I Wanted to Be There: The Importance of Being There, Even if They Don’t Need YouSeptember 10, 2012
People move out of a country. Friends change jobs. Children move out of homes.
You might think that they don’t need you any more. Yet that is the gift and beauty of being there for people. It’s extra support. The most beautiful kind.
At some stage in life, we understand we can take care of ourselves. Or at least, it seems so. We can find a job, sign a lease for an apartment, read books on how to raise children, and ask counselors on many levels for advice.
Yet really living is taking care of each other. Being present to guide, support and encourage at important moments. Ms. Kibbe’s meeting with her daughter, written about below, was not a meeting convening world leaders. Yet it was very important for her daughter. It was helpful to her growth, confidence, and peace of mind to know she could be supported by her mom.
We all need this kind of support at different times in our lives. What you think isn’t necessary might be your greatest need for survival. Taking care of one another is an irreplaceable fount of wisdom, positivity and brightness in our lives.
Here’s an excerpt from Madora Kibbe’s article in The Christian Science Monitor:
An End to Endless Waiting
I was sitting in a cafe on Bleecker Street. In New York City. Waiting while my daughter was having an interview for a summer internship. I really didn’t have to be there. My daughter was 19. She could cross the street on her own, without holding my hand.
But I was there anyway, because she’d asked me and because I wanted to be there. Because independent young women still need their moms. And moms still need to be needed.