and to formulate policies that address exclusion, inequity and governance to create the underlying foundations for lasting peace.”

-Steve Killelea, Founder and Executive Chairman, Institute for Economics and Peace.


Thank you Steve for your devotion and insights to peacebuilding!

Bio: Steve Killelea is the founder and Executive Chairman of the Institute for Economics and Peace. He created the Global Peace Index in 2007 as part of a study that sought to quantify measures of peace and rank the world’s nations and regions. He is also Australia’s largest donor of oversea aid.

What is the Relationship Between Spirituality and Medicine?

So what is the relationship between Spirituality and Medicine?    It’s interesting that the U.S. often separates them, as in many Eastern practices, they are integrated.  And many times spirituality, prayer or herbal remedies are the only forms of medicine practiced. So why do we separate them?

http://start.at/nevit Nevit Dilmen

Somehow, we’ve become a bit disconnected from nature and natural healing.
The power of positive thinking…and how gratitude and releasing grudges can have a healing effect.  If you are storing up negativity in your body and mind, of course it has a negative impact.

Then, there is the proactive power of prayer. It brings in floods of love and healing, when we focus and devote ourselves to it.

I often wonder…. we wash our bodies. Do we wash our minds? Of all the harmful, negative, and unproductive thoughts?

If we do, then we have an ’empty’ mind. We can fill this empty mind with all the good we want! And that goodness is positive and that goodness is healing.  It can be a good, cleansing thought, or the full power of devoted prayer.

There has been much research done that concludes that spirituality and medicine are becoming increasingly interwoven in American culture:

The evidence in the medical literature that suggests a strong relationship between spirituality and medicine is increasing.  Polls of the U.S. population have consistently shown that 95 percent of Americans believe in God. One study found that 94 percent of patients admitted to hospitals believe that:

-Spiritual health is as important as physical health

-77 percent believe that physicians should consider their patients’ spiritual needs as part of their medical care

-37 percent want their physician to discuss their religious beliefs more. 

-80 percent reported that physicians never or rarely discuss spiritual or religious issues with them.

-GOWRI ANANDARAJAH, M.D., and ELLEN HIGHT, M.D., M.P.H, Brown University School of Medicine, as seen in American Family Medicine 

So let’s integrate, embrace the power of prayer throughout our daily lives. And this power of prayer doesn’t just extend to health. It’s about our relationships, the right work, the right country to move to, the right date to go on, the right dog to adopt, the right child to mentor, the right neighbor to bake for!

All has a Divine Design. Plug into it now!