Category Archives: Living Right

“And if you were to ask me… Do you still believe in magic?” – Chris Martin, Coldplay

“And if you were to ask me…
Do you still believe in magic?
Yes, I do
Of course, I do”
Chris Martin, Coldplay

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Here’s the deal, Team Living and Giving. You can’t give up.

No matter how hard

it gets

You have to believe in magic.

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That beautiful sparkly joy

Your lighted heart that uplifts another

That joy filled goodness… that gives a tender smile. 

No matter what you are facing, you can still

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light your heart

be filled with joy…

and smile.


If you can’t do it for yourself… then stop thinking of yourself…

and do it for someone else.

Believe in Life’s magical ways… and be filled today.  

“Everyone Communicates, Few Connect”

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“I was trying to get ahead by correcting others when I should have been trying to connect with others”

– Jim Collins, Good to Great, pg. 29.

If you are a busy leader… you might fall into this trap.

We need to get things done. And with a significant proposal or partnership, you might need to correct someone working for you.

Connect with them first. Try to slow down, or tell them that the deadline is next week. You can tell them how much you enjoy their work, or even make them laugh.

Then the work flows so much easier, so much more naturally. And life and work is more enjoyable too!

Connect… then correct.

Or perhaps even better…

          Connect and recommend, adjust, ask… for their advice… work with them.

Kindhearted teamwork (even when we are under significant pressure) is the right way to go.

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This quote is from “Good to Great,” a best-selling book published in 2001 by James C. Collins. This book aims to help readers understand why and how some companies go from being good to being great as was a tremendous success. He has published many well-known books that deal with successful companies, sustainability, and leadership.
Aside from being a respected writer, James Collins is an American businessman and consultant advising firms in the profit and nonprofit sectors, such as The Girl Scouts of the USA and the US Marine Corps. He is married to Ironman winner and accomplished triathlete, Joanne Ernst. He believes that “Greatness is not a function of circumstance. Greatness is largely a matter of conscious choice and discipline.” Click here to be redirected to the “Good to Great Diagnostic Tool” where you can learn about to how to start your personal path to greatness.

“In the darkness before the dawn leave a light on” – Coldplay

“In the darkness before the dawn
Leave a light on” – Coldplay


 

When it’s dark, we know light is coming. That deepest, darkest, hardest hour is going to be followed by something brilliant, light-filled, beautiful.

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What I love about Christ Martin’s lyrics is he says, “Don’t wait.” Why wait for the dawn?

Instead, Leave a Light On. Even in the darkness, you illuminate your situation. You don’t have to wait.

How thrilling! You don’t have to wait!

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You may be facing a broken ankle, a hard at work, missing your son at college… but you can keep a light onBe grateful for your health; be grateful you are employed, or be grateful you even have a son. Turn in around and the joy fills you!

Love: Vulnerability Balanced with Courage

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 “I have learned about love. Love should be easy, free in connection; work, wonderfully so, as in investment; vulnerability balanced with courage, and always undergirded with trust. It should be grace, graced and grateful. It should uplift you.”

Love – we feel it, we know it, we believe in it. And I think it truly is indispensable.. we can’t live without it. As we peel away the layers of love… one I’d like to cover today is:

Vulnerability Balanced with Courage.

Love isn’t always easy for we must be open.  Are you willing to love even if you are hurt?

Because a relationship didn’t work the way you’d prefer… or a church committee member spoke harshly to you… your idea got shot down at work or a precious pet ascended to heaven…

I know… it hurts… of course it does…

So be gentle with yourself, first.

But dear leader – we have to have the courage to soften our hearts, stay receptive, and be open to love at all times.  And yes, that is at home and work.

This allows us to give the most to the world, and to ourselves.

Yes, at all times.

I know that might be hard to hear… Hang in there…

So there may be something that shut you down recently. Well, it’s time to unshutter the door and open back up. Take your heart out of the basement, or release your self-imposed sequestration in the attic. :)

Let’s be those loving, beautiful individuals, who deserve to receive and give love. And other people need it too!

Remember, to receive the benefit of love, we have to have courage.

“Love is Vulnerability Balanced with Courage.”

–Sunday, November 29th, 1998. 10:20pm.

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Pamela Hawley is the founder and CEO of UniversalGiving, an award-winning nonprofit helping people to donate and volunteer with top-performing, vetted organizations all over the world. Unique to UniversalGiving, 100% of all donations go directly to the cause.

Pamela is a winner of the Jefferson Award (the Nobel Prize in Community Service) and has been invited three times to the White House. Pamela was a finalist for Ernst and Young’s Entrepreneur of the Year Award and is an Expert Blogger for Fast Company and CSRWire. She is a philanthropy expert for the new TV show, Billions Rising.

Pamela is also an accomplished actress, improviser, dancer, and singer with over 100 performances in San Francisco, New York, and Los Angeles. She is trained by The Groundlings, a graduate of Upright Citizens Brigade, at advanced level Second City Los Angeles, and a BATS improv player. Pamela donates a portion of every show’s proceeds to UniversalGiving.

The Bundle of Sticks: “Union is Strength”

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A certain man had several sons who were always quarreling with one another, and, try as he might, he could not get them to live together in harmony. So he determined to convince them of their folly by the following means. 
 
Bidding them fetch a bundle of sticks, he invited each in turn to break it across his knee. All tried and all failed: and then he undid the bundle, and handed them the sticks one by one, when they had no difficulty at all in breaking them. “There, my boys,” said he,”united you will be more than a match for your enemies: but if you quarrel and separate, your weakness will put you at the mercy of those who attack you.” Union is strength.
Oh, team, how special….Union is strength. First, who wants to go it alone? Can we really do something special, just on our own?

 

More and more that I live, I think not. Or at least, it is not as beautiful! To team up, to work together and synergize is inspiring. It is a strength. It is companionship and team cameraderie whether you are launching a blog, building a company, unloading the dishes with a family member, or playing lacrosse; you can’t do that on your own :)

 

Even further… Union can be a strength to one’s soul during tough times. When a team member doesn’t say a kind word… a  friend leaves… a war starts or a neighbor builds an emotional wall…

 

We need a team of people, of loving people, to support us, help us, bolster us up.

 

Don’t be a stick. Join a bundle.

 

Be strong, together and live with love.

 

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Pamela Hawley is the founder and CEO of UniversalGiving, an award-winning nonprofit helping people to donate and volunteer with top-performing, vetted organizations all over the world. Unique to UniversalGiving, 100% of all donations go directly to the cause.

Pamela is a winner of the Jefferson Award (the Nobel Prize in Community Service), and has been invited three times to the White House. Pamela was a finalist for Ernst and Young’s Entrepreneur of the Year Award and is an Expert Blogger for Fast Company and CSRWire. She is a philanthropy expert for the new TV show, Billions Rising.

Pamela is also an accomplished actress, improviser, dancer and singer with over 100 performances in San Francisco, New York, and Los Angeles. She is trained by The Groundlings, a graduate of Upright Citizens Brigade, at advanced level Second City Los Angeles, and a BATS improv player. Pamela donates a portion of every show’s proceeds to UniversalGiving.

Remember that people trump business deals. Relationships rule over crossing the finish line.

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This is a letter I wrote to one my nephews as he went on a spiritual retreat. I hope you enjoy reading this and that you will join my in practicing this commitment to loving life, and the precious people in our lives….
January, 2015

 

Dear Will,

As you go through life, be sure to take time to realize the beautiful miracles within each day. Perhaps it is a conversation with a dear friend; a positive grade; a fun, spirited event at college; or the positive feeling which wells up within us when we compliment or encourage others.

 

Remember that people trump business deals. Relationships rule over crossing the finish line. A heartfelt word to a stranger wins over being published. “Being accomplished and successful” is being your best self, giving to others, each day. It is not a promotion or climbing up the “ladder.”

 

Of course, always do your best. We want you to achieve and excel, as you already have in creative writing, baseball and football. But along the way, the little and big kindnesses and care of others is what makes a successful life. That is heaven, here and in the future.

 

Love you dearly. I hope this helps guide you from the little I have learned. Love!

 

Aunt Pammie

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