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Live Forward

“Life can only be understood looking backward. It must be lived forward.”
― Eric Roth, The Curious Case of Benjamin Button Screenplay

Live forward!

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Let go of the past. It was there to serve you, to instruct you… so you can be the best person you can be!

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So live that person, forward.

Love: Vulnerability Balanced with Courage

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 “I have learned about love. Love should be easy, free in connection; work, wonderfully so, as in investment; vulnerability balanced with courage, and always undergirded with trust. It should be grace, graced and grateful. It should uplift you.”

Love – we feel it, we know it, we believe in it. And I think it truly is indispensable.. we can’t live without it. As we peel away the layers of love… one I’d like to cover today is:

Vulnerability Balanced with Courage.

Love isn’t always easy for we must be open.  Are you willing to love even if you are hurt?

Because a relationship didn’t work the way you’d prefer… or a church committee member spoke harshly to you… your idea got shot down at work or a precious pet ascended to heaven…

I know… it hurts… of course it does…

So be gentle with yourself, first.

But dear leader – we have to have the courage to soften our hearts, stay receptive, and be open to love at all times.  And yes, that is at home and work.

This allows us to give the most to the world, and to ourselves.

Yes, at all times.

I know that might be hard to hear… Hang in there…

So there may be something that shut you down recently. Well, it’s time to unshutter the door and open back up. Take your heart out of the basement, or release your self-imposed sequestration in the attic. :)

Let’s be those loving, beautiful individuals, who deserve to receive and give love. And other people need it too!

Remember, to receive the benefit of love, we have to have courage.

“Love is Vulnerability Balanced with Courage.”

–Sunday, November 29th, 1998. 10:20pm.

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Pamela Hawley is the founder and CEO of UniversalGiving, an award-winning nonprofit helping people to donate and volunteer with top-performing, vetted organizations all over the world. Unique to UniversalGiving, 100% of all donations go directly to the cause.

Pamela is a winner of the Jefferson Award (the Nobel Prize in Community Service) and has been invited three times to the White House. Pamela was a finalist for Ernst and Young’s Entrepreneur of the Year Award and is an Expert Blogger for Fast Company and CSRWire. She is a philanthropy expert for the new TV show, Billions Rising.

Pamela is also an accomplished actress, improviser, dancer, and singer with over 100 performances in San Francisco, New York, and Los Angeles. She is trained by The Groundlings, a graduate of Upright Citizens Brigade, at advanced level Second City Los Angeles, and a BATS improv player. Pamela donates a portion of every show’s proceeds to UniversalGiving.

The Bundle of Sticks: “Union is Strength”

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A certain man had several sons who were always quarreling with one another, and, try as he might, he could not get them to live together in harmony. So he determined to convince them of their folly by the following means. 
 
Bidding them fetch a bundle of sticks, he invited each in turn to break it across his knee. All tried and all failed: and then he undid the bundle, and handed them the sticks one by one, when they had no difficulty at all in breaking them. “There, my boys,” said he,”united you will be more than a match for your enemies: but if you quarrel and separate, your weakness will put you at the mercy of those who attack you.” Union is strength.
Oh, team, how special….Union is strength. First, who wants to go it alone? Can we really do something special, just on our own?

 

More and more that I live, I think not. Or at least, it is not as beautiful! To team up, to work together and synergize is inspiring. It is a strength. It is companionship and team cameraderie whether you are launching a blog, building a company, unloading the dishes with a family member, or playing lacrosse; you can’t do that on your own :)

 

Even further… Union can be a strength to one’s soul during tough times. When a team member doesn’t say a kind word… a  friend leaves… a war starts or a neighbor builds an emotional wall…

 

We need a team of people, of loving people, to support us, help us, bolster us up.

 

Don’t be a stick. Join a bundle.

 

Be strong, together and live with love.

 

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Pamela Hawley is the founder and CEO of UniversalGiving, an award-winning nonprofit helping people to donate and volunteer with top-performing, vetted organizations all over the world. Unique to UniversalGiving, 100% of all donations go directly to the cause.

Pamela is a winner of the Jefferson Award (the Nobel Prize in Community Service), and has been invited three times to the White House. Pamela was a finalist for Ernst and Young’s Entrepreneur of the Year Award and is an Expert Blogger for Fast Company and CSRWire. She is a philanthropy expert for the new TV show, Billions Rising.

Pamela is also an accomplished actress, improviser, dancer and singer with over 100 performances in San Francisco, New York, and Los Angeles. She is trained by The Groundlings, a graduate of Upright Citizens Brigade, at advanced level Second City Los Angeles, and a BATS improv player. Pamela donates a portion of every show’s proceeds to UniversalGiving.

Remember that people trump business deals. Relationships rule over crossing the finish line.

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This is a letter I wrote to one my nephews as he went on a spiritual retreat. I hope you enjoy reading this and that you will join my in practicing this commitment to loving life, and the precious people in our lives….
January, 2015

 

Dear Will,

As you go through life, be sure to take time to realize the beautiful miracles within each day. Perhaps it is a conversation with a dear friend; a positive grade; a fun, spirited event at college; or the positive feeling which wells up within us when we compliment or encourage others.

 

Remember that people trump business deals. Relationships rule over crossing the finish line. A heartfelt word to a stranger wins over being published. “Being accomplished and successful” is being your best self, giving to others, each day. It is not a promotion or climbing up the “ladder.”

 

Of course, always do your best. We want you to achieve and excel, as you already have in creative writing, baseball and football. But along the way, the little and big kindnesses and care of others is what makes a successful life. That is heaven, here and in the future.

 

Love you dearly. I hope this helps guide you from the little I have learned. Love!

 

Aunt Pammie

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Good Is Unfolding

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“Let the refining and improving of your own life keep you so busy that you have little time to criticize others.”   – H. Jackson Brown Jr.

What is your mind filled with today? What others aren’t doing right? What doesn’t work?

 

Or is it filled with gratitude for what is working? 

 

You’re a leader. That means your mind has to be in top-top shape. And that means reinforcing the positive:

 

  • A team member did a great job — don’t just take it for granted. It’s not the “same-old same-old.”
  • Your dog greeted you with joy when you came home… so sweet. How precious they are here.
  • Your horse has lived much longer than expected. She is slow, and not what she used to be, but you still get to ride her! So lovely.
  • You had a warm, home cooked meal.
  • You bought take out and it tasted good because you were so hungry :)
  • You finished a report just at the point of the deadline, pulling an all-nighter… You got it  in time! Let’s be grateful. this isn’t the norm, and what an accomplishment. That’s the focus, not being tired. (Now if this happens all the time, then maybe time to find a new calling!)
  • Your elementary kids were SUPER ENERGETIC today. Were they out-of-control or full of joy?
  • Your little sister got into Carlton and UPenn, but not Princeton, her first choice. Will you be disappointed or know that a perfect plan is unfolding, where she will meet the right people, learn the right information, and have a super experience?
  • The Jason Derulo concert is sold out. Are you bummed or psyched for others to hear his music? The world is a more fun, energetic place with his enthusiasm!
  • The Janet Jackson concert is sold out. Let’s be grateful she’s still performing and sharing the Jackson talents! Next time.
Team Living and Giving, it’s up to you. You can criticize others or your day….. or you can focus on what is really happening; Good is unfolding. 

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H. Jackson Brown Jr. is an American bestselling author for his inspiring books. One of his books named Life’s Little Instruction Book, was on the New York Times best-seller list for more than two years, including more than one year on the number one spot. This book was written by Brown as a guide book for his son when he went off to college. He then wrote a second volume, which also placed in the top selling charts for a long time.

One of his most famous quotes is often mistakenly attributed to Mark Twain. It says: “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”