Category Archives: Living Right

The Importance of Relationships

The Power of a Relationship. 

Today, I’d like to talk about the importance of a full relationship. Often, we think about someone being in our life for one, single reason.  But that’s not actually true.

In fact, every conversation, every relationship affects dozens, even thousands, of other people.  That’s right, thousands.  

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When we talk to someone, we affect them. We might ask them to do something.  That affects someone else, or even a group of people.   Even our tone can affect them: If you’re down, they might feel it. If you’re positive, you might lead them to a more peaceful state of mind.   How you affect them will affect how they treat the next person.  Every conversation is part of a chain for good, or stress, of joy or negativity.

You can make  every relationship,  lead to something greater.  I want to give an example of that today.

I’ve known Chris Towle for more than 10 years. He is a significant funder of ours. But he didn’t start out as a funder.

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I like creating relationships that relate to the whole person.  This is because I want to have a long-term relationship with them, which is based on them and not just money. After years of watching us, Chris donated from his family foundation, and then in subsequent years, donated stock.  So I don’t usually start fundraising from people after two or three years; then they know I value them for who they are.  Sometimes, I don’t even have to ask; they just give.

The relationship now extends into positive marketing for UniversalGiving. Chris and his wife are involved in Principia, where they invited us to speak at a conference. So you can see we’re building a long-term relationship, attaining funding, getting his company involved to give funding, and also helping with marketing. This isn’t just about a funding request.

I encourage you to think about this. How can your build positive relationships that go further than one person?

Let’s take a look at companies.  If you’re trying to attain a new client, is it just about closing a new deal?  Absolutely not.

First, it’s great to have a positive client.  That’s wonderful.  You can add to that.  We have such a positive relationship with Cisco, that former Cisco employees join UniversalGiving as a Returnee . How wonderful to get team members from Cisco!

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In addition, we can sell in our gift certificates to them: For the holidays or performance reviews, they provide gift certificates to their employees. Then, we both promote each other on social media; that’s marketing. So if you look at that, there’s a corporate contracts, returnees, gift certificates, and increasing donations on our site.  Pretty spectacular!  That’s certainly beyond one conversation, one relationship.

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So as you move forward today, know that one conversation can lead to another.  This kind of mindset can build so much good for the future.   Are you stressed? It won’t draw more people to your cause.  Are you positive?  Then you can be grateful for the great partnership you have, and expand it.

Sincerely,

Pamela

 

Love, All Along the Way

Today I share with you a letter that I wrote to a young woman graduating from high school. A life of promise lies ahead.
But a life of promise lies ahead for you, too, whether you are 18, 48 or 88.
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You can ‘graduate’ into a renewed sense of life.  Read on to see how you can impact the world today.

 

You might decide to donate today through UniversalGiving. You might decide to volunteer in Vietnam and help teach children English, build classrooms and playgrounds, or work towards building better homes for families. And you might also just be kind and loving to someone else.  All of it changes the world.  It’s time to graduate to a life filled with promise and joy.

Dear Brittany Joy,

A grand congratulations on your graduation! I am so proud of who you are as a person. You are a joyful, positive, and kind person. Your character is your most precious possession.

As you go into the world, may you take this treasure and share it with each individual you meet. That, in and of itself, is your greatest profession- to share love, each moment!

When I think of you, here are your gifts:

1.Principled Action:You take on action based on principle. With thoughtfulness and care, you bless the world with each task and endeavor.

2.Full Joy: That is your name and expression, and you shine it so radiantly. Brittany Joy Duke. It’s regal, loving, vibrant, and joy filled! Always spread the joy!

3.Love-all along the way: You might have a passion, or find the career of your dreams, or the man of your dreams! But, don’t forget to love all along the way. Thats the mailman, or grocery store clerk, your employee, parents, and the neighbor who might seem “tough”. Remember, all are lovable.

Congratulations dear Brittany Joy, on this momentous day. You are graduating, and graduating to live life with principle, joy, and love.

Onwards, onwards you go!

With greatest love, Auntie Pammie

The Best Way To Save The World

“The best way to save the world”
“The best way to save the world is to rule out of ourselves anything that is unlike God, or good.  When we can with the sage pray, “Dear God, reform the world beginning with me,” we will have begun rightly.” –
A Spiritual Thinker
If we want to help the world, it’s a good idea to start with ourselves.  You can give money, you can volunteer, but if you are harboring anything negative, you aren’t contributing your best to the world. Start with you, then help others.
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I Think We All Just Have To Find The Way That We Feel We Are Giving Through Our Heart

“I think we all just have to find the way that we feel we are giving through our heart and then that’s the right answer.” –  Anonymous

There are many needs in the world. Sometimes, we feel like we “should” volunteer, or “should” do something good.

But this wise thinker above encourages us to go into our heart. What feels like the best way to give?

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If you do, you will serve with authenticity. Your heart will be in it.  Your impact will really make a difference. 

A pushed heart, a forced activity, doesn’t really help the world.

Give with a true heart.

Sincerely,

Pamela

 

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Love Be With Me-From St.Patrick

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Love Be With Me 

Love with me, Love before me, Love behind me,
Love in me, Love beneath me, Love above me,
Love on my right, Love on my left,
Love where I lie, Love where I sit, Love where I arise,
Love in the heart of everyone who thinks of me,
Love in the mouth of every one who speaks to me,
Love in every eye that sees me,
Love in every ear that hears me.
Salvation is of the Lord.
Salvation is of the Love.
May your salvation, Lord, be ever with us.

I hope Love is with you today.

St. Patrick Bio

St. Patrick is Ireland’s patron saint, although he is not Irish himself, he is known for spreading Christianity throughout the country as a missionary during the 5th century. His real name is believed to be Maewyn Succat and he took on the name Patrick upon becoming a priest.

As a teen Patrick was captured by pirates, and sold into slavery in Ireland to herd and tend sheep. During his six-year captivity, he became fluent in the Irish language, he turned to God in prayer. He escaped after having a dream sent from God in which he was told to leave Ireland by going to the coast where he would find a ship waiting to sail to Britain. The shamrock appeared in these dreams. This was the tool reputedly used by Saint Patrick to illustrate the Holy Trinity to convert the Irish pagans Saint Patrick’s Breastplate: Also known as The Lorica, this was the hymn said to have been sung by Patrick and his followers on their pilgrimage to Tara as they attempted to put a stop to the pagan rituals.

Saint Patrick’s Day ParadesContrary to popular belief, this tradition did not originate in Ireland. The first St. Patrick’s Day celebration in America was in 1737 hosted by the Charitable Irish Society of Boston. Today festive parades are held all over the world.

The original version of Love Be With Me is Christ Be With Me and can be found below:

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Celebrate The Unique Community You Live In Today. Be A Part Of Building Its Future!

I love to learn about my community and its history. It’s especially helpful when we volunteer.  If you understand the history, you’ll be a more compassionate volunteer.

Below is the amazing history of the Tenderloin in San Francisco.  I serve with City Impact, which helps amazing families, single elderly people, and people on the streets.  They provide clothing, meals, a thrift store, job training and a listening ear to all who need it.

Today my dear friend and colleague Judy and I visited the Tenderloin Museum. I often walk through the Tenderloin, simply because it has aliveness, richness and history. Despite the desperation, homelessness and drugs, we can choose to look beyond the surface and see the good. Truly, I was amazed!

There were so many interesting periods of time starting from the 1920s. In both of the wars, young women flocked to the Tenderloin for single occupancies residency (single apartments) in order to be closer to work on Market Street. This was considered a huge split from the past: Normally women went from home to family, or home, college and family. This was a grand opportunity for young women to provide for themselves.  They were single, working women!   They were also contributing to their families. They felt excited and empowered to work, explore their talents, and earn money.

Some of these women were labeled “independent;” others were labeled unsavory, unwholesome, or loose women.  They had to fight a battle. They simply wanted to be working women.  While it is now the norm, these women paved the way for us.  I love to celebrate history that has given us a gift, an open door, a leg up.

At the same time, there were Madams and brothels where women sold themselves.  Many young women would step inside the building innocently, hoping to find industrious work. They were ensnared and brought into prostitution.

At one point, a reverend tried to crack down on the brothels. But in the 1920s the women held a huge strike against the crackdown. Most of them were able to support their children through the selling of themselves and sex. It was hard to hear that there was sex trafficking back then. We still have some work to do.

During this time, the Barbary Coast was in full swing. This was near South of Market (SOMA), and Yerba Buena. This was where all “vice” occurred. This included prostitution, alcohol (which was prohibited), gambling and the like. The museum reviewed incredible history about prohibition, the speakeasies, and “bar girls” (you’ll have to go to find out who they were!)

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So why is it called the Tenderloin?  There is a story about its name.  The police ruled this area. They turned a blind eye to alcohol, gambling and many other unsavory activities. In turn, they were paid back or accepted bribes. This extra money allowed the officers to buy  “tenderloin pieces” of meat for themselves and their families. This tenderloin is considered one of the most special expensive parts of meat prepared for cooking. So, that’s why it’s called the Tenderloin.

The city then shut down the Barbary Coast near SOMA; however, it migrated to the Tenderloin, which was becoming a thriving Jazz mecca!

The Tenderloin Museum showed the top clubs where Jazz players congregated. One was the Blackhawk: Thelonious Monk, Miles Davis, Dizzy Gillespie, Count Basie frequented the Blackhawk and to this day we have their recordings. Meanwhile, Compton’s was a cafeteria where people fought for the window seats. It was considered prestigious in the hood. People came there because they could be who they needed to be — whatever type of gender, nationality, or unique characteristic they had. The Tenderloin was a model of world-class music and of diversity.

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After the Vietnam War, floods of Vietnamese, Cambodian, and Laotian families traversing the Asian borders and settled in the Tenderloin.   This provided a huge culture boost and shift for the area and families created homes and a supportive community. Families brought businesses, created produce markets, and family restaurants, which combined into a warm atmosphere. Today, we have a diverse community of families, single people, and homeless. It is the most diverse place in the city, and labels itself as the most diverse in our nation.

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The Tenderloin Museum is having a celebration of the one-year anniversary on July 16. I hope you will join me! It’s a special area of history for our community. You may want to volunteer all over the world (and I do!), and we can also volunteer and serve in our backyard. You’ll see me at City Impact, at their annual community event of service on July 23rd. I hope you’ll join me there as well!

Celebrate the unique community you live in today. Get involved, and be a part of building its future!

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This day was joyful visit was with Judy Zhu, my mentee through the Duke University Innovation & Entrepreneurship Initiative LINK. I am mentoring Judy for her new app, which is designed to match students at universities by their interests. It helps them find meaningful communities where they can belong, as they start their journey at college.


The Tenderloin Museum

Open Tuesday-Sunday 10AM-5PM

The Tenderloin Museum celebrates and educates about the history of the neighborhood it is in. In the mid-20th century the Tenderloin provided work for many musicians in the neighborhood’s theaters, hotels, burlesque houses, bars and clubs and was the location of the Musician’s Union Building on Jones Street. After the Vietnam War, the Tenderloin received large numbers of refugees from Southeast Asia—first from China and Vietnam, then from Cambodia and Laos. The low-cost vacant housing, and the proximity to Chinatown through the Stockton Street Tunnel, made the area appealing to refugees and resettlement agencies. The Tenderloin has a long history as a center of alternate sexualities, including several historic confrontations with police. By visiting the museum, it offers the opportunity to learn more about the rich history of the neighborhood and the ethnic and cultural groups that have inhabited the area.

 

 

 

 

Beautiful Thoughts, Part 3: Fill Your Mind With Gratitude

It flows through your body, your soul and is a life force…

It will reach everyone you come in contact with.

It will make your heart happy, your mind clear, your body glowing. You are flushed with rosy gratitude in your complexion rather than ‘a grey day’ ashen look.

If your thought focuses on joy, your demeanor shows it.

If your thought is focused on your worries, your issues,
or even just a lot of thoughts about just you, you’ll appear grey.

Be grateful. It will lighten your step, your heart and your soul.

Fill your mind with gratitude.

Beautiful Thought #3: Fill Your Mind With Gratitude

I’m not waiting. Don’t you either!😀

Love, Pamela

PS. I hope you enjoyed this series on Beautiful Thoughts. Please feel free to read Beautiful Thoughts #1 and #2. What would you like to see in the next series?