Monthly Archives: September 2012

The Pamela Positive: “We Need Each Other” – Sue Monk Kidd

“When a suffering is shared, its weight is divided; and when a joy is shared, the delight is multiplied.  We need each other.”

– Sue Monk Kidd, First Light, Chapter: Availability.

Sue Monk Kidd is a writer, novelist, and memoirist. She grew up in the Southern United States and her hometown of Sylvester, Georgia influenced her first and best-known book The Secret Life of Bees. As a worldwide acclaimed author, her fictional works are concentrated on the oppositions and successes of women. Kidd is inspired by Henry David Thoreau, Kate Chopin, Thomas Merton, Martha Burke, and Carl Jung as role models.

The Pamela Positive: “The Best Way Out is Always Through” – Robert Frost

“The best way out is always through.”
– Robert Frost

Robert Frost (1874-1963) was a highly-regarded poet known for his depiction of rural life.  He published his first poem in high school.  He attended Harvard but did not graduate due to illness; he received an honorary degree from Harvard posthumously, as well as more than 40 other honorary degrees.  Though Frost grew up in the city, he lived on farms later in his life.  He was a professor at Amherst College, and at Middlebury College for 42 years.  Some of his best-known poems include “The Road Not Taken,” “Stopping by Woods on a Snowy Evening,” and “Nothing Gold Can Stay.”

This particular quote is from the poem “A Servant to Servants” (1914). Many of Frost’s poems explore the splendor of the outdoors. However, “A Servant to Servants” is a contrast to the typical Frostian nature poem. Its speaker is the wife of a hard-working farmer who feels trapped in her life that seems meaningless. She explains her monotonous daily routine. The poem is written in iambic pentameter, although it varies in meter with no apparent rhyme scheme. A constant symbol in this poem is nature representing freedom, but it is a freedom that the speaker cannot attain.


Even if Your Country is Being Bombed, You Can Become World Famous, and Make a Difference

Novak Djokovic has been the World’s #1 Tennis player.  He’s won 5 Grand Slam Singles Tennis Titles.   An honor to his homeland of Serbia, he is the first male tennis champion to win a Major Singles Title.

Yet it wasn’t always that way.  In the late 90s, his Serbian homeland was being incessantly bombed. He had every right to cower, and simply survive. To not think of anything else but the next day.

And he did think of the next day:  The day he would win Wimbledon.   He dreamed of Wimbledon, and Winning It.

School was out.
Instead of goofing off…
He practiced.

and he dreamed…
Again and Again…
of Wimbledon.

Winning IT.

So days were on the court and nights in the basement, a bomb shelter.
With time … the bombing stopped.
His skills increased.

He won in Europe, then abroad, then became the #1 Tennis Player in the World.

If something seems to stop you, figure out what you should pay attention to.  Should it be noise, the bombing?  Or should it be something you can devote yourself to?  It can be writing, being kind, learning chess, reading literature, appreciating all the good around us.

And if you want to take it a step further… then you can also bring joy to people’s lives by making them laugh!  Check out his hilarious impersonations of two of his fellow tennis colleagues, Sharapova and Nadal:

Novak Djokovic (born May 22, 1987) is a former World No.1 Serbian professional tennis player who is ranked World No. 2. He has won 5 Grand Slam singles titles, is the first male player representing Serbia to win a Major singles title, and is the youngest player in the open era to have reached the semifinals of all four Grand Slam events, separately and consecutively. He won the bronze medal in singles at the Beijing Olympics in 2008. Several tennis critics and former and current players consider Djokovic to be one of the greatest tennis players of all time.

Djokovic started playing tennis at the age of four. A self-described fan of languages, Djokovic can speak his native Serbian, English, German and Italian. He has been dating Jelena Ristic since 2005, is a Serbian Orthodox Christian, and is a keen fan of the Serbian football club Red Star Belgrade. He is known for his humorous off-court impersonations of fellow players, many of whom are his friends. Owing to his extroverted personality, Djokovic became a fixture on entertainment-based TV talk shows around the globe immediately upon achieving a measure of prominence via results on the tennis court.

Why Certain People Are In Your Life

These words have been inspiring to me, and I am glad to share them with you.

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.  When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly.  They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.  They may seem like a godsend, and they are.  They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.  Sometimes they die.  Sometimes they walk away.  Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand.  What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.  The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.  They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.  They may teach you something you have never done.  They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.  Believe it!  It is real!  But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.  Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person (any way); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.  It is said that love is blind, but friendship is clairvoyant.

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