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Thoughts – Fire Mr. Defeat

Dear Living and Giving Readers,
This is a lovely excerpt that helps us moderate what the temperature of our thoughts are.  Enjoy!   And enjoy greater happiness, success, and joy in our lives.  By doing so, we will give even more to others.  It’s time to “fire Mr. Defeat”!
by Charles R. Swindoll
Thoughts are the thermostat that regulates what we accomplish in life. If I feed my mind upon doubt, disbelief, and discouragement, that is precisely the kind of day my body will experience. If I adjust my thermostat forward to thoughts filled with vision, vitality, and victory, I can count on that kind of day. Thus, you and I become what we think about.
The mind is a “thought factory” producing thousands, perhaps hundreds of thousands, of thoughts each day. Production in your thought factory is under the charge of two foremen. One we shall call Mr. Triumph, the other Mr. Defeat.
Mr. Triumph specializes in producing reasons why you can face life victoriously, why you can handle what comes your way, why you’re more than able to conquer. Mr. Defeat is an expert in the opposite. He develops reasons why you cannot succeed, why you’re inadequate, why you should give up and give in to worry, failure, discouragement, and inferiority.
Thoughts, positive or negative, grow stronger when fertilized with constant repetition.
What kind of performance would your car deliver if every morning before you left for work you scooped up a handful of dirt and put it in your crankcase? The engine would soon be coughing and sputtering. Ultimately it would refuse to start. The same is true of your life. Thoughts that are narrow, self-destructive, and abrasive…. send you off the road while others drive past.
You need only one foreman in your mental factory: Mr. Triumph is his name. If Mr. Defeat is busily engaged as the foreman of your factory, fire [him].

Charles Rozell “Chuck” Swindoll (born October 18, 1934) is an evangelical Christian pastor, author, educator, and radio preacher. He founded Insight for Living, headquartered in Plano, Texas, which airs a radio program of the same name on more than 2,000 stations around the world in 15 languages. He is currently senior pastor at Stonebriar Community Church, in Frisco, Texas.


Trust even when…

“Our attitude should be “I’m going to Trust… even when life doesn’t make sense. 

“Our attitude should be “I’m going to serve… whether I understand it or I don’t understand it.” 


Despite all the good in the world, we face tough things in life.


The worst thing you can do is ask why.

Listen to this wonderful thought leader:

“When we face the unanswered questions of life, your attitude should be I’m going to trust…. wherever I understand it or not. [Life’s] not looking for whiners.  [Life’s] looking for warriors.  So [if I don’t understand ] I’m going to put it into my ‘I don’t understand file’ and move on.”[1]

You might not have gotten that deal or received a no from your marriage proposal.  Maybe you got turned down from the 10th school, 11th job interview, 12th apartment application, turned down from the 13th grant, from the 14th patent, the 15th venture capital pitch.

YOU may be saying,“What am I to do!’

And frustration, dismay, hurt builds…

Yet we have to stop that “internal movie” of dismay.  Stop playing over disbelief, frustration.  Create a new film.

This film trusts the process.  This film trusts Life.  This movie unrolls a new door, a new pathway of hope, of opportunity.
Trust and move forward.  None ever says you get to know all the answers.  But we do know one answer we can trust:  “I’m going to be my best today, and expect the best today.”
Life may be that simple.

[1] Joel Scott Osteen (born March 5, 1963) is an American preacher, televangelist, author, and the Senior Pastor of Lakewood Church, the largest Protestant church in the United States, in Houston, Texas.


Pamela’s Weekly Words of Wisdom: Money Can’t Buy Happiness


Money can’t buy happiness. 

Sometimes we forget this.  Remember, it was the Beatles who brought this up through their songs. They had powerful messages which made us think.  So the next time you are enjoying one of their songs, remember, too, their life advice. Money cant buy happiness.

Strong relationships do. 

Working at something you love can bring it.  Spending time with those you respect does. Adhering to your values does.   Relationships, sincere work, people and values bring you happiness.  Focus on those four areas, and not only will you have happiness, but the money will come.  Youll be doing what you love to do, and that will surely be compensated.


No 1 Quality to Look for In People You Hire According to Warren Buffett

“In looking for people to hire, you look for three qualities: integrity, intelligence, and energy. And if they don’t have the first, the other two will kill you.” – Warren Buffett 
Dear Living and Giving Team, what good advice!  :)


For our new employees, our home, on our errands, playing a lacrosse game or coaching a lacrosse game, and for ourselves…


Lovely qualities of efficiency, intelligence, even productive accomplishment shrinks in light of our integrity.        


Every day we are an example to others in what we say, and do. What a life endeavor to do so!


Thank you, Warren Buffett, for inspiring leaders every day!



Warren Buffett, CEO and major shareholder of Berkshire Hathaway, a company worth around $150 billion, is a highly known business magnate who is invariably featured in the list of the top 10 wealthiest people in the world. Unlike many other multi-billionaires, however, is his public stance against the lavish living and excessive spending that many others in his economic situation engage in. On multiple occasions, Mr. Buffett has explained his plans for leaving 99% of his inheritance for social and public works and not to his family, saying “I want to give my kids just enough so that they would feel that they could do anything, but not so much that they would feel like doing nothing.”


Mr. Buffett is well known for his humor and his frugal lifestyle, which includes living in the same house since 1958 and regularly enjoying Cherry Coke, Utz Potato Sticks, and Cookies and Cream ice cream. “I checked the actuarial tables, and the lowest death rate is among six-year-olds. So I decided to eat like a six-year-old,” he said in a Fortune interview.

I just helped him cry

 From a four-year-old child whose next door neighbour was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife.
Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman’s yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there.


When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said,
‘Nothing , I just helped him cry’


Sometimes, we just need to listen to people and help them through their hurt. Who can you help today? Let’s slow down and listen to the needs of people in our lives.


I know my older sister loves me…

‘I know my older sister loves me
because she gives me all her old clothes
and has to go out and buy new ones.’
     – Lauren, age 4
What a sweet quote that allows us to think in a different way. 
I love this; It’s not a hand me down… It’s not an older sister giving you their “old” clothes.
It’s someone who truly loves you. They are sincerely giving you that sweet dress, to care for you.
What else in our lives could we look at in this way?
If you are late to the airport, can you trust that you are on the right flight, and will meet the right people? You could see it as an opportunity.
If you are stuck in an elevator, is there someone who needs your support? Could you pray for them or the world? You could see it as an opportunity.
If your son didn’t make the high school newspaper, can you help guide him to a new writing opportunity? It’s an opportunity! Perhaps you could encourage him to start his own blog, or even apply for an internship at the local paper!
If you didn’t get the job you wanted, can you trust there is a different manager who will help you grow? It’s an opportunity… Perhaps you will find a new job, with a fantastic mentor.
Let’s open up our minds…
See, hand-me-downs are family members giving you the clothes off their backs.
This is a loving world.
     Love, Pamela

Be an Unofficial Volunteer

helping hands

We’ve put too much pressure on ourselves. From so many of our interns I hear “I want to do good now, I don’t want to wait.”
That’s a great calling to have; we should all have that mindset. However, it doesn’t mean everyone can go off on a mission or volunteer trip today. So what can we do?
Today I was at Stanford working at the Starbucks before a meeting. We were at the long tables, and many people would eat their lunch, and leave their takeout box on the table. Pretty soon the takeout boxes were stacked up on the table. It became a model for everyone – just leave your leftovers there.
But the trash, recycling, and composting were only 15 feet away.

Every time I went to the restroom or got up to get a drink, I simply took a couple of the boxes and composted them. I am sure that the Starbucks personnel are responsible for cleaning up any messes. But how nice if we could help them by doing so ourselves, and providing a good example.

Singapore, Switzerland, and Canada provide good examples of this. In their culture, it’s not acceptable to litter. In fact, in Singapore, there’s a minimum $500 fine for littering a cigarette, and as a result, you don’t see that litter. In Switzerland there isn’t litter because they value order, high standards and the preservation of nature. (They also leverage heavy fines.)
We can do good today, right now. Be an unofficial volunteer. Help clean up the area around you. Provide a good example for others.
And the good news? It doesn’t cost a plane trip to go volunteer :)