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The Classic Pamela Positive: The “Big H”: The Unfailing Recipe For Happiness

“Serve others. The unfailing recipe for happiness and success is to want the good of others. Happiness and success is when I see others happy. Happiness is a shared thing.”

―Archbishop Desmond Tutu

Anglican Cleric and Theologian

We search. We search for the “Big H,” happiness, all the time. 


We try to find our right calling. Our right partner in life. The right home, city, school.  And yet…

Happiness is about sharing. 

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It’s about experiences, time, thoughts and caring for others — which are all spiritual. And I can’t imagine many people expressing their happiest times not in the presence of someone else. 

It’s being with others, and being with them in a meaningful way. 

We also know that it is not necessarily even doing something; it could just be sharing one another’s presence, with each other.

Archbishop Desmond Tutu is a Christian cleric known for his work for human rights. He grew up in Northwest South Africa and he was the only son in his family. He would later attend Johannesburg Bantu High School, where Tutu would thrive in academics and rugby. After high school, he became a teacher where he would meet his wife. Together, they would have two children– Trevor and Thandeka. He would later join the clergy to become an Anglican priest. Active in South Africa, he was an important opponent of apartheid. Other causes he has worked on include fighting AIDs, homophobia, tuberculosis, racism, and poverty. Nelson Mandela described him as “the voice of the voiceless.” Tutu received the Nobel Peace Prize in 1984, the Albert Schweitzer Prize for Humanitarianism in 1986, the Gandhi Peace Prize in 2005, and the Presidential Medal of Freedom in 2009.

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The Classic Pamela Positive: How to Get People To Follow You in the Deepest Valleys – Sun Tzu

“Regard your soldiers as your children, and they will follow you into the deepest valleys; look on them as your own beloved sons, and they will stand by you even unto death.”

Sun Tzu

Chinese General, Chinese Military Strategist,

Writer and Chinese Philosopher

How important this is.

“Whoever is following you into battle, you should love them as your own.”   

It could be a team at work; a sports team; a political-action group trying to pass a new law or an actual battle.

Love these “soldiers” as your own and their loyalty will be with your forever.

That’s because you have shown your loyalty to them. You will succeed in anything you do! 

Being Loyal is a Beautiful Way to Live, 

Sun Tzu (l. c. 500 BCE) was a Chinese military strategist and general best known as the author of the work The Art of War, a treatise on military strategy (also known as The Thirteen Chapters). He was associated (formally or as an inspiration) with The School of the Military, one of the philosophical systems of the Hundred Schools of Thought of the Spring and Autumn Period (c. 772-476 BCE), which advocated military preparedness in maintaining peace and social order.

Sun Tzu’s historicity is uncertain. The Han dynasty historian Sima Qian and other traditional Chinese historians placed him as a minister to King Helü of Wu and dated his lifetime to 544–496 BC. Modern scholars accepting his historicity place the extant text of The Art of War in the later Warring States period based on its style of composition and its descriptions of warfare. Traditional accounts state that the general’s descendant Sun Bin wrote a treatise on military tactics, also titled The Art of War. Since Sun Wu and Sun Bin were referred to as Sun Tzu in classical Chinese texts, some historians believed them identical, prior to the rediscovery of Sun Bin’s treatise in 1972.

Sun Tzu’s work has been praised and employed in East Asian warfare since its composition. During the twentieth century, The Art of War grew in popularity and saw practical use in Western society as well. It continues to influence many competitive endeavours in the world, including culture, politics, business and sports, as well as modern warfare.

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The Pamela Positive: Choose People, Over Things, At All Times

We get so caught up in e-commerce these days. The digital universe seems to rule our entire universe.  Being online has not only become part of our lives but much of our lives.  Sometimes, we spend more time with a computer, than with family.

But the draw is there… all the shiny things to buy!  The thrill of a sale. All the interesting things to explore.  How it shines and dangles before us!  

Our minds go back and forth…

That new purse!

The fancy new leather chair

A new diamond?

Wow sounds so sparkly!

Maybe. I want that.

Maybe a jaguar or BMW sounds special.  

I just want to shop!

Get me more stuff, it’s fun!!  

Well, Living and Giving Team…

Not really…

Let’s recenter, Living and Giving team, with your heart on what is important.  We are so into ecommerce these days, rather than being present with people. 

“Choose people, over things, at all times”

It is the warm smile — from anyone. Your wife, your husband, the person at CVS, the bus driver, anyone.  Someone random smiled at you….  You feel warm.     

It is the kind help from a neighbour.  They were just thinking of you and brought over some food.  

The Druze leader, temple head, pastor, Muslim cleric who guides you, nurture you, and helps you be a better person; you are grateful to know them and that they are in your life.  

It’s your support group counsellor who tells you they see you succeeding.  It fills your heart with warmth.  

It’s your support group colleague who reassures you they will be there for you, through anything. 

It is your mom who just listens and loves through anything… 

It is your dog who greets you as if you are the BEST person they have ever met 

It is your nephew who says “Thanks! That 10-minute call really boosted my day!”  

Your child that gurgles and glows at you with joy.

The child you mentor and tutor in Math through the foster care program, who looks lost when you start and looks more peaceful by the time you part.

The elderly person you visit at the respite home where you sing songs together as an activity.   

All of these people and people interactions above bring love in your life  It brings love, warmth, goodness, joy. You are filled. You are expanded with more power…. a loving power, a force of kindness and goodness that surrounds you.  Love is your joy. Love is your wealth .

So it’s not things that give you this power…

“Choose people, over things, at all times”

Perhaps think again about life. What do you need to reconfigure?  What focus is on consumption, and what focus is on people?  How do you spend your time?

Good things to think about.   Your life is as wealthy as you make it

Focus on the People in Your Life, 

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The Pamela Positive: “Sometimes You Have To Be Aggressive About Finding A Way To Be Courageous.” – Val Kilmer

“Sometimes you have to be aggressive about finding a way to be courageous.”

― Val Kilmer
American actor

That’s a powerful statement.

Courage has a spirit to it. Courage has might to it. Courage is honourable.

Val Kilmer, one of our most accomplished actors with many unbelievably successful movies, had one of his most courageous roles.

This wasn’t an acting role. It was the role of courage to take a stand on cancer, and to

be healed of it. That is a courageous role, even if it is not on the screen.  It’s a courageous role, in real life.  

Just as the cancer was very aggressive — so Val had to be aggressive.

He had to climb up steep hills! 

His courage wasn’t just a spirited will, or drive to succeed, or perseverance.  It was aggressive and hard earned and stay-with-it-and-believe you will be healed!

Sometimes we think of aggressive as perhaps “too much.” 

 Or being a Bulldog. Relentless. Bite down and never let go.

In this case, you don’t have to be a bulldog. 

But aggressive courage does mean you do have to relentlessly pursuenever give up, until you reach your goal. 

This is still a part of this first blog post….. below. 

So where do you need to be *aggressively courageous* today?

I am supporting you to take a stand so you can right the wrong, live the right.  You can see the goodattain a higher view of living — where your peace, your rights, your health, your livelihood is at its best.

So we go back to Val, worldwide acclaimed actor and also leader, healed of cancer. He didn’t let it hold him back. He’s still living.   And he has 4 movies coming out. I’d say that success.   

You might have to take a stand for courage. You might have to be aggressive to be courageousSome issues need your *never-give-up-stance*.

I’m Being Courageous Today Right With You, 

Val Edward Kilmer is an American actor, musician, and artist. Originally a stage actor, Kilmer became popular in the mid-1980s after a string of appearances in comedy films, starting with *Top Secret!* (1984) and *Real Genius* (1985), as well as the military action film *Top Gun* (1986), and the fantasy film *Willow* (1988). Kilmer is also the author of the book, I’m Your Huckleberry: A Memoir published in 2020. Kilmer was born December 31, 1959, in Los Angeles, the son of Gladys Swanette and Eugene Dorris Kilmer. He attended the Hollywood Professional School and became the youngest person at the time to be accepted into the Juilliard School’s Drama Division, where he was a member of Group 10. Kilmer was married to actress Joanne Whalley from March 1988. The two met while working together on the film Willow. The couple had two children, a daughter, Mercedes, and a son, Jack.

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The Classic Pamela Positive: “The Big Lesson In Life, Baby, Is Never Be Scared Of Anyone Or Anything.” – Frank Sinatra

“The big lesson in life, baby, is never be scared of anyone or anything.”

Frank Sinatra

American Singer, Actor and Producer

Many of us wish we could say that. 🙂  If we are trusting and calm in our thoughtsthen we truly cannot be scared of anyone, or anything.

Frank Sinatra, as the beautiful singer he was, was always fearless on stage. He tried to take that through his life, living with vigour. He lived with energy, with excitement, and continued to sing, sing, sing. He never feared he’d lose his career, his voice, his talent. He just kept being him, being his best.

Maybe one of the ways to do that is to Have Trust.

If we are trusting and calm in our thoughts, then we truly cannot be scared of anyone, or anything.

That Trust focuses on doing our best, being you, being me. We focus on doing our best to be us!

And so then you are not fearing. Because you are focused on being your best writer, best lawyer, best mom, best friend, best dog walker, best vice president of sales, best gardener, best neighbour. There’s no fear there… because you are trusting and being your best.

Frank Sinatra is an American singer and motion-picture actor who is known as one of the greatest American singers of the 20th century. He played a key role in changing the music industry by popularizing jazz music. Sinatra was born Francis Albert “Frank” Sinatra in Hoboken, New Jersey as an only child to two Italian immigrants. As teenager, Sinatra had decided to become a singer after watching Bing Crosby by joined a glee club in his high school and began singing at local nightclubs.

Sinatra began his musical career in the swing era as a boy singer with Harry James and Tommy Dorsey, Sinatra found unprecedented success as a solo artist from the early to mid-1940s after being signed by Columbia Records in 1943 and released his first album The Voice of Frank Sinatra in 1946. Due to his dreamy baritone voice, it earned him nicknames such as “The Voice” and “The Sultan of Swoon.” He later signed with Capitol Records in 1953 until he left Capitol in 1961 to find his own record label Reprise Records. Among the albums, he released “Come Fly with Me”, “Nice ‘n’ Easy”, and “Sinatra at the Sands.”

Sinatra made his movie acting debut in 1943 with the films like Reveille With Beverley and Higher and Higher. His other film credits include From Here to Eternity (won the Academy Award for Best Supporting Actor), The Man with the Golden Arm (nominated for the Best Actor Oscar), The Manchurian Candidate, Guys and Dolls, and High Society.

Sinatra had three children, Nancy, Frank Jr., and Tina, all with his first wife, Nancy Sinatra (née Barbato) (m. 1939–1951). He was married three more times, to actresses Ava Gardner (m. 1951–1957), Mia Farrow (m. 1966–1968) and finally to Barbara Marx (m. 1976–1998; his death).

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