Monthly Archives: August 2013

The Classic Pamela Positive: “In Happy Moments…”

“In happy moments, praise God.  In the difficult moments, seek God.  In the quiet moments, trust God.  In every moment, thank God.”

— Anonymous

“What the World Needs Is People Who Have Come Alive” – Howard Thurman

“Don’t ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive and then go do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” – Howard Thurman

This is very true.

Often I hear people say,”Oh! I wish I did something meaningful like you do, helping the world.”

Working in philanthropy is a wonderful way to serve. But just because you aren’t a social worker, teacher, or philanthropist doesn’t mean you aren’t living a meaningful life of service.

Follow what your deepest inner voice tells you – not what society says. You are created for a purpose.

It may be that you have a passion and talent for design. Help make peoples’ homes a special haven. We all need a haven, and a place to welcome others, and ourselves.

Perhaps you love numbers. Become an accountant or work at a bank. Help provide order and semblance to the operations and reports.

What would I do without my bank? Where would I put the deposits of donations for UniversalGiving? We need you, and we need a good banker.

You love sports. Play that game with integrity and enthusiasm! With the greatest sportsmanship. You will be a model for everyone watching, your colleagues, the audience, the referees, and any children present. Modeling positive energy and ethics, you can’t lose.


So much of life is simply how we live each moment. It’s how we govern each activity.

You serve by being kind. You serve by following your passion. You serve by being true to yourself. Don’t do what you think you should do; do what you are created to do. You will find all types of wonderful people needing your inspiration and services, in ways you’ve never imagined.

And remember, the most important is “who you be.” Did you live kindly, with integrity, with joy today?

That’s the greatest service to our world, and open to all.

Take the time,


The Classic Pamela Positive: Loyalty to Those Not Present

“One of the most important ways to manifest integrity is to be loyal to those who are not present.   In doing so, we build the trust of those who are present.  When you defend those who are absent, you retain the trust of those present.”

–Stephen Covey

Stephen Covey is a speaker and author, writer of The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People.  His work focuses primarily on leadership, family and living with principle.  He is a professor at the Jon M. Huntsman School of Business at Utah State University.  He and his wife, Sandra, have nine children and fifty-two grandchildren.

The Classic Pamela Positive: “Yet to Begin” – Martha Stewart

I never thought about where I would end up. In fact, much of my life and life’s work is yet to begin.

— Martha Stewart

Martha Stewart is the founder of Martha Stewart Living Omnimedia, known for her home, crafts and cooking advice.  She is especially known for her TV show, her Martha Stewart Living magazine, and for her cookbooks.

The Classic Pamela Positive: Thinking of the Things in My Life That Bring Me Pleasure Is a Peaceful and Positive Way to Start the Day. – Warren Bennis

“Thinking of the things in my life that bring me pleasure is a peaceful and positive way to start the day — and a much better way to deal with a perceived failure than to ruminate on it.  When you’re down, think of the things you have to look forward to. When you are no longer in the grip of the mishap, then you are ready to reflect on it…  After reflection, the learning of the past is known, and the solution of the experience — the course of action we must take as a result — becomes clear. ”

— Warren Bennis

Warren Bennis is a pioneer in Leadership studies, writing numerous influential books on the subject, including Leaders and Leading For a Lifetime.  He is a business professor at the University of Southern California.  In 2007, BusinessWeek named him one of the top ten thought leaders in business.

A Solution to Any Relationship Problem: What Abraham Lincoln Did

“You can have no conflict without being yourselves the aggressors…

Though passion may have strained it must not break our bonds of affection.”

— Abraham Lincoln


No matter how we feel we have been wronged, let’s follow Lincoln’s wise advice.

At a minimum, we can pause before we take action.

We slow down to determine the right pathway.

Even if we take a stance for what is right, we must come not from a  space of ourselves  being right.

Taking action simply because we are right does not serve the end.  Taking action because we feel wronged most certainly doesn’t.

It wins no battles.  Your opponent, who is indeed your friend, will not feel heard, respected, even loved.

We must step back and come from a space of calm and centeredness, expecting the best for both parties. Then, listening as to what that next step should be, we will be led.  Your response, then, is not a reaction; it is thoughtful.   It is not ever in retaliation, for no law endorses it.  It is of pure motive, as Abraham Lincoln speaks to “the better angels of our nature.”

It does not matter if you are in politics, business, a personal relationship, in a family.  It all applies.  It’s a law of nature that allows us to keep that “Union” that Abraham Lincoln fought so dearly for, for our country. Thus by his example and success, we too can take a stand to preserve the union of any relationship in our lives.

Abraham Lincoln served as the 16th President of the United States, during the Civil War.  He was instrumental in ending slavery and is admired for his commitment to national unity, equal rights, liberty, and democracy in America.  He is also known for his humble background, self-education, and skill with writing and rhetoric.  He was  not a member of any one organized religion, but he frequently used Biblical imagery and references in his writing and speaking, and referenced a Providence who had a higher purpose.  The Civil War and the deaths of two of his children led him near the end of his life to more frequently speak of dependence on God.

Quote Source: Lincoln’s First Inaugural Address, quoted by Bob Buford in his newsletter article, “Prayers of Three Great Men in Unsettled Times.”

The Classic Pamela Positive: Every Problem…

“Every problem becomes a stimulus to wake up.”

— John Robinson

John Robinson is a retired psychologist who has written books and articles about psychology, spirituality, and the topic of finding Heaven on Earth.  His recent books include Finding Heaven Here.