Monthly Archives: October 2018

The Classic Pamela Positive: How Mahatma Gandhi Teaches Us: To Be…Love and Change, Start with You Now

“You must be the change you wish to see in the world.”

– Mahatma Gandhi

 

The key word here from one of our greatest leaders is ‘be.’ Every day we have a chance to be. And the most important being is loving. Being kind, gracious, and helping others. That can start today. We can and should whisk away frustration, for every moment of frustration is one not spent on being the positive force we hope to be. What type of foundation are you building? One that crumbles from exhaustion and disbelief, cynicism? Or one of solidity, brick, by brick, with each brick contributing Principle, Love, Kindness, Grace, Strength, Truth, Joy…? As Gandhi says… the other key word here is ‘you.’ No one can do this for you. Not your partner, your parents, your best friend or your spouse.  You… are the being.

 

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Mahatma Gandhi was a political and spiritual leader during the Indian Independence movement. He preached resistance through non-violence and mass civil disobedience. He led the Indian National Congress and advocated for the end of poverty, for women’s rights and for independence from Britain. He also renounced religious violence and did several fasts in protest against it. Gandhi was deeply inspired by his Hindu faith, while also drawing on other religious philosophy, and advocating religious tolerance. He married Kasturbai Gandhi and they had four children together.

The Classic Pamela Positive: “You’re Not Going To Have Control Over The Next Wave… So Face The Waves, Try To Catch One.” – Amy Poehler

 

The wave is coming no matter what… try to catch one and ride it.

“The sooner you realize that everything changes—that the things that happen to you are not you and that everything will be different all the time and you have such little control over the next wave, then you’ll just kind of stay in the moment, find your gravity, and be open to what’s coming. Just don’t turn your back on the wave—it’s coming no matter what; you can’t hide from it. So face the waves, try to catch one [and] ride it.”

–       Amy Poehler, actress, writer, co-founder of Smart Girls

Here’s a prolific comedian who helps us laugh every day. Through Parks & Recreation, she has more than 4.2 million viewers.1 With her funny and grounding character of Leslie Knope, she brings lightness, humor, and human pathos to us.

She’s also gone through challenges. She has two young sons and she’s divorced from her husband. It wasn’t in her plan; perhaps, this is one of the waves she is speaking about.

 

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She knows from life experience that you can’t control the next wave that’s coming to you. You have to stay in the moment. You have to ride it.

 

You have to be grounded even when you don’t know what the wave is going to do.   You don’t know whether you’re able to body surf……

 

 

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or if you’re going to be pummeled…

 

 

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or if you’re going to be to safely and beautifully ride through tunnel.

 

 

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Either way, we can’t hide from it.  Face the wave and try to enjoy what it teaches you. It will make you a better person.

 

I’m looking forward to my waves,

 

Pamela

 

 

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Amy Poehler is an actress, comedian, and producer. She was born in Newton, Massachusetts and raised in Burlington, Massachusetts. Her parents were both teachers and she has one younger brother who is also an actor and producer. She attended Boston College, where she received her B.A. in media and communications. After college, she moved to Chicago where she would study improv comedy. She joined Saturday Night Live in 2001, where she would be the first woman to be promoted from featured guest to full cast member. After leaving SNL in 2008 to have her child, she would lead a new series, Parks and Recreation. For her role as Leslie Knope, she received numerous Emmy nominations for her role and help in writing many episodes. In 2014, she won the Golden Globe for Best Actress in a Television Series. She is an executive producer for the comedy series Broad City and Difficult People. In 2016, she won an Emmy Award for outstanding guest actress on SNL.

 

 

Citations:
1 Patten, Dominic, “ ‘Parks & Recreation’ Ratings Soar in Series Finale, ‘MasterChef Jr.’  & ‘Agent carter’ Finales Steady”, February 25, 2015, Deadlinehttps://deadline.com/2015/02/parks-and-recreation-ratings-series-finale-masterchef-jr-agent-carter-voice-ncis-nbc-1201381220/
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The Classic Pamela Positive: Thoughts on Kindness and Battle

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a great battle.”

 

 

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This quote is often attributed to Philo of Alexandria. Philo was a Hellenistic Jewish philosopher who lived from 20 BC to 50 AD. This quote is also sometimes cited to Plato, a classical Greek philosopher who was the student of Socrates and the teacher of Aristotle.

 

I received this great quote from a wonderful academic leader at USC, Warren Bennis. I was sharing my mission and values with Dr. Bennis, and he provided this quote as helpful guidance.

 

I met Dr. Bennis when I was inducted into his leadership institute while getting my masters in communications. His demeanor is warm, kind, astute and constantly open to new trends and progress in our society. Dr. Bennis, thank you for this meaningful quote!

The Classic Pamela Positive: “We Are Going To Get Through This”- Sheryl Sandberg

 

We are not going to say, “You are going to get through this”

but

We are going to get through this.”

 

“I learned the power of the word ‘we.’ Not saying to people, ‘You are going to get through this,’ but ‘We are going to get through this.’ That is such a different message, because it makes people feel less alone, and all of these forms of hardship, it’s not just the hardship itself but the isolation that comes with it. ‘We’ changes that.”

 

–       Sheryl Sandberg, Facebook COO, author, activist

 

What a beautiful quote from Sheryl Sandberg, who knows that hardships can’t be faced by themselves.

 

 

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People face tough events, such as Sheryl Sandberg, and losing her spouse and partner.  But other people face hardships in a different way.1 Did you know that more than 72% of the population is lonely? This is leading to an epidemic of people having psychological problems and breakdowns by not having the bonds of community, love, and feeling cherished.

 

 

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All of us need to know that when we are facing a changing time, that we have someone by our side.

 

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There’s someone to hold our hand.

 

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You might be going through anxiety that makes your heart race and feel as if it’s going 20,000 beats per minute. Your husband might have just asked you for divorce. Your precious pet needs to get an operation. Or your son didn’t get into the elementary school that you’d hoped. Some of these may be major crises and some of these are “softer” crises, but they’re all things where we need a shoulder to shoulder approach.

Whose side can you stand by today?

Is there someone in your life who’s going through something that needs your help? Don’t let them go through it alone. Remember that we are going get through thisnot you are going to get through this.

 

Let’s do this together,

Pamela

 

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Sheryl Sandberg is the chief operating officer (COO) of Facebook and founder women’s empowerment organization Lean In Foundation. She was born in Washington, D.C. and grew up in North Miami Beach, Florida. She was an exceptional student in high school, graduating top ten of her class and then went on to Harvard College. She studied economics at Harvard and graduated summa cum laude. She also received the John H. Williams Prize for top graduating student in economics. She would later attend Harvard Business School as well. Before moving to Facebook, Sandberg was vice president of global online sales and operations at Google, where she would help launch Google’s philanthropy program. In 2009, she was named one of the 25 most influential people on the web byBusiness Week. On their list of top 100 most powerful women in the world, Forbes has listed her as ninth in 2014 and fourth in 2017. She is a widow and she has two children.

 

 

Citations:
1 Lunardi, Stefano, “Feeling lonely? So are a lot of other people, survey finds”, CBS News, October 12, 2016, https://www.cbsnews.com/news/many-americans-are-lonely-survey-finds/
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Fig. 5: Photo by Unknown on Forbes

 

 

The Classic Pamela Positive: “The Greatest Mind is Always the Simplest.” – Russell Conwell

Now, the greatest mind is always the simplest.
Did you ever see a really great man?
Great in the best and truest sense?
If so, you could walk right up to him and say:
“How are you, Jim? “

 

-Russell Conwell, “Acres of Diamonds”

 

That’s right. The most amazing people are warm and accessible to all. That’s because they know everyone has a beautiful gift to give, and no one is greater. The greatest gift is being open and loving.



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Russell Conwell (February 15, 1843 – December 6, 1925) was an American Baptist minister, orator, philanthropist, lawyer, and writer. He is best remembered as the founder and first president of Temple University in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania and for his inspirational lecture Acres of Diamonds. The son of Massachusetts farmers, Conwell attended Yale University and after graduating enlisted in the Union Army during the American Civil War. He was ordained as a Baptist minister in 1880, and delivered his famous speech “Acres of Diamonds” over 6,000 times around the world. The central idea of the work is that one need not look elsewhere for opportunity, achievement, or fortune – the resources to achieve all good things are present in one’s own community. Conwell’s capacity to establish Temple University and his other civic projects largely derived from the income that he earned from the speech. The published version has been regarded as a classic of New Thought literature since the 1870s.

The Classic Pamela Positive: “Love Is Not Love Until Love’s Vulnerable” – Wisdom Inside a Chocolate Wrapper

“Love is not love until love’s vulnerable.” 

 

The Dream by Theodore Roethke,

as found on the inside of a Trader Joe’s chocolate bar wrapper

 

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Theodore Roethke (1908-1963) was an American poet who won the Pulitzer Prize for poetry, for his book The Waking.  His other best known books include The Lost Son, The Far Field, and Words for the Wind.  His poetry is noted for its rhythm, imagery and focus on nature. He grew up in Saginaw, Michigan and his father was a German immigrant. He received his B.A. and M.A. from the University of Michigan for English. He went on to graduate school at Harvard College before he would leave to teach English at a number of universities. In 1953, Roethke married a former student, Beatrice O’Connell. Roethke is widely considered to be one of the most accomplished and influential poets of his time. He taught poetry at the University of Washington for many years and was highly regarded by his colleagues and students.

The Classic Pamela Positive: Read This If You Want To Know How You are Measured

 

“Don’t ever think that your grades are the measure of your capacity to change the world, because they’re not. 

Don’t ever think that your income is a measure of your capacity to change the world, because it’s not.

 There’s a different metric system if you want to change the world.”

 –       Bryan Stevenson

 

 

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There’s a different way to look at the world. It’s not about your grades.

It’s not about how much money you make. It’s not about your beauty.

 

 

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If you want to change the world, you have to come up with a different measurement system. You have to say and

 

make sure that things count that sometimes the world says doesn’t count.

 

I’m counting all the positive things about you,

Pamela