Monthly Archives: June 2011

The Pamela Positive: “The Greatest Salesman in the World” by Og Mandino

I will persist until I succeed.

The prizes of life are at the end of each journey, not near the beginning; and it is not given to me to know how many steps are necessary in order to reach my goal. Failure I may still encounter at the thousandth step, yet success hides behind the next bend in the road. Never will I know how close it lies unless I turn the corner.

Always will I take another step. If that is of no avail I will take another, and yet another. In truth, one step at a time is not too difficult.

I will persist until I succeed.

I will be liken to the rain drop which washes away the mountain; the ant who devours a tiger; the star which brightens the earth; the slave who builds a pyramid. I will build my castle one brick at a time for I know that small attempts, repeated, will complete any undertaking.

I will persist until I succeed.

I will toil and I will endure. I will ignore the obstacles at my feet and keep mine eyes on the goals above my head, for I know that where dry desert ends, green grass grows.

I will persist until I succeed.

Each nay I hear will bring me closer to the sound of yea. Each frown I meet only prepares me for the smile to come. Each misfortune I encounter will carry in it the seed of tomorrow’s good luck. I must have the night to appreciate the day.

I will persist until I succeed.

So long as there is breath in me, that long will I persist. For now I know one of the greatest principles of success; if I persist long enough I will win.  I will persist.  I will win.

 

Og Mandino was an American author who learned from his own challenging experiences to share helpful lessons with others.  He wrote The Greatest Salesman in the World, which contains ten principles intended to alter one’s life for the better.  The third principle is “I will persist until I succeed.”  His primary message is that all people should appreciate their own value, and direct their lives with confidence.  He wrote a total of nineteen books.

The Pamela Positive: Philanthropy at the Drycleaners

Earlier this week I shared about philanthropy as “the love of people,” as a daily practice.

One day I had a pivotal experience that helped me be a better ‘daily philanthropist.’  Each day, I make a ‘to do’ list. The list might range from contacting a corporate client, to running an errand at the drycleaners. Checking off tese items certainly gave me a nice sense of satisfaction!

During this day, I found myself particularly busy. I rushed into the drycleaners. I swooped in to pick up my clothes and left a bundle of clothes on the counter.  “There!” I told myself triumphantly.  “I fit in the drycleaners before a meeting. I have gotten one more item off my list!”  Accomplishment, I thought; and yet I didn’t feel it.

What I realized is that the dry cleaners wasn’t an errand.

No, it was not a ‘to-do.’

It was an opportunity to love.

Life is not about lists.  We aren’t programmed to just get things done. Instead, each activity, each to-do, each task, is actually an experience of loving.  This is especially true because each experience usually means interacting with someone else. And when we do this in a calm, present, joyful way, that’s living.   And it’s also the true spirit of philanthropy. Loving and be present with others, with mankind.

As one great thinker wrote, a person “…is a marvel, a miracle in the universe….With selfless love, he inscribes on the heart of humanity and transcribes on the page of reality the living, palpable presence – the might and majesty! – of all goodness. He lives for all mankind.”*

Rushing in and out of the dry cleaners, I had missed a valuable opportunity. What I needed to do was connect with my dry cleaners, know them by name, greet them warmly, and sincerely ask how they are doing. Now I know how Hao is doing, and we have a great relationship of warmth and kindness.  I look forward to our visits.

Writing a check is only one type of philanthropy. I’ve found that it exists at the drycleaners, and pretty much anywhere we want.  Where does it exist for you?

 

*Mary Baker Eddy

The Pamela Positive: “Do What You Think Is Right and Interesting”

Good advice from Adam Rapoport, as featured in Gwyneth Paltrow’s newsletter, GOOP:

“I’ve always believed that if you want to do something well and create something worthwhile, you’ve got to do it your way. You’ve got to commit to it and believe in yourself. As a writer, whenever you try to write in someone else’s style or voice – or give the editor what you think he or she wants instead of what you want- it always turns out badly. You should do what you think is right and interesting.”

Adam Rapoport is the editor-in-chief of Bon Appetit.  Read his full interview in GOOP, about Bon Appetit, food and family.

 

The Pamela Positive: Philanthropy – Start Loving Others Now

I am saddened to see philanthropy mean ‘money.’ It’s the love of people. And what I love about this definition is that it is accessible to anyone, at anytime. We can all be philanthropists. Whether you are getting the drycleaning, having a conversation with your boss or coworker, or saying a kind hello to a homeless person.

Philanthropy should be, and is, accessible to all.  I love that we can start loving others now!

The Pamela Pensive: Don’t Hide Behind Your Strength…

A man can be a lonely character who hides behind his strength.

– by Amnon Bar-Tur (Co-Founder & Managing Director at SafeHarbor Capital Partners LLC)

Don’t hide behind your strength. But is a tough exterior really strength?  Or simply isolating…

Better perhaps that we acknowledge humbly where we need to grow. We can then receive help to face our challenges. Strength may indeed be found in numbers, in a team, in a friend.

It’s a way to work together  —  to help one another.  Then strength is joyfully knowing you can surmount your obstacles, because you have people who will help you, and you can also help.

Join a team in order to experience the joy of life, caring about others, and being cared for.

The Pamela Positive: “Hire Stars…Support Them…Help Them Be Amazing.”

Patty Azzarello’s astute management advice speaks to the vigilance one has to have in building a team.

You need a strong team that is supported.  They need to stay focused on the high level decisions.  If they are dragged down by management issues, your organization won’t reach its goals, nor the impact your service should have.

Patty’s comments below:
Effective leaders build a team underneath them that is so capable that they are free to solve higher-order problems.

Don’t cover for a weak team: If you’re personally stepping in to do the work because you have weak spots (team members who are not capable or motivated enough to step up to do more), you hold yourself back and fail to deliver high value. Hire stars, give them big work, support them, and let them excel. Help them be amazing.

The Pamela Positive: Audrey Hepburn’s Tips for Beauty…It’s All Inside

I love these beauty tips by Audrey Hepburn because they are accessible to us all.  How could Beauty be constrained?  We don’t have to wait for it, prepare for it or create it.  So much of beauty is how we are, each moment.   I look forward to hearing about your beautiful moments today!

For attractive lips, speak words of kindness.

For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people.

For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry.

For beautiful hair, let a child run their fingers through it once a day.

For poise, walk with the knowledge that you never walk alone.

People, more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeemed.

Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, you will find one at the end of each of your arms. As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself and the other for helping others.