Monthly Archives: November 2012

The Pamela Positive: Wisdom, Philosophy, Greatness

“Keep me away from the wisdom which does not cry, the philosophy which does not laugh and the greatness which does not bow before children.”

— Kahlil Gibran

What a beautiful quote from Kahlil Gibran, a philosopher and leader who was so conscious of living in tune with nature, our feelings and our sincerest intentions.

Kahlil Gibran was born in Lebanon in 1883 and emigrated to the United States as a young man.  He is best known for his work of philosophical essays, The Prophet.  He is the third best-selling poet in the world, after Shakespeare and Lao-Tzu–excellent company to be in!

The Pamela Positive: Start Your Life Out With Sugar

According to a Persian tradition, wedding guests sprinkle the new bride and groom with sugar.  It means that everyone is wishing them sweetness in life as they start out on their journey together.

Whether we are married, single, have wonderful friends, are in college or retired, may we all “sprinkle sugar” on each other each day.  Let’s encourage that sweetness to reign in our daily lives, every day!

Here is more background on beautiful Persian wedding traditions.

“We Must Not, in Trying to Think About How We Can Make a Big Difference, Ignore…” – Marion Wright Edelman

“We must not, in trying to think about how we can make a big difference, ignore the small daily difference we can make which, over time, adds up to big differences that we often cannot foresee.”
– Marian Wright Edelman

So we take action, and do good today. That might mean listening, writing a thank you note, smiling, or just maintaining peace in our thought. There are so many simple things to do!

Heart,
Pamela

Marian Wright Edelman is the president and founder of the Children’s Defense Fund. She was an active participant in the Civil Rights Movement, and the first African-American woman admitted to the Mississippi Bar. She provided legal aid to Civil Rights activists in Mississippi during the 1960s. In 1968, she moved to Washington D.C., and founded the Children’s Defense Fund in 1973, advocating for the rights of vulnerable children, including those in foster care, disabled, homeless or abused. Marian met Peter Edelman while touring Mississippi’s slums with Robert Kennedy and Joseph Clark; Edelman was an assistant to Kennedy. Marian and Peter were married in 1968, and they have three grown children.

The Pamela Positive: Christopher Reeve’s Progression of Dreams

“At first dreams seem impossible, then improbable, then inevitable.”

– Christopher Reeve

What a lovely quote…and a good reminder for us all…

Christopher Reeve (1952-2004) was an American actor and activist.  As an actor, he is best known for his portrayal of Superman.  Reeve was married to Dana Morosini and had three children, two from a previous relationship.  In 1995, Reeve was injured in a horse-riding accident which shattered vertebrae in his spine and left him a quadriplegic.  He became an influential activist for individuals with spinal injuries, bringing attention to the cause through speaking and media, and founding the Christopher and Dana Reeve Foundation.  Reeve inspired many with his personal story of persevering through his physical challenges.  He made his directorial debut after his injury, and also performed in small acting roles, including on the Superman-based TV show, Smallville.  He authored two autobiographical books after his injury, Still Me and Nothing Is Impossible.

Pamela’s Favorite…Pamela Positive: “What’s Important to You Is Important to Me”

Pamela’s Favorite…Pamela Positive

“What’s Important To You Is Important To Me”

This is one of my favorite statements.  It helps me understand and sincerely care about others.  When we truly listen to our family, friends, partners, team mates, improv players, then we can really hear…what’s important.

Sometimes it might be a clean kitchen.  For others, it might be taking the dog for a walk or getting the car cleaned.  Or it might be that you showed up at your daughter’s gymnastics recital. And sometimes, sitting down and listening to your boyfriend, while not multitasking and cleaning the dishes at the same time, may be the biggest sign of attention. It can even be as small as keeping your desk clean at work because you know it inspires your manager.

The point is, we all fall into habits.  These habits are what are most comfortable, and convenient, for us.  They are our priorities. But they are not necessarily important to others.  Instead, we need to take a look at what motivates others.

So even if we can live with a messy desk, if we know the manager is inspired to see an ordered workspace, then we can try to rise to that new standard.  If it bothers our companion that we’re doing something else while he’s talking about a serious issue, then we need to stop and sit down, and give our undivided attention.  If it makes a difference to our mom that we check the stove one more time before we leave the kitchen, then we make her feel cared for, and can do it again.

These are the small and important ways that we can let someone know they are important to us.

It’s the Substance of what builds or breaks down any relationship.

Many of us have felt that overwhelmingly warm feeling when someone does something for us… It specifically hits our hearts.  “Ah…how grateful I am that they took out the recycling!  I love an ordered home…”  It’s something that puts you at  peace.  And that positive energy allows you to give more.

“What’s Important to You is Important to Me.”

What a beautiful way to live…