Monthly Archives: January 2019

The Classic Pamela Positive: Why Certain People Are In Your Life

These words have been inspiring to me, and I am glad to share them with you.

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.

 

 

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When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly.  They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.  They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be.

 

 

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Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.  They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

 

 

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LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person (any way); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind, but friendship is clairvoyant.

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The Classic Pamela Positive: “Tough Times Never Last, But Tough People Do.” – Dr. Robert Schuller

 

“Tough times never last, but tough people do.”

– Dr. Robert Schuller

 

And the point here is not be tough… but to persevere. To last through the valley. To endure, cultivate patience, and live humility. With that, we develop our character which allows us to serve our world and neighbors more effectively.

 

 

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So we encourage you to last. Sometimes the road might seem long, but look at that beautiful, eternal sunshine. Keep reaching for it.

 

Sunshine Ahead,

Pamela

 


 

 

Dr. Robert Schuller was a minister and founder of the Crystal Cathedral in Garden Grove, California. He was born in Alton, Iowa and he was the youngest of five children. His grandparents were both Dutch immigrants, and he was part of a tight-knit Dutch community. After he graduated high school, Dr. Schuller attended Hope College and then received his Master of Divinity degree from Western Theological Seminary. In 1950, he married Arvella De Haan, who would help shape the music of Crystal Cathedral. Together they had five children. He wrote over thirty books and six of those books became New York Times bestsellers. He was best known for starting the popular TV program Hour of Power; as a result he became a popular Televangelist. After retiring as the principle pastor of the Crystal Cathedral, he became the chairman of the church’s board of directors.

The Classic Pamela Positive: Downsize Your Dreams? Why You Might Be Happier

 

“Friends” and “Sex and the City” – have been eclipsed by novels about young women abandoning the bright lights and fast track for simpler lives, smaller towns, and more homespun fellas. Even daydreams, this seems to show, can be downsized.”

— John Yemma, Editor of the Christian Science Monitor

 

Should you downsize your dreams?

Yet what are our dreams? They are hope for happiness.

 

 

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Happiness, however, is not always in the big goal. The promotion, the marriage, the child, the award.  Happiness is in finding peace now in our situation.

 

Happiness is finding the right calling, not simply staying complacent in a job.  Happiness is also being grateful to have a job in this economy.  Happiness is being able to serve with excellence in a job.

 

Happiness is finding the right person, not just being married.  Happiness is finding the good in your marriage and focusing on that.

 

 

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Happiness is having a child. Happiness is also mentoring a child or adopting a child. Happiness is also having a childlike spirit.

 

Happiness is being recognized for an achievement well deserved. Happiness is being understated, humble, and quiet, knowing you have served well, without broadcasting it.

 

When we ‘downsize our dreams,’ we aren’t losing hope.  Or settling. We are saying to ourselves, I can find my dream of happiness right where I am.  I will also find it in the future, goal achieved or not.

 

 

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The Classic Pamela Positive: “When You’re at the Table, You’re Open and Your Defenses Are Down”

 

“People want that gathering together. The table is magical. When you’re at the table, you’re open and your defenses are down.”

– Lidia Bastianich, host of PBS “Lidia’s Italy”

 

Mealtimes seem to be a time of the past. We eat in our cars and desks or even holding a power bar walking out the door… and yet Lidia points out how we can find deep caring and nourishment at the table. It’s not just sharing food, but also sharing of our hearts and feelings. It’s a time to be a sounding board and to have sounding boards…from people who truly care about you. It’s a time to relax, and yet also profound as some of the most important issues in your life may come out in a casual way.

 

 

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Don’t miss this time with your loved ones.  “The table is magical.”  Or I might add  “The people at the table are magical.”

 

You’re Magical,

Pamela

 

 

 

The Classic Pamela Positive: Money Can’t Buy Happiness

 

Money cant buy happiness.  Sometimes we forget this. Remember, it was the Beatles who brought this up through their songs. They had powerful messages which made us think. 

 

 

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So the next time you are enjoying one of their songs, remember, too, their life advice. Money cant buy happiness.

 

Strong relationships do. Working at something you love can bring it. Spending time with those you respect does. Adhering to your values does. Relationships, sincere work, people and values bring you happiness. 

 

 

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Focus on those four areas, and not only will you have happiness, but the money will come. Youll be doing what you love to do, and that will surely be compensated.

 

Do What You Love, Do It With Love,

Pamela