Monthly Archives: October 2015

The Pamela Positive: Divide and Rule… Unite and Lead

helping hands

This is a great quote from Johann Wolfgang von Goethe: “Divide and rule, a sound motto; unite and lead, a better one.”

At times need to separate into distinct groups in order to have harmony… but that’s short term. We are all most connected and most spiritually productive when we serve one another.

So if you need to divide and rule right now, you are taking a good step. One that provides clarity.   But in a close future, the habit will be one of uniting. Differences, disagreements will disappear, whether it is a misunderstanding with a neighbor, or the devastation in the Congo.

Let’s hold to this unity: It’s a better you, me, all of us.

—✶—

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe (1749-1832) was a German poet, playwright, novelist, and natural philosopher, best known for his two-part poetic drama Faust, which he started around the age of twenty-three and didn’t finish till shortly before his death sixty years later. He is considered one of the greatest contributors of the German Romantic period. At the age of sixteen, in 1765, Goethe went to Leipzig University to study law as his father wished, though he also gained much recognition from the Rococo poems and lyric he wrote during this period. In 1766 he fell in love with Anne Catharina Schoenkopf (1746-1810) and wrote his joyfully exuberant collection of poems Annette.

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe now rests in the Fürstengruft or “Royal Tomb” in the “Historic Cemetery” in Wiemar where his dear friend Schiller is also laid to rest. In honour of these two famous German men of letters, a statue of Goethe and Schiller now stands at the German National Theatre in Munich. UNESCO’S “Memory of the World” list includes the handwritten works of Goethe preserved by the Goethe-Schiller-Archive.

Bio Source: The Literature Network

Be a Beautiful, Helpful, and Help-the-World Person

Dear Living and Giving team,
 
This is a confidential message I sent to our wonderful UniversalGiving team… I hope you enjoy.
light-person-woman-fire

Hi Team,

This has helped me for many, many years… it’s a wonderful encouragement on how we can be our best not just at work, but in life. Stephen Covey was a mastermind on how to be a beautiful, helpful, and help-the-world person.

It’s about being purposeful, responsible, kind, listening and balanced. It takes care of you — and others.

I hope you enjoy. Sometimes I just work on one facet, for the entire day.

Below is my summary, and the full excerpt is below. What moves you the most?  What areas are you working on?

Happy Weekend, Happy Life!

Sincerely, Pamela

With Yourself
Take responsibility for your choices
Clarify your deeply important character values
Prioritize, plan, and execute

With People
Genuinely strive for mutually beneficial solutions
Listen to be genuinely influenced by a person
Combine the strengths of people through positive teamwork, so as to achieve goals no one person could have done alone.

Back To You
Balance and renew your resources, energy, and health 

Sincerely,
Pamela

***

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

By Stephen R. Covey

The seven habits move us progressively on a continuum from dependence to independence to interdependence.

Independence or Self-Mastery

The first three habits are about moving from dependence to independence.

Habit 1. Be Proactive: Take initiative in life by realizing that your decisions (and how they align with life’s principles) are the primary determining factor for effectiveness in your life. Take responsibility for your choices and the subsequent consequences that follow.

Habit 2. Begin with the End in Mind: Self-discover and clarify your deeply important character values and life goals. Envision the ideal characteristics for each of your various roles and relationships in life.

Habit 3. Put First Things First: Prioritize, plan, and execute your week’s tasks based on importance rather than urgency. Evaluate whether your efforts exemplify your desired character values, propel you toward goals, and enrich the roles and relationships that were elaborated in Habit 2.

Interdependence

The next three habits are about interdependence (working with others).

Habit 4. Think Win-Win: Genuinely strive for mutually beneficial solutions or agreements in your relationships. Value and respect people by understanding a “win” for all is ultimately a better long-term resolution than if only one person in the situation had gotten his way.

Habit 5. Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood: Use empathic listening to be genuinely influenced by a person, which compels them to reciprocate the listening and take an open mind to being influenced by you. This creates an atmosphere of caring, respect, and positive problem solving.

Habit 6. Synergize: Combine the strengths of people through positive teamwork, so as to achieve goals no one person could have done alone. Get the best performance out of a group of people through encouraging meaningful contribution, and modeling inspirational and supportive leadership.

Self Renewal

The last habit relates to self-rejuvenation.

Habit 7. Sharpen the Saw: Balance and renew your resources, energy, and health to create a sustainable, long-term, effective lifestyle. This habit primarily emphasizes exercise for physical renewal, prayer (meditation, yoga) and good reading for mental renewal. It also mentions service to the society for spiritual renewal.

The Classic Pamela Positive: “Do What’s Right For You…Nothing Good Happens Out of Fear.”

red-head-767078_1280

Do what’s right for you…nothing good happens out of fear.” — Juliana Margulies

Juliana is an accomplished actress with ER and The Good Wife. As an actress, she faces fear continually in performing under pressure, or simply lining up her next role. Yet as challenging as that is, she encourages us to do what’s right for us… to follow our calling… and to never be ruled by FEAR. Remember that FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real. Don’t let the appearance delude you.

Follow what you are called to; follow the truth for you; and you are going to find a beautiful pathway of expression of yourself, filled with peace and happiness.

Then encourage others to do the same, so they can be their full selves too. No one deserves to be ruled by fear. Be ruled by Truth and Love.

I wanted to convey to these students to live your life truthfully, do what’s right for you – not what others think is right for you. Nothing good happens out of fear. Do what you love doing. It might be scary because you’re taking a risk, but at the end of the day you can say you tried.”  — Juliana Margulies, in a graduation speech at Sarah Lawrence, her alma mater

***

Juliana Margulies is an American actress who achieved success as a regular character on ER, for which she received an Emmy.  More recently, she took the lead role in The Good Wife, and has received a Golden Globe and two Screen Actors Guild awards.  She was married in 2007, and has one son.

“You’ll See Spirit Operating Everywhere” – Dan Millman

“Like the flower, trusting Spirit working according to a higher will beyond the reach of your mind, you’ll see Spirit operating everywhere, in everyone and everything. To trust the process of your life. The more you trust Spirit in this way, the more you will work with it directly as a living force in your life… unfolding, like a flower, toward the Light.”  –Dan Millman

sky2

Pamela’s Weekly Words of Wisdom: Give A Gift Every Day

Hands holding a gift box isolated on black background

Give a gift every day.

Send your friend’s birthday gift early.

See a gift that would be meaningful for someone you care about, and just buy it. Give it to them now.

Take the time to cook a meal for your partner or your roommate.  Take the time to cook a meal for yourself.

Smile at a person walking down the street.

Smile at a homeless person and stop and learn their name. There is the gift of knowing someone. Of acknowledging you care.

Be kind to yourself.

Get in bed early.

Say three gratefuls before you fall asleep.

Say three gratefuls when you wake up.

Believe today is special.

Take time at lunch to be grateful for three more things.

Pay the phonebill for your roommate.

Drop off banana bread for your neighbor.

Give a lot. Expect little.

Smile at yourself in the mirror.

Work hard and attain the gift of devotion to something you believe in.

Work and leave early and give yourself a gentle night off, nurturing yourself.

Stop and look at nature. Any part of nature. The expanse of the sky; drifting clouds; a vibrant flower.

Give yourself the gift of awareness of how precious and beautiful life is every day.

Why You Can’t Take Your Freedom to Think, and Freedom to Speak, for Granted

I love our famous Social Media Guru Beth Kanter. Below is great excerpt on how to attain Internet access, from what she and her colleagues learned from all over the world.

May people who need a voice, have one.

May people who desire freedom attain it.

May people who simply want to express an idea be able to do so.

We shouldn’t ever take our freedom to think, and our freedom to speak, for granted.

120px-Smiles_of_innocence

Read on to get your freedom, or support someone who needs it. In this piece from 3 years ago, Beth Kanter relates how she faced Internet blockage during a Social Media training center in the Middle East:

“Unfortunately, yesterday, the Pakistan government decided to block Twitter – after we had just gotten everyone comfortable tweeting!

According to Pakistan’s Express Tribune, the request to block the site was made by the Ministry of Information and Technology, because of a drawing competition (details here). The ministry asked Twitter to remove the content, but Twitter responded that it “cannot stop any individual doing anything of this nature on the website.” Directives to block the site were sent to ISPs in several parts of the country, including PTCL Broadband and Wi-Tribe. It also reports that Twitter is still accessible by mobile using secure browsers like Opera, as well as proxies and VPNs. More from GlobalVoices.

The coverage in TechCrunch came about when activists in Pakistan wrote to major social media sites about the block. Waqas Ali, who is Lahore, sent TechCrunch a screenshot of the blocked Twitter. According to TechCrunch, Ali has also played a role in a past campaign in the country to keep Facebook from getting banned.

The block did not last long. According to Pakistan’s Express Tribune, the Prime Minister Yousaf Raza Gilani made the decision to restore access to Twitter.   

My colleague, Stephanie Rudat, who is working with me on the project, and I decided that we needed to “How To Get Past Internet Censorship” review. Stephanie put together this awesome resource list of services.”

*****

Beth, thank you for an inspiring and practical way to help others… and to being responsive! I bet the entire world thanks you.

Biography- Beth Kanter (from bethkanter.org)

Beth Kanter is the author of Beth’s Blog: How Nonprofits Can Use Social Media, one of the longest running and most popular blogs for nonprofits.  She co-authored the book titled “The Networked Nonprofit” with Allison Fine published by J Wiley in 2010 that received Honorable Mention for the Terry McAdams Award.  Beth has over 30 years working in the nonprofit sector in technology, training, capacity building, evaluation, fundraising, and marketing.   Her second book, Measuring the Networked Nonprofit,  with Co-Author KD Paine, will be published in October, 2012.

In 2009, she was named by Fast Company Magazine as one of the most influential women in technology and one of Business Week’s “Voices of Innovation for Social Media.”  She was named Visiting Scholar for Social Media and Nonprofits for the David and Lucile Packard Foundation in 2009-2012.  She was a Society of New Communications Research Fellow for 2010.

Beth was honored with the inaugural PepsiCo Women’s Inspiration Award at the 2011 SxSW Interactive Festival.

She Didn’t Need to Ask Him For Anything

I have a group called my “Spiritual Friends.”  These are people with great hearts!  So we love to share inspiration.

Last night I read a prolific mini-biography on Catherine of Genoa, from the 15th century.

cath1

Her life was so different from the lives we live today.  She lived a very tough life, but, in the last part of her life — See how happy! How fulfilled!  How complete she is!   She is living and serving in Love. Her life is so complete, because she is fully loving.

So let’s learn from her and from her life… Here’s her brief story.


Catherine came from the prominent Italian Fieschi family. She originally wanted to join the convent.  Upon the death of her father at age 16, Catherine married a wealthy trader. He was also from prestige, having been connected to two Popes in his family.

It was not a happy union. He treated her most unkindly with a violent temper and relentless spending.  At times, she was distracted from her original spiritual devotion to God.

cath

At one point in a church, she became so humbled and had a vision of conversion.  She became in constant union with God.  It was back to her original vision of wanting to be in a convent, in a way; she was tireless, obedient, loving. She became a mystic and saint, ministering to the poor with utmost servitude.

It was said about her: “Her love for God was matched only by her love for others.”

As you see below, she was so close to God — she didn’t need to ask him for anything. 


“May this be our prayer: “I do not want to turn my eyes from you O God.   There I want them to stay and not move no matter what happens to me, within or without.”

For those who trust in God need not worry about themselves. As I think about you, my spiritual children, I see that God’s pure love is attentive to all your needs. It is because of his tender love I need not ask anything of God for you.”  -Catherine of Genoa

Catherine of Genoa

Life’s and Teachings
1447–1510
“Her love for God was matched only by her love for others”
Bio: Catherine of Genoa was born in Genoa in 1447. Following an unhappy and abusive marriage, she was converted to Catholicism during a confession. Catherine of Genoa became a saint recognized for her work among the sick and the poor.