Category Archives: Living Right

What We Can Learn from Japan’s Environmental Sustainability

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Where do you think the concept of environmental sustainability came from? Sometimes we think America is the “entrepreneur of all answers.” We innovate here, and I love that quality about our country. And while I’m proud of California’s increased consciousness about the importance of preserving our Earth, we usually have to look back to see where the truth started. Continue reading

Let the Doors Close

“One time, I was walking through a government building. There were two sets of double doors about fifteen feet apart. They were both automatic doors. When you walked through the first set of doors, you had to let them totally close before the next set of doors would open.

As long as I stayed at that first set of doors, the second set would not open. It’s the same principle in life. If you’re sitting around nursing your wounds, feeling sorry for yourself, you’re not going to see anything new. You’ve got to let those doors totally close. Let go of the disappointments.”

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What My Dad Wrote: “WHO YOU ARE”

A loving email from my dad

Pamela and her dad – The Winning Team

March 30, 2011

PAMELA, TODAY A FRIEND ASKED HOW YOU ARE DOING. DRIVING HOME I PONDERED THAT QUESTION AND CONCLUDED THAT YOU ARE INDEED A REMARKABLE PERSON WITH MANY, VARIED TALENTS;

YOU HAVE AN AMAZING CAPABILITY TO ENTERTAIN PEOPLE.  YOUR IMPROV REQUIRES CREATIVITY, HUMOR, AND QUICK THINKING.

YOU HAVE A REAL TALENT FOR BUILDING AN ORGANIZATION FROM SCRATCH. YOUR INSIGHTS IN HOW YOU RUN YOUR ORGANIZATION IS A REAL INSPIRATION TO MANY–INCLUDING ME!

YOU HAVE A COMPASSION FOR OTHERS WHICH IS DEEP AND ADMIRABLE.

YOU HAVE AN INTELLECT FOR BUSINESS WHICH EXCEEDS ANY ONE OF OUR FAMILY, INCLUDING ME.

WHEN I TOLD YOU THAT YOU WOULD MAKE A REAL DIFFERENCE IN THIS WORLD, I HAD NO IDEA IN HOW MANY WAYS THAT WOULD BE TRUE.

I KNOW GOD GIVES US OUR GIFTS AND HE ABUNDANTLY BLESSED YOU WITH SO MANY.

YOU SHOULD BE PROUD OF YOUR LIFE, AND KNOW THAT YOU ARE ONE OF THE MOST SIGNIFICANT BLESSINGS IN MY LIFE. I  THANK AND PRAISE GOD FOR GIVING MOM AND ME SUCH AN INCREDIBLE GIFT.

WITH MUCH LOVE AND APPRECIATIONS,

DAD

The Pamela Positive: “It Is the Open-Mindedness to Little Things That Brings Human Success.”

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What a wonderful story which shows how we can all be resourceful. We can figure out a different way to achieve even our smallest needs, and maintain a positive outlook. Look up, look around, and use what you see! Continue reading

The Classic Pamela Positive: “The Greatest Mind is Always the Simplest.” – Russell Conwell

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Now, the greatest mind is always the simplest.
Did you ever see a really great man?
Great in the best and truest sense?
If so, you could walk right up to him and say:
“How are you, Jim? “

                               -Russell Conwell, “Acres of Diamonds”

That’s right. The most amazing people are warm and accessible to all. That’s because they know everyone has a beautiful gift to give, and no one is greater. The greatest gift is being open and loving. Continue reading

The Classic Pamela Positive: “Look Deeply and Recognize the Real Enemy” – Thich Nhat Hanh

“If I can say anything to you, it is to invite you to look deeply and recognize the real enemy. The enemy is not a person. That enemy is a way of thinking that has brought a lot of suffering for everyone.”

– Thich Nhat Hanh

Anything negative — is not from a person.

Radical thinking?  It shouldn’t be.   If we view the enemy as simply a thought and not a person, we depersonalize it.   It’s temporary, changeable.   And we allow the person to grow beyond it, rather than be it.

We can then eliminate personal offense, and work constructively towards a solution.

Look at the Why

If something seems to be negative, we can encourage ourselves to look at “the why.” Why might someone think, or take action, in this way?   This offers us an opportunity to develop empathy. Perhaps this person—let’s call her Jeanine—came from a difficult circumstance or has been hurt.

It’s not Jeanine who is “bad,” but the experiences which occurred in her life which impacted her.  It’s those events that led to the thinking and action behind negativity.

So Jeanine’s identity is not “Prejudice”, “Anger” or “Hurt”:

It’s instead:

The most beautiful thing about this is the following.

She can change.

Allow her to do so.  Wouldn’t we all wish to be forgiven for a past action?

Happy PeopleEvery day we can begin again.   We can embrace a fresh purity for each person in our lives, allowing us and others to lives to our fullest – with Love.

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Thich Nhat Hanh is a Buddhist monk and Zen master.  He is a well-known poet, writer and peace activist.  A native of Vietnam, during the Vietnam War he helped found the “engaged Buddhism” movement, combining the contemplative practice of the monastery with active ministry to victims of the conflict.  He founded the School of Youth Social Service, a Buddhist University, a publishing house, and a Vietnamese peace activist magazine.

During a trip to the United States, Thich Nhat Hanh persuaded Martin Luther King, Jr. to publicly oppose the Vietnam War; King subsequently nominated him for a Nobel Peace Prize.  Thich Nhat Hanh led the Buddhist delegation to the Paris Peace Talks.

Thich Nhat Hanh is the author of more than 85 books on mindfulness and peace.  He founded the Plum Village community in France, a Buddhist community in exile.   He continues to live and work at the Plum Village, and leads retreats worldwide on “the art of mindful living.”