Category Archives: Giving

The Burger King at Vermont

Stopped for a coke and as I leave a black man asks if I have any money, miss. And responding to his edged voice I say I will instead buy him food. And he would like a strawberry shake. I’ll get you something else too.

I probably spent about 40 minutes at this Burger King. Blacks and Hispanics work together and are cheerful. This is where everyman lives. I cannot escape going down here for this is where my heart enables my life to feel. One skinny young man putting the food together in a bag has uniformed pants hanging precariously on nothing; a young Hispanic girl putting the hamburgers together in the back smiles brilliantly, glowingly; I practice my horrible Spanish with the cute swarms of Hispanic children by my feet, and smile at their mother. How amazing these people are, first of all because they are bilingual, but mostly because they truly live a life of challenges but they live for family and with unpretention.

So outside I give the food to this black man. And he says thank you miss and I shrug it off because accolade is out of place. I drive off and honk and his long strong arm rises with a firm wave and the most beautifully freeing smile. I wish I knew his name.

I am the winner. I win, and I have not seen or given enough. I filled a human need of hunger and how innately simple that is, to feed another individual. It is not a responsibility it is below it. It should be necessary taking care that is inseparable from self. But it is not. We do separate. We know the givens and the given-not. And we are afraid of demands and want to give on our own time, when we want. It is then not a beautiful act.

So he gave more. Of himself he expressed first a sense of boldness, then trust, then friendliness. He gave me a connection to everyman; I filled a fleeting human need. He enlivened soul, dispelled the disparity for my dime. I became nourished everyman, he took away my misunderstanding hunger. Let me be everyman. Let me know alike.

The Pamela Positive: “Do Great Deeds with Little Means” – Russell Conwell

“Greatness consists in doing great deeds with little means in the accomplishment of vast purposes.

It consists in the private ranks of life, in helping one’s fellows, in benefiting one’s neighborhood, in blessing one’s own city and state.”

- Russell Conwell

It’s that simple.

Give something today,

Russell Conwell (February 15, 1843 – December 6, 1925) was an American Baptist minister, orator, philanthropist, lawyer, and writer. He is best remembered as the founder and first president of Temple University in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania and for his inspirational lecture Acres of Diamonds. The son of Massachusetts farmers, Conwell attended Yale University and after graduating enlisted in the Union Army during the American Civil War. He was ordained as a Baptist minister in 1880, and delivered his famous speech “Acres of Diamonds” over 6,000 times around the world. The central idea of the work is that one need not look elsewhere for opportunity, achievement, or fortune – the resources to achieve all good things are present in one’s own community. Conwell’s capacity to establish Temple University and his other civic projects largely derived from the income that he earned from the speech. The published version has been regarded as a classic of New Thought literature since the 1870s.

Connection of Love

The Classic Pamela Positive: The Days of Linear Giving Are Over

The days of “linear giving” are over — what I mean is, it’s not “I give you this, you give me that.”   That’s Linear Giving and it doesn’t always happen.


First, you can’t truly give with the expectation that you are going to get something in return.  It’s just not the right motivation.  And it will upset the balance of giving, turning it into something it’s not…

We need to give because we sincerely want to. Because it’s the right thing to do. It’s helpful, kind, nourishing to the world. And ultimately it does help ourselves… we feel nourished and uplifted by the mere act of being generous.

And it won’t stop there. More good will continue to come to you, in ways you never expected.  From different places, different sources, and in unique ways!  It’s truly quite exciting…to see good unfold, when we let it go.

So let’s not give and expect back. It’s not A gives to B, and B to gives to A.

It’s A gives to B.  And then A gives to C and D.  Then X, M, Q and V give back to A at different times and ways in the future.

It’s circular, spherical, timeless, unbound, everconnected giving… which is taking place, and always has been.

Learning from Wealthy Givers: How It Affects Our Personal Life (Part Three)

Part Three in a Series

We’re continuing in our blog series, Learning from Wealthy Givers: How it Affects our Personal Life

This is our last post, which focuses on how we can learn from wealthy givers.  Their actions can be our actions, regardless of whether we are writing a check or not.  It’s about the qualities we are expressing.

In the Chronicle of Philanthropy article, wealthy donors gave the most to Education at 27%.  Other areas that came up were health, the environment, and international.

We can learn from this focus on Education.  How can we help support someone by learning today?

We could help a child with homework or be a volunteer tutor for a student trying to get their  GED and highschool diploma equivalent.  We can impart an insight with a friend who is struggling, sharing with them on the goodness life has for them.  We can help someone trying to succeed in their entrepreneurial endeavor by “educating” them on some of our lessons learned on our journey.

We are all learning, and all growing.  We educate people every day, and they educate us.  Let’s invest in learning and growing together, each step of the way. Thank you to wealthy donors, and our lessons on how they perform their philanthropy.  Their principles are a great example to us all, in any endeavor!

HR Executives Say Volunteerism Is Important to Organization Culture…

Giving of yourself…

Makes you:

* A more selfless team member

* A greater team member

* A better leader

* A more compassionate and sensitive manager.

And the best…

Just a better person.  

Volunteer Today!!

Learning from Wealthy Givers: How It Affects Our Personal Life (Part Two)

Learning from Wealthy Givers: How it Affects our Personal Life
Part Two in a Series

We’re continuing in our blog series, Learning from Wealthy Givers: How it Affects our Personal Life (Read Part One)

As we have talked about philanthropy, the point is about caring for people. It’s being present, sharing, giving and supporting. These qualities are regardless of how much money we give. And we can certainly do these things without financially donating. So here is the latest trend from wealthy givers, and how it impacts our lives, too.

In the Chronicle of Philanthropy article, wealthy donors changed their gifting based on our challenging economy. The qualities expressed here are: wholistic support, listening, and adjusting.

Donation Adjustments made due to bad economy

• 32% gave more for general operational support
Sometimes we have a view on how we want to give to a friend or colleague. Perhaps we have been helping them in one way. Yet it might be time to support them wholistically as a full person, not just in the way we think or are used to.

• 30% increased donations for special programs at a non-profit
We need to be good listeners. Let’s be sensitive and turn our attention to an area we can help. This might be a “special program,” initiative, or goal in your spouse’s or child’s life.

• 29% switched giving priorities

When we know this, we move. We make the change, we make the shift, even if we’re used to what we do. Get our of our habit, even if it is good.

Philanthropy is the love of people. We can learn from wealthy donors, and how they love of people. Their principles are a great example to us all, in any endeavor!

America’s Wealthiest Donors: How They Give and How they View Non-Profits

From The Chronicle of Philanthropy (Nov. 2012)