Monthly Archives: October 2011

The Pamela Positive: “A Good Leader Remembers Who the True Leader Is.” – Tony Dungy

“…a good leader remembers who the true leader is.”

-Tony Dungy, football player and coach

A good leader remembers that their capabilities only take them so far.  A really good leader realizes their capabilities comes from both a divine source, and numerous people’s positive influence.

None of us are spectacular in our own right.

We possess qualities of intellect, goodness, judgment, kindness which are from a much more divine source, a source that cannot be contained in one person. No person holds ownership on all these qualities. We get it from something – and something much greater.

Then, there are all the positive people in our lives. They shaped us, modeled their lives for us. They listened to us, encouraged us, and allowed us to reach our own, new level of excellence.

“A good leader remembers who the true leader is.”   When we do this, our leadership rises to an entirely new level, as if we have plugged into a higher power source. We indeed have. Thank you, Tony Dungy, for your life of leadership which you have given to us all.

Tony Dungy played football for the Pittsburgh Steelers, the San Francisco 49ers and the New York Giants.  He has been head coach for the Tampa Bay Buccaneers and the Indianapolis Colts.  In 2007, he became the first black American head coach to win the Super Bowl.  Since retiring from coaching in 2009, he has become a football analyst for NBC.  He has been a member for the President’s Council on Service and Civic Participation, as well as an advisor on fatherhood for the Advisory Council on Faith-Based and Neighborhood Partnerships.

The Pamela Positive: Promise Yourself

Promise Yourself

By Christian D. Larson


Promise yourself

To be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind.

To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person you meet.

To make all your friends feel that there is something special in them.

To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true.

To think only of the best, to work only for the best, and to expect only the best.

To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own.

To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.

To wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living creature you meet a smile.

To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others.

To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.


Christian D. Larson (1874-1962) was an influential leader in the New Thought movement, focused on the power of harnessing one’s thoughts.  He published a successful periodical, as well as forty books.

The Pamela Positive: Emerson – “Success is…a PLUS condition”

“Success is constitutional; depends on a plus condition of mind and body, on power of work, on courage.”

–Ralph Waldo Emerson

Emerson shows us that success is thinking positively in our minds, with our bodies, our thoughts.  We have to think positively, proactively about with ourselves, towards our work, and each moment.

Then he counsels us to add a little courage… and I would add modesty…

and off we are to humble success.

Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803-1882) was an American writer, lecturer and poet.  He was a leader in the Transcendentalist movement, and a founder of the Transcendental Club, which included members such as Henry David Thoreau and Bronson Alcott.  Transcendentalism emphasied the importance of individuality, and the presence of the divine in all things.  Among Emerson’s most famous writings are his essay, “Nature,” and his book, Self-Reliance.

The Pamela Positive: Research Gratitude

Here’s a great research project on one of the most important aspects of health: Being Grateful!

Robert A. Emmons (UC Davis) and Michael E. McCullough (University of Miami) are on a long-term research project, scientifically exploring “gratitude, its causes, and its potential consequences for human health and well-being.”

Here are just a few of their findings:

  • A daily gratitude intervention (self-guided exercises) with young adults resulted in higher reported levels of the positive states of alertness, enthusiasm, determination, attentiveness and energy compared to a focus on hasles or a downward social comparison.
  • Most people report being grateful (average rating of nearly 6 on a 7 point scale).
  • Grateful people report higher levels of positive emotions, life satisfaction, vitality, optimism and lower levels of depression and stress.  The disposition toward gratitude appears to enhance pleasant feeling states more than it diminishes unpleasant emotions.  Grateful people do not deny or ignore the negative aspects of life.
  • Grateful individuals place less importance on material goods; they are less likely to judge their own and others’ success in terms of possessions accumulated; they are less envious of wealthy persons; and are more likely to share their possessions with others relative to less grateful persons.

Read more about the report here.

Thank you, Robert and Michael, for this important research!

The Pamela Pensive: Stopping All Evil

“We can’t stop all evil in the world, but how we treat one another is entirely up to us.”

–Barack Obama, in a speech following the Tuscon, Arizona shooting, January, 2011


Let’s take this to heart.  We can stop anything negative in our world by watching our own world.

Every comment, every action, and important, too — every thought — contributes to a stronger, more caring world. It’s up to us to create this world, and we start with our own.

Live in the world you want to be in…be that positive catalyst. It’s no small task, and yes, it is a grand call. But how wonderful that the opportunity is open to everyone to help contribute to make our world beautiful and caring, at every moment.


Barack Obama is the forty-fourth President of the United States of America, and the first African-American president.  He has worked as a community organizer and a civil rights attorney in Chicago, and was a Senator for Illinois.  He won the Nobel Peace Prize in 2009, and is the author of Dreams from My Father and The Audacity of Hope.