It is so amazing to me that when we communicate, the words really ‘come in third place.’
First, it’s tone. Tone communicates the most for us. If we are kind, inclusive, loving, we have opened up a wealth of goodness, opportunity and long-term relationships. That’s enriching, positive communications.
If you say “you look so nice!” – that can be lovely or sarcastic. It can be kind, gentle, or demeaning and contradictory. So calm, proactive, inclusive, “slow” conversations, or enthusiastic, proactive and loving statements, can help provide dynamic change.
Your tone is what opens up the conversation and action for change.
Second, it’s is body language. If you say something with gusto but your shoulders are caved in, you are contradicting yourself. How you carry yourself, walk, speak — and especially the intent of your eyes, communicates profoundly. Be strong but humble with your body. Honest and clear, but fluid in your movements. Find that special balance of strength and openness in how you present yourself, your postures and even the way you move.
Third, it’s words. Words are the least communicative. You can reinforce by thousands of percents the words in a positive way or negative depending on how you say it.
How we communicate and the tone we choose, each moment, can create a more loving, trusting world. Realize how much you can impact the world today, by this simple but important commitment.