Monthly Archives: December 2010

The Pamela Positive: Do Unto Others

Do Unto Others is from ancient times.  Hearing different versions from philosophers and religious leaders make us realize the commonality of Truth.  What a wonderful way to tie the world together!

“May I do unto others as I would that they should do unto me.”
Plato, 5th century B.C.

“Do not do unto others all that which is not well for oneself.”
Zoroaster, 6th century B.C.

“Hurt not others with that which pains thyself.”
Buddha, 6th century B.C.

“Do not do unto others what you do not want others to do unto you.”
Confucius, 6th century B.C.

“Do not unto others what thou wouldst not they should do unto thee.”
Rabbi Hillel, 1st century B.C.

“Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.”
Jesus, 1st century A.D.

“None of you truly have the faith if you do not desire for your brother that which you desire for yourself.”
Muhammad, 6th century A.D.

“Lay not on any soul a load which ye would not wish to be laid upon you and desire not for anyone the things you would not desire for yourself.”
Baha’u’llah, 19th century A.D.

The Pamela Positive: Celebrate the Beauty of Balance!

I hope I believe in balance. And part of that is identifying and knowing your team members’ goals outside of work.

It’s important to have outside lives and interests.  You have to begin by recognizing those first for yourself.  Your team will see you modeling this balance and how it makes you a whole, fully giving person.

We try to encourage our team to have outside interests, and to share their goals. We know UniversalGiving can’t be everything for everyone (even me ). And so I love to hear about the other interests—how can we help further them? One person wants to be a writer. Another wants to go into aerospace. If I know this, perhaps someday I can help them. I can watch out for a person or introduction that might be helpful.  Or even in a small way, I can find a helpful article in my daily journey of reading.

We’re all here to help each other.  It can happen in so many ways.  Focus on encouraging a balanced life and sharing of one another’s goals.  Let’s see how much we can help each other.  It will amaze you how much it energizes your organization, and propels your vision forward.  But most importantly, it honors the other person holistically, just as you would want to be honored.

The Pamela Positive: “When You’re at the Table, You’re Open and Your Defenses Are Down”

“People want that gathering together. The table is magical. When you’re at the table, you’re open and your defenses are down.”

– Lidia Bastianich, host of PBS “Lidia’s Italy”

Mealtimes seem to be a time of the past. We eat in our cars and desks or even holding a powerbar walking out the door… and yet Lidia points out how we can find deep caring and nourishment at the table.  It’s not just sharing food, but also sharing of our hearts and feelings.  It’s a time to be a sounding board and to have sounding boards…from people who truly care about you.  It’s a time to relax, and yet also profound as some of the most important issues in your life may come out in a casual way.

Don’t miss this time with your loved ones.  “The table is magical.”  Or I might add  “The people at the table are magical.”

The Pamela Positive: Better To Make a Few Mistakes Being Natural

“Better to make a few mistakes being natural than to do everything out of a feeling of worry.” 
The Common Sense Book of Baby and Child Care, Dr. Benjamin Spock, 1946

It’s better to make a few mistakes being natural.   It’s important to be who we are in a natural, real way.  If we get everything right, and are absolutely perfect, but it’s done with anxiety…. then it actually isn’t right, is it?

What we do needs to be done with care, love, calm.  With joy and sincerity…and since Dr. Benjamin Spock was a famous leader in parenting in the 40s, I’ll take his advice not only for parenting, but also for management.  And for our communications, how we live our lives, how we treat others…

Dr. Spock was an influential writer on childrearing, who advocated for increased flexibility and affection in the treatment of infants and children.  He was also an Olympic gold medalist in rowing, and a peace advocate.

The Pamela Positive: Why Indonesian Street Children Love the Internet

On the streets of Indonesia, children often compete, gang against gang, in violent war.  Many of them don’t have a home, much less a bed, to call their own.

But a new night life is emerging in Indonesia.  Starting at 10 pm until 5 am, many cafes, which have internet access and computers, are hosting street children.  They provide a special offer to “spend their time online with a cup of coffee and a piece of bread.”  It costs just one dollar.

Instead of becoming involved in crime, or being the victim of one, now children are able to find a safe haven.  They can not only protect themselves, but also grow their future.  Children are connecting with their peers in other countries…they are practicing new languages…finding new friendships which are caring and nonviolent.

Would that we could find a safe haven for every one of us; one that provides a hot beverage, a morsel of food, protection and the opportunity to connect with others in a kind and caring way.  Who would have ever thought that the internet is saving lives in Indonesia?