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“Nothing Can Touch You But What God Sends.” – My Mom, Alexandra Hawley

“Nothing can touch you but what God sends.”

       – My Mom, Alexandra Hawley

We often seek leadership professionals to guide us. Sometimes the most inspiring leader is right next to us.

In this case, it’s my mom.

She’s one of my greatest heroes, and dearest, closest friend.

Thank you, Mom, for your inspiration, guidance and protection.

Lovingly, your daughter, Pamela

Be a Beautiful, Helpful, and Help-the-World Person

Dear Living and Giving team,
This is a confidential message I sent to our wonderful UniversalGiving team… I hope you enjoy.

Hi Team,

This has helped me for many, many years… it’s a wonderful encouragement on how we can be our best not just at work, but in life. Stephen Covey was a mastermind on how to be a beautiful, helpful, and help-the-world person.

It’s about being purposeful, responsible, kind, listening and balanced. It takes care of you — and others.

I hope you enjoy. Sometimes I just work on one facet, for the entire day.

Below is my summary, and the full excerpt is below. What moves you the most?  What areas are you working on?

Happy Weekend, Happy Life!

Sincerely, Pamela

With Yourself
Take responsibility for your choices
Clarify your deeply important character values
Prioritize, plan, and execute

With People
Genuinely strive for mutually beneficial solutions
Listen to be genuinely influenced by a person
Combine the strengths of people through positive teamwork, so as to achieve goals no one person could have done alone.

Back To You
Balance and renew your resources, energy, and health 



The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

By Stephen R. Covey

The seven habits move us progressively on a continuum from dependence to independence to interdependence.

Independence or Self-Mastery

The first three habits are about moving from dependence to independence.

Habit 1. Be Proactive: Take initiative in life by realizing that your decisions (and how they align with life’s principles) are the primary determining factor for effectiveness in your life. Take responsibility for your choices and the subsequent consequences that follow.

Habit 2. Begin with the End in Mind: Self-discover and clarify your deeply important character values and life goals. Envision the ideal characteristics for each of your various roles and relationships in life.

Habit 3. Put First Things First: Prioritize, plan, and execute your week’s tasks based on importance rather than urgency. Evaluate whether your efforts exemplify your desired character values, propel you toward goals, and enrich the roles and relationships that were elaborated in Habit 2.


The next three habits are about interdependence (working with others).

Habit 4. Think Win-Win: Genuinely strive for mutually beneficial solutions or agreements in your relationships. Value and respect people by understanding a “win” for all is ultimately a better long-term resolution than if only one person in the situation had gotten his way.

Habit 5. Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood: Use empathic listening to be genuinely influenced by a person, which compels them to reciprocate the listening and take an open mind to being influenced by you. This creates an atmosphere of caring, respect, and positive problem solving.

Habit 6. Synergize: Combine the strengths of people through positive teamwork, so as to achieve goals no one person could have done alone. Get the best performance out of a group of people through encouraging meaningful contribution, and modeling inspirational and supportive leadership.

Self Renewal

The last habit relates to self-rejuvenation.

Habit 7. Sharpen the Saw: Balance and renew your resources, energy, and health to create a sustainable, long-term, effective lifestyle. This habit primarily emphasizes exercise for physical renewal, prayer (meditation, yoga) and good reading for mental renewal. It also mentions service to the society for spiritual renewal.

“You’ll See Spirit Operating Everywhere” – Dan Millman

“Like the flower, trusting Spirit working according to a higher will beyond the reach of your mind, you’ll see Spirit operating everywhere, in everyone and everything. To trust the process of your life. The more you trust Spirit in this way, the more you will work with it directly as a living force in your life… unfolding, like a flower, toward the Light.”  –Dan Millman


Pamela’s Weekly Words of Wisdom: Give A Gift Every Day

Hands holding a gift box isolated on black background

Give a gift every day.

Send your friend’s birthday gift early.

See a gift that would be meaningful for someone you care about, and just buy it. Give it to them now.

Take the time to cook a meal for your partner or your roommate.  Take the time to cook a meal for yourself.

Smile at a person walking down the street.

Smile at a homeless person and stop and learn their name. There is the gift of knowing someone. Of acknowledging you care.

Be kind to yourself.

Get in bed early.

Say three gratefuls before you fall asleep.

Say three gratefuls when you wake up.

Believe today is special.

Take time at lunch to be grateful for three more things.

Pay the phonebill for your roommate.

Drop off banana bread for your neighbor.

Give a lot. Expect little.

Smile at yourself in the mirror.

Work hard and attain the gift of devotion to something you believe in.

Work and leave early and give yourself a gentle night off, nurturing yourself.

Stop and look at nature. Any part of nature. The expanse of the sky; drifting clouds; a vibrant flower.

Give yourself the gift of awareness of how precious and beautiful life is every day.

Why You Can’t Take Your Freedom to Think, and Freedom to Speak, for Granted

I love our famous Social Media Guru Beth Kanter. Below is great excerpt on how to attain Internet access, from what she and her colleagues learned from all over the world.

May people who need a voice, have one.

May people who desire freedom attain it.

May people who simply want to express an idea be able to do so.

We shouldn’t ever take our freedom to think, and our freedom to speak, for granted.


Read on to get your freedom, or support someone who needs it. In this piece from 3 years ago, Beth Kanter relates how she faced Internet blockage during a Social Media training center in the Middle East:

“Unfortunately, yesterday, the Pakistan government decided to block Twitter – after we had just gotten everyone comfortable tweeting!

According to Pakistan’s Express Tribune, the request to block the site was made by the Ministry of Information and Technology, because of a drawing competition (details here). The ministry asked Twitter to remove the content, but Twitter responded that it “cannot stop any individual doing anything of this nature on the website.” Directives to block the site were sent to ISPs in several parts of the country, including PTCL Broadband and Wi-Tribe. It also reports that Twitter is still accessible by mobile using secure browsers like Opera, as well as proxies and VPNs. More from GlobalVoices.

The coverage in TechCrunch came about when activists in Pakistan wrote to major social media sites about the block. Waqas Ali, who is Lahore, sent TechCrunch a screenshot of the blocked Twitter. According to TechCrunch, Ali has also played a role in a past campaign in the country to keep Facebook from getting banned.

The block did not last long. According to Pakistan’s Express Tribune, the Prime Minister Yousaf Raza Gilani made the decision to restore access to Twitter.   

My colleague, Stephanie Rudat, who is working with me on the project, and I decided that we needed to “How To Get Past Internet Censorship” review. Stephanie put together this awesome resource list of services.”


Beth, thank you for an inspiring and practical way to help others… and to being responsive! I bet the entire world thanks you.

Biography- Beth Kanter (from

Beth Kanter is the author of Beth’s Blog: How Nonprofits Can Use Social Media, one of the longest running and most popular blogs for nonprofits.  She co-authored the book titled “The Networked Nonprofit” with Allison Fine published by J Wiley in 2010 that received Honorable Mention for the Terry McAdams Award.  Beth has over 30 years working in the nonprofit sector in technology, training, capacity building, evaluation, fundraising, and marketing.   Her second book, Measuring the Networked Nonprofit,  with Co-Author KD Paine, will be published in October, 2012.

In 2009, she was named by Fast Company Magazine as one of the most influential women in technology and one of Business Week’s “Voices of Innovation for Social Media.”  She was named Visiting Scholar for Social Media and Nonprofits for the David and Lucile Packard Foundation in 2009-2012.  She was a Society of New Communications Research Fellow for 2010.

Beth was honored with the inaugural PepsiCo Women’s Inspiration Award at the 2011 SxSW Interactive Festival.

Embracing Closed Doors


Open Doors light your pathway with ease and joy. Walk through them freely, with gratitude.

We meet Closed Doors with gratitude as well. We thank them as they are a sign for the divine focus they provide.

Whichever door we meet, we meet it with gratitude, for both bless.

A closed door provides you focus…

A closed door is also an open door… for someone else.

We acknowledge and celebrate that both open doors, and closed doors, provide us a divine direction. Then, we gratefully walk through the open door prepared for us.


Definition of a door:

1. a movable, usually solid, barrier for opening and closing an entranceway, cupboard, cabinet, or the like, commonly turning on hinges or sliding in grooves.

2. any means of approach, admittance, or access: the doors to learning.

3. any gateway marking an entrance or exit from one place or state to another: at heaven’s door.

Pamela’s Weekly Words of Wisdom: The Energy for Enthusiasm… is Based on Gratitude


I find that one way to keep a flow of enthusiasm going is to live in the present moment and to practice gratitude. Right now, can I think a positive thought? What is going well? No matter how tough it gets, there has to be something that is going well. Thank you that the sun is shining. Thank you that I have a great father, or wonderful relationship with my sister. If you are in America, thank you that I have the right to vote, that I have the right to choose hundreds of places to eat from every day. Continue reading